I just need to vent a little

[leftygolfer]

I apologize for being a bit "whiney" today. I'm pretty new here and I see too many new people using this board for reason that don't seem to be helpful for anyone. Actually, this might be one of those posts.

I'm just tired right now. Just really tired of so much.

I have a cousin-in-law who makes more in a month, maybe every two weeks, than I do in a year; but I constantly have to listen to him about how he's being treated unfairly. (I do some work in the cart barn to make a few extra dollars every now and then. He is a member of the club. Do you know how hard it is for me to take $5 from him and have to clean his clubs?)

I'm not in great health. I worry everytime I cough. I can't afford aspirin hardly. A doctor's visit is practically out of the question. Just one healthcare plan for me would be nice. It can't be that hard.

My ex wife needs more money. I don't have anything to give her. I actually WANT to help her. I just can't. This breaks my heart.

Apparently Matt Drudge has posted things about possible tax changes. My neighbor acts like it's the end of the world. I'm sure it won't affect him one iota, but he sure acts like it will cost him 10 grand a year. I'd like to make enough money where that would matter to me. I'd be happy, thrilled, to pay more if I made enough to do it.

I admit, I am very focused on me today. I do care about terrorism, illegal wars, Guantanamo, abortion rights, global warming and teaparty crazies, but today, I'm trying to get a handle on my life. It's not bad, I know so many who have it worse. But I'd like to feel better about it.

Sorry, I don't know if anyone cares to read this. But I think it helps for me to write it.

[asdjrocky]

1. Buddy,

You are not alone. This is the story of many, many people. I'm sure that does nothing to make you feel a lot better, but I'm with you.

It's hard when things are tight to be around people with money. Those people never seem to understand how things can be for people like us.

Feel free to pm me, if I'm any where near you we'll have a cup of coffee and talk. Coffee is on me.

We can take our future into our own hands.

[leftygolfer]

2. what a awesome response

thanks so much. i don't really like to post a whole lot, i'm not that open a person. but this is why i'm so glad i found this board. it's good to have friends that get it.

[asdjrocky]

5. I get it.

Hang in there my man, we'll get through this shit.

[kpete]

3. from one scribbler to another...

My real angst goes into my paintings and drawings...
since I was little I have been a scribbler,
and thank goodness I had an outlet.

It is good for you to write down your thoughts, hard to comprehend this world isn't it?

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness. - Dalai Lama

[Mojorabbit]

4. I hope things start looking up

for you soon. I have a BIL who has the same attitude. He told me he has no empathy for anyone outside the family and as far as he is concerned it "can all burn". He thinks middle aged white men are being underserved by the govt while the poor are getting all the bennies. You just can't talk to people like that. They are in their own fantasy world.
Sending you a big hug.

[Contrary1]

6. Chances are your BIL wouldn't have much empathy

for family members either.

I found out first hand just how much my husband's conservative family would help out when their own sister lost her job, and had to move in with us. We asked for financial help from them, since my husband recently had a 20% pay cut.

Two brothers both said they were barely making it. They and their wives both have good paying jobs. One has a home with no mortgage, the other is in his 2nd custom-built. Another sibling sent us $50, with the sage advice that sis needed to find a job.

Well, after 3 months; she did find a job and was able to move out last weekend.

Talk is cheap. So are conservatives.

[dajoki]

7. You are not alone...

many of us are very tired, including me. My wife just lost her job and I am on Social Security Disability. We are hoping our mortgage company can modify our loan or we we loose our home. Good luck to you!!

[county worker]

8. Your post reminds me of a lot of things. Martin Sheen and I caddied together.

We were kids in Dayton Ohio. We caddied at the Dayton Country Club back in the late 50's and early 60's. He was Ramon Estevez at the time. Martin's brother married my cousin and we went to the same high school so I got to talk to him when ever there was a funeral or wedding in that family and my cousin's.

He said the thing that made him a liberal was caddying for rich people at the country club and how you had to interact with them. I am a liberal for the same reason as he is and it seems like you feel today like we felt back then.

