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JEAN-BABETS, Stephen D. Age 30, of Amherst, formerly of Shutesbury, Greenfield, and Carver, Ma. unexpectedly passed away September 11, 2018. A graduate of Amherst Regional High School (2006), Stephen attended Fitchburg State College and was an aspiring lyricist. Beloved son of David H. Jean and Don Babets. Loving brother of Kenneth S. Jean-Babets of Greenfield; Patrick G. Jean-Babets of Hadley and George N. Jean-Babets of Newton. Much loved grandson of Henri and Doris Jean of Chicopee, Ma. and the late Donald J. and Betty L. Babets of Ohio. Adored godparent of Ylisia-Madison Caroline Stewart of Amherst. Nephew and cousin of family members in Maine, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Massachusetts, Georgia, Michigan, Tennessee, and Arizona. An ecumenical service in celebration of Steve's life will be held Sunday, September 23rd at 2:00 P.M. at the First Congregational Church in Amherst (165 Main St. Amherst, Ma).
In lieu of flowers, donations in Steve's memory can be made to help reduce funeral expenses at www.gofundme.com/steve-jeanbabets039-funeral-expenses
Memorial register at www.douglassfuneral.com
Va Lefty
(6,252 posts)The Blue Flower
(5,452 posts)My heart goes out to you. I know he was at the threshold of his life.
snowybirdie
(5,255 posts)for your tragic loss.
lagomorph777
(30,613 posts)Very tragic, whatever the circumstances.
Happyhippychick
(8,379 posts)Your beloved son was loved by many. I wish I had some better words to comfort you but I hope his memory will be a blessing.
backtoblue
(11,348 posts)salin
(48,955 posts)So very, very sorry for your loss.
Different Drummer
(7,685 posts)guillaumeb
(42,641 posts)As a parent of three, I can only imagine how this feels.
uppityperson
(115,681 posts)Jim__
(14,098 posts)NurseJackie
(42,862 posts)MontanaMama
(23,370 posts)No words, just well wishes during these difficult days.
CaliforniaPeggy
(149,853 posts)How terrible a loss this is. My heart goes out to you and yours as you absorb this shock.
Should you feel the need, please visit our Bereavement Group: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234
mountain grammy
(26,679 posts)malaise
(269,405 posts)No parent should have to bury a child.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,777 posts)My deepest condolences to you and David.
sheshe2
(84,113 posts)May Stephen rest in peace.
babylonsister
(171,117 posts)My sincerest condolences to you and yours.
Hassin Bin Sober
(26,374 posts)leftynyc
(26,060 posts)No parent should ever have to bury their child. I will put you all in my prayers.
dewsgirl
(14,961 posts)nolabear
(42,009 posts)🥀
mahatmakanejeeves
(57,806 posts)ZZenith
(4,137 posts)We lost our son. It seems an insurmountable loss, though it is not.
oasis
(49,509 posts)Solly Mack
(90,803 posts)TuxedoKat
(3,818 posts)For the loss of your beloved son Stephen.
Frustratedlady
(16,254 posts)There are no words that can make your loss easier to bear. May sweet memories help you and your family and friends get through this period of grief.
samnsara
(17,668 posts).I am so very sorry for your profound loss. (((hugs)))
chillfactor
(7,597 posts)my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
alwaysinasnit
(5,087 posts)stuffmatters
(2,574 posts)tblue37
(65,558 posts)demmiblue
(36,930 posts)murielm99
(30,792 posts)KT2000
(20,611 posts)Such a young man should not leave so soon.
Sorry to hear of your loss. He was far too young.
Andy823
(11,495 posts)nt
diva77
(7,690 posts)mnhtnbb
(31,429 posts)Every parent's nightmare. My heart goes out to you and your family.
orangecrush
(19,684 posts)Good man gone too soon.
hostalover
(447 posts)iluvtennis
(19,918 posts)BadgerMom
(2,773 posts)My thoughts are with you at this devastating, life-altering moment. May peace find you again.
pruple
(178 posts)So painful when our children pass before us. I wish you peace.
