I just got off the phone with my girlfriend's 'pub sister.

[TomInTib]

We are leaving in the morning for Cabo, thru Thanksgiving.

GF has quite a few Vacation Rental properties in S. Lake Tahoe ($500-$2K/night), and all those checks come in the mail.

We have (finally) lost the HouseMate/DramaQueen, and needed someone to pick up the mail and deposit the checks (times are tight, in case no one has noticed).

Since I have done countless favors (repairs, taking their ancient dog to the vet, all kinds of crap) for GF's sister and her disabled husband for a while (they have a ton of money, and I always lose money on "favors" done), I decided to call in a favor and ask her to pick up the mail and deposit the checks. They live less than a mile away, on the same hill.

BTW, we don't talk Politics. But they know how we feel, especially since GF is almost a dead ringer for Palin and things do come up.

So I asked her if she could pick up the checks and drop them in the bank, which is maybe a 1/4 mile from the house.

She said sure, but there would be a trip charge.

I asked her just how much that "trip charge" would be.

"One hundred dollars a day."

I said, "You must be kidding".

She replied, "It's about time you Liberals realize there is no free lunch".

For the first time in my life, I told a Woman to Go F**k Herself.

Tom

[babylonsister]

1. How hateful is that?! You should send her a bill for services previously

rendered. :grr:

[gollygee]

2. Well . . . I wouldn't be doing her any more favors

That's for sure.

[SharonRB]

3. What a bitch!

[dana_b]

4. good for you

hopefully your GF understands and supports you on this. But damn! you do all those things for this woman and she can't be bothered to do this little thing for you? What is wrong with people...

[Joe the Liberal]

5. Lesson well learned......