[hlthe2b]

9. Fantastic story... thank you for sharing that...

Martin is one of the really good guys, IMO.

[hlthe2b]

10. I can't imagine many true DUers who can't appreciate your post

and relate to it, whether they are counting pennies from paycheck to paycheck, or have been more fortunate. I don't know what happend to REPUGS to make them so callous, selfish, and incapable of empathy, but you'll find it here, in spades.


Vent away. We are with you.

[myrna minx]

11. Hang in there friend.

We're all in this together. :grouphug:

[Goldstein1984]

12. Good OP--Speaking from the heart

I'm fortunate to have a good job, but I have no illusions about it. My wife worked while I went to college, continued working after I graduated to help me repay student loans, and she encouraged me to go back to school when my career dead-ended. I was lucky to marry my best friend and biggest fan, and I am hers in return. My children did without a lot of the things other children had, so my good fortune is also built upon a foundation of their sacrifice. There were many years when the tips from my wife's job were the only thing that got us by. On two occasions, when our uninsured children needed emergency medical care, we lived on peanut butter, day-old bread, powdered milk and tea to pay for it.

My point is, we will never forget where we started, how easily events outside of our control could place us right back there, and how many good and talented people are still there with nothing but different circumstances working against them. My break came when a former coworker familiar with my work in government landed a high-paying private sector job and called to ask me to join his team. Had circumstances not had us working on a government project together he never would have become familiar with my work, and that call never would have come.

Your circumstances will change. But you are who you are regardless of circumstances.

[Paper Roses]

13. You bet your boots we care. Many of us are going through the same thing.

If our situation is not quite as bad, we still recognize that life is a pretty awful battle right now for most of us. So many are just trying to keep the wolf from the door.

No-one knows my situation and I try and keep a good front. My future has gone to hell, I have no joy on some days. It is just too much.

Never would have believed it 10 years ago.

[endless october]

14. i hope things look up for you.

venting a bit from time to time helps.

[leftygolfer]

15. You guys humble me

Never expected such a great and warm response. I don't want to overdramatize my situation. I'm having a bit of a pity party as my niece likes to say. It's serious, but it's manageable, if not frustrating. The stories I've read from some of you, makes me feel a bit ashamed. Compared to many, my complaints are really weak. I'm not going to lose my home (that I know of) and I know many people here have. My pain is maybe more to my pride right now. I hurt, but I know I'm not the only one. We all face tough times. And yes, we will get through it together. Thanks to all of you. Big huge thanks.

[BlancheSplanchnik]

17. Please don't feed the ashamed feelings!!

:grouphug:

We ALL have our self-pity moments!
We're ALL fighting a daily struggle to advance our lives in whatever way we can!

Feeling down and sad and frustrated is not weak or "baaad"!! It's just a feeling. A completely ok feeling that CAN spur us forward--because it can make us ask, "how can I feel better, what can I do to improve the situation?"

On DU most of us do go there from time to time and then STAND up AGAIN, and get re-motivated, thankful, compassionate, funny......

we are all together :hug:

[proudohioan]

16. Well, you just vent all you want......

we all feel your pain and that's part of what we are all doing here. I wouldn't be sitting here in my PJ's (at 2 in the afternoon!)if I weren't interested in my fellow human being and feeling the same kind of hopeless that you are feeling; maybe we just need to know that we aren't the only ones in that same boat.

Best of luck to you!!!

t.

:hug:

[seabeyond]

18. 1/4 of our income has dropped. thank you for the reminder how good we have it.

how hard it is for so many, and how far we have to go.

tired

i hear ya.

welcome to du.

[Javaman]

19. Rant away. :)

we all need to vent now and then.

Frankly, if DU didn't allow me my occasional rant, I don't know what I would do.

It's all good.

things change, sometimes for the worse sometimes for the better, but when you are in the middle of it, it seems like nothing is happening at all.

Peace to you and I hope you catch a break. :)