Leith
(7,818 posts)The best are taken from us too quickly.
BlueTexasMan
(166 posts)Sending prayers for reduction of your pain and hopes that your son is celebrating a new life.
TygrBright
(20,781 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)What a sweet looking young man. He has such a kind face. I can't imagine your devastation. You and your family are in my thoughts.
Vinca
(50,343 posts)KCDebbie
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sweetroxie
(776 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss.
yellerpup
(12,254 posts)I cannot imagine the loss.
Submariner
(12,516 posts)So sorry for your loss.
sinkingfeeling
(51,505 posts)boston bean
(36,228 posts)Tom Rinaldo
(22,919 posts)profound core loss with us. You know we deeply wish you any comfort and strength you can find to help get you and yours through this
TheBlackAdder
(28,266 posts).
You are experiencing my greatest fear.
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tenderfoot
(8,443 posts)progressoid
(50,035 posts)rurallib
(62,495 posts)no words can express the grief of losing a child.
hibbing
(10,119 posts)Tess49
(1,580 posts)kanda
(175 posts)I am so very, very sorry for your loss. A parent should never have to bury a child, and yet it happens. It's horribly unfair. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Hold each other close. Be together. Love one another. Blessings of peace.
njhoneybadger
(3,910 posts)JohnnyLib2
(11,213 posts)I'm so sorry.
chowder66
(9,117 posts)Kurt V.
(5,624 posts)my best to you and yours
ms liberty
(8,635 posts)Healing vibes to you and your family.
BeckyDem
(8,361 posts)So very sorry, what a heartbreak, so young!
skylucy
(3,749 posts)cate94
(2,817 posts)Sending thoughts, prayers and hugs, to you and your family at this very difficult time. Im sure your heart is breaking.
Cha
(298,193 posts)Docreed2003
(16,909 posts)I cannot begin to imagine your loss. All my love and support in this difficult time for you and yours...know that you have so many here on DU to lean on, as superficial as that may seem. We love you and our hearts are with you.
Ohiogal
(32,224 posts)This is something no parent should have to experience. My sincerest, heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.
Metatron
(1,258 posts)DesertRat
(27,995 posts)Please accept my deepest condolences.
MelissaB
(16,420 posts)(((Hugs)))
barbtries
(28,825 posts)the unkindest cut of all...
dixiegrrrrl
(60,010 posts)No words are sufficient for such a devastating loss.
Mme. Defarge
(8,065 posts)CaptainTruth
(6,626 posts)JDC
(10,153 posts)catbyte
(34,564 posts)Please accept my deepest condolences to you and your family.
mithnanthy
(1,725 posts)So sad for you and your family.
colorado_ufo
(5,748 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(116,051 posts)Duppers
(28,134 posts)Having lost a child I can empathize. Stephen was a most handsome young man.
pnwmom
(109,029 posts)bucolic_frolic
(43,589 posts)It's a sad day, and a tragedy to lose someone so young.
AwakeAtLast
(14,134 posts)I am so, so sorry! Sending many virtual hugs to you and your family!
Hortensis
(58,785 posts)on opening this message. As parents, this is always our worst fear of course. I'm so sorry for your poor son and all who love him.
BittyJenkins
(413 posts)A candle is burning for Stephen, you and your loved ones.
Totally Tunsie
(10,885 posts)How terribly sad it is to lose a child.
easttexaslefty
(1,554 posts)My eldest son died in 2007. I am sending you many hugs
sl8
(14,073 posts)Mazeltov Cocktail
(569 posts)A very tragic loss of a very young man, my deepest sympathy.
Kind of Blue
(8,709 posts)I just hope that peace and comfort will surround you and your family now.
struggle4progress
(118,379 posts)DonaldsRump
(7,715 posts)Nothing left to say, except we are there for you.
Rest in peace.
lamp_shade
(14,853 posts)Chemisse
(30,829 posts)I can't fathom how hard it is to cope with such a tragic loss. I am thinking of you during this hardest of times.
Equinox Moon
(6,344 posts)sdfernando
(4,962 posts)I just cant imagine what you and your loved ones are going through.
Peace and love to you all.
Hekate
(91,068 posts)Lars39
(26,120 posts)yardwork
(61,836 posts)MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)Mrs. Overall
(6,839 posts)monmouth4
(9,721 posts)TheOther95Percent
(1,035 posts)My condolences to you and the rest of your family. I wish you all peace.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)Sympathies to you and the family.
bronxiteforever
(9,287 posts)NRaleighLiberal
(60,041 posts)MLAA
(17,376 posts)onecaliberal
(33,018 posts)hlthe2b
(102,596 posts)I'm so very sorry, DonV. I'll be thinking of you and your family at this very difficult time.
May the time when all the good memories come before any sadness-- arrive very soon.
MissB
(15,814 posts)Im so incredibly sorry for your tragic loss.
Donkees
(31,559 posts)democrank
(11,116 posts)Maraya1969
(22,529 posts)I wish I had the right words.
BigmanPigman
(51,680 posts)This is terrible for you. I feel so badly. Please remember to take care of yourself during these days and months ahead. Surviving the loss of a love is so difficult. Don't try to do too much and be kind to yourself.
Eliot Rosewater
(31,158 posts)Jesus, Don...
Thank you for sharing your grief with me, us. I we want to be here for you!
k8conant
(3,030 posts)Scarsdale
(9,426 posts)No words can make it any easier. I know, having lost my 45 year old son several years ago. So very sorry for your loss. Sylvester Stallone put it clearly after he lost his son "We join a club that nobody wants to join" So true. Our children should never go before us. So much life left to live. Deeply sorry.
catrose
(5,079 posts)I can't think of anything more awful than to bury your child.
SWBTATTReg
(22,251 posts)voteearlyvoteoften
(1,716 posts)So very sorry to hear of your loss.
redwitch
(14,956 posts)I cant imagine such a loss.
NanceGreggs
(27,821 posts)... to you and yours.
Guilded Lilly
(5,591 posts)c-rational
(2,603 posts)cp
(6,681 posts)We are with you.
FuzzyRabbit
(1,970 posts)denbot
(9,901 posts)Peace to you and all of Stephen's friends and loved ones.
StarryNite
(9,479 posts)He died way, way, way too young.
RussBLib
(9,065 posts)Losing a close family member is one of the worst things, especially if they are young.
No platitudes will help. Only time. Cry. Let it go.
Lucky Luciano
(11,268 posts)UpInArms
(51,297 posts)My virtual arms are around you and yours
uponit7771
(90,378 posts)panader0
(25,816 posts)williesgirl
(4,033 posts)Liberal In Texas
(13,628 posts)defacto7
(13,485 posts)To lose a child is so heartbreaking.
NNadir
(33,598 posts)samplegirl
(11,530 posts)Deepest sympathy.
calimary
(81,621 posts)Im so sorry.
Your precious boy.
Words fail, dear friend. But we will sit and share the vigil with you. You do not mourn alone. Remember what our own Skittles said - someones always here.
Demovictory9
(32,509 posts)sprinkleeninow
(20,273 posts)InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,128 posts)lunamagica
(9,967 posts)Hamlette
(15,415 posts)peacebuzzard
(5,185 posts)To you and your family. This is tragic, no words can express such a horrible loss.
nini
(16,672 posts)I can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. Sending sympathies to all who loved him.
karin_sj
(824 posts)It's the hardest thing for a person to go through. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
3catwoman3
(24,153 posts)...for the worst loss of all.
Wishing you strong people to lean on as you find your way throught this dreadful change.
bdjhawk
(421 posts)to you and your family.
mahina
(17,780 posts)Hearts up. Aloha no DonViejo.
mecherosegarden
(745 posts)...
Silver Gaia
(4,553 posts)Losing a child is the most difficult loss. I watched my mother and father bear this grief. My heart goes out to you. May you find peace.
DFW
(54,536 posts)The fact that his short life seems to have been a full one can't compensate for it having ended so early. I hope you have a LOT of shoulders to lean on. I know I would have needed them.
