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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI have wept more in these past three months than in the prior decade. Not out and out
bawling, but tears trickling, voice breaking and breath caught in fits and starts. The trigger for my tears is not my own situation, but the unimaginable pain and loss and bone-crushing grief being visited upon others who have had their dearly beloveds torn away from them forever by a virus allowed to invade and spread virtually unchecked among people who assumed that such a tragedy could "never happen here".
Just now, I have watched and listened as a woman being interviewed on TV recounted the memories that she and her mother had shared by telephone as the mother lay dying of Covid 19 alone in a hospital---unreachable---unhuggable---where no parting kiss could be given. Holidays, weddings, sunsets over Lake Ontario: all these were lovingly recited in a soft but clear and steady voice. But, near the end of the interview, the reporter said that it broke his heart that she had not been able to hold her mother's hand and say goodbye at the end. And that broke her: the woman's face convulsed as she struggled mightily to get out "Me---TOO!" and her tears streamed.
I was blessed to be able to hold my Mom's hand as she died, but I felt that woman's pain. And, sitting alone, I wept again.
There MUST be consequences, folks. There MUST be consequences.
Initech
(100,174 posts)Thanks Trump!
onecaliberal
(33,035 posts)Yes, people need to pay.
LuckyCharms
(17,487 posts)Happens all the time. I just burst into tears. I don't know if you are a man or woman. I'm a man, and I'll start blubbering right in front of people. People say I don't "look like a man who would cry". I wear it as a badge of honor. If you're not crying, you're not paying attention.
MLAA
(17,386 posts)Harker
(14,148 posts)If you're not crying, you're not paying attention... or maybe you're short on empathy.
Thanks for the laughs... and the tears.
thecrow
(5,519 posts)My eyes were watering and weird sounds of grief were coming from my mouth.
I hear you. I feel so disturbed by any death but this now is so much it is surprising
that everybody isnt crying. The sadness is so all-pervasive.
Hermit-The-Prog
(33,629 posts)Karadeniz
(22,631 posts)ashredux
(2,612 posts)BigmanPigman
(51,717 posts)this may push some rational people over the edge to do something irrational, especially if they feel Lump is responsible for their loved one dying.
ashredux
(2,612 posts)He will have his day...but legally
redstatebluegirl
(12,265 posts)The ballot box is the way to go. Violence begets violence.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Were going to emerge out of this but everything we were used to will have gone away. Its going to take a long time to build our new normal, but at least well be building something from this.
Ilsa
(61,721 posts)I can't afford to let my family see me fall apart. It's already difficult, and getting worse for my autistic son who doesn't understand why I can't take him anywhere, not to therapy, his exercise classes, inside a restaurant, etc.
Horse with no Name
(33,959 posts)Im a nurse. I have no idea what Ive been exposed to.
My fear is I will never see her again. I dont want to carry a disease to her that could kill her.
Its breaking my heart.
And now, these monsters are advocating they we need to be willing to die to save the economy.
There needs to be a price paid for this.
Harker
(14,148 posts)should name that price.
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)a la izquierda
(11,803 posts)but just from the stress of uncertainty of it all. I have severe anxiety to begin with and I'm also a neurotic planner. I'm also living on two continents at once, preparing to move to Europe at the end of the year. The stress of trying to organize in uncertain times, but acting like everything will go according to plan is just...exhausting and terrifying.
I thank Tlaloc everyday (probably not quite the right Aztec god to pray to, but whatever) that my parents obey government orders and are healthy. I am thankful that I'm safe and my dog survived his surgery. I'm thankful that my estranged husband (with whom I still share a house) hasn't killed me as a result of my constant packing, cleaning, cooking, and crying.
I'm thankful for the DU community that assures me I'm not alone in the dark forest of my mind.
bucolic_frolic
(43,614 posts)in office and his maximum incompetence.
Very curious indeed.
warmfeet
(3,321 posts)I have never been so sad.
handmade34
(22,759 posts)so sad and so angry, at the same time
Grammy23
(5,816 posts)It is a site not associated in any way to the Covid 19 crisis but because of the nature of the pandemic everyone there has been impacted in one way or another. Recently a commenter mentioned several losses she had suffered due to the virus. A new person jumped on to say how off topic that was and several other comments she had read were off topic. It was breath taking in its coldness and callousness toward the people expressing their grief and sorrow.
We are all impacted by this unfolding horror. Some of us are more directly impacted and are experiencing grief on an unimaginable scale. To expect us to just hold it inside is ridiculous. We are human beings with feelings and emotions that define us as human. To deny that or expect that not to spill out into all aspects of our lives is a form of denial. I have seen usually calm, professional journalists become emotional on air trying to deliver a segment of the news that was especially disturbing. Even some health professionals have been unable to stifle their personal feelings while giving first hand accounts of treating and caring for the covid 19 patients.
We are a community of caring people or we would not bother with DU. We come here precisely because we are expressing our feelings with each other. Our hearts go out to you and many, many others as we all try to make our way through this life changing event. I hope this site will always be one where we can freely express to our fellow DUers the invents in our lives both good and bad. As has been said many times, We are all in this together. And for that reason we need to support each other through all the events in our lives. Even if they are sometimes off topic.
Dixc
(52 posts)Stressful to search for good thoughts in such a time. I agree, there must be consequences for those in positions that could take positive actions, but blatantly don't!
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