A problem with evangelicals and family bigots

[I_UndergroundPanther]

My aunt is the typical magat,she likes trump, she's evangelical,believes the prosperity crap and she's taking care of my mom.

My mom is dying. She has Supra nuclear palsy. She's very frail and my aunt has run ragged taking care of her,and she has treated her with amazing care.

I am transgender.My aunt calls me by my dead name and misgenders me constantly. It hurts. But I put up with it for the sake of my mom.

I don't hate her I pity her.
The misgendering hurts but I tolerate it for mom's sake.

Well I won't have to go there to visit my mom forever. I love my mom.
She's 90 years old,last August and she has deteriorated so much it's breaking my heart. Loretta does an excellent job of caring for her sister. But knowing she does not see me as her peer that I am to be disrespected because of her chosen beliefs is the most
disgusting thing that does not have to be that way. It makes me so sad.
She tells me she loves me but she does not respect me. So I question that love.the whole thing is sick.

I have a goatee and outing me as the wrong gender like that could put me in danger where she lives . It's dangerous because it's full of people who are just like her.

She refuses to see how her beliefs put me in danger if she misgenders me in public in Galax Virginia.

[TruckFump]

1. Can you take someone with you?

There is safety in numbers. Someone who understands and cares about you and where you find yourself right now?

My heart breaks for you. While your aunt is doing a wonderful job with you Mom. it is so wrong to treat you as less of a person because, simply put, you are who you are.

To me, that pretty much sums up what is wrong with Evangel Trump lovers -- they reject anything that is not a thinking, acting and living clone of what they approve.

Hope your Mom's journey is eased by having you close by.

[Maraya1969]

2. Maybe refer to her as "Him" a few times. See how she likes it.

I know it sounds very childish but sometimes it works. I had a stepkid years ago even though I wasn't married to her mother and she started being so brutal with me. Calling me names, insulting me every chance she got. It was horrible and she wouldn't stop.

So one day in front of the family I dished it back out to her. I can't even remember what I said but it was an insult that I knew would hurt her feelings.

That was the end of her insulting me. I don't think she realized how hurtful she was being until I showed her.

We are friends now after all these years.