Rhiannon12866
(207,105 posts)Sending deepest sympathies to you and your family, words seem inadequate, but please remember that your DU family is thinking of you and is always here.
StevieM
(10,500 posts)mr_lebowski
(33,643 posts)Be kind to yourself
area51
(11,947 posts)Squinch
(51,098 posts)CentralMass
(15,265 posts)Last edited Sat Sep 15, 2018, 12:13 PM - Edit history (2)
David, family and friends through this difficult time.
BumRushDaShow
(130,201 posts)So sorry to see this. Didn't realize you all were in my old college stomping grounds.
Many condolences to your family and hopes that you will heal after losing someone so young. He will always be in your memories.
N_E_1 for Tennis
(9,812 posts)Phentex
(16,334 posts)So very sorry.
TexasTowelie
(112,777 posts)peekaloo
(22,977 posts)Paladin
(28,290 posts)gulliver
(13,205 posts)Deepest condolences to you and your family.
Stuart G
(38,458 posts)Fla Dem
(23,917 posts)Raine1967
(11,589 posts)I am so very sorry for the loss of your son.
I am so sorry for his brothers and the rest of your beautiful family.
Raine
Ilsa
(61,721 posts)Such a handsome young man. I'm so sorry he didn't have more time with us. I'll pray for your family.
My MIL lives with us. She lost her daughter to a brain aneurysm eight years ago. It hurts even now.
Zoonart
(11,928 posts)Sending you love and light.
sellitman
(11,611 posts)H2O Man
(73,716 posts)I'm sorry for your loss.
ehrnst
(32,640 posts)Enoki33
(1,590 posts)sueh
(1,829 posts)(((hugs)))
highplainsdem
(49,147 posts)David, your family and all of Steve's loved ones.
kag
(4,079 posts)Language is so frustratingly inadequate at this time. Just know that we are all thinking about you and sending warm, healing thoughts to you and your dear family.
Bayard
(22,262 posts)malthaussen
(17,242 posts)farmbo
(3,122 posts)EOM
Voltaire2
(13,309 posts)BlueMTexpat
(15,377 posts)you and your family!
Danmel
(4,945 posts)CottonBear
(21,598 posts)MuseRider
(34,142 posts)my heart, all my being is aching for you. I cannot imagine the pain. I am so very sorry to see this. I think every one of us would take a bit of it if we could so you did not have to bear it all.
Find peace when you can. I so wish there was more we could all do for you.
janterry
(4,429 posts)We will put his name on our altar (we're buddhist).
Bettie
(16,152 posts)parents should not have to outlive their children.
Arazi
(6,829 posts)lunatica
(53,410 posts)I lost my son too. There is no way to describe the grief.
But in time you will be filled with the memories of the best times and not the day he died. You will know profound gratitude to have had him in your life. I promise.
jrthin
(4,843 posts)sorrow for you and your family.
steve2470
(37,457 posts)Many good vibes for you and your family.
tazmaniac
(114 posts)my heart aches for your loss.
yonder
(9,687 posts)Alliepoo
(2,238 posts)Please accept my deepest sympathy. I know your hearts and souls are shattered. We lost our oldest daughter when she was 19. Im so very sorry for your loss. If you ever need to talk-Im here. ((HUG))
Niagara
(7,778 posts)You and your family are in my heart and mind.
Sending my love and deepest sympathies.
Harker
(14,144 posts)He'll live on in your hearts.
Julian Englis
(2,309 posts)Words fail.
JHan
(10,173 posts)Raine
(30,551 posts)TheBlackAdder
(28,266 posts)Judi Lynn
(160,722 posts)People with gifted creativity are in short supply on this planet. He will be so missed, clearly.
Hoping you and your loved ones will Find a way to live with this tragedy, and to heal, with time.
You have so many friends here, and without a doubt you will be in all their thoughts. Please take care of yourself during this passage.
So sorry you have had to move through this, Don Viejo.
The son you lost was truly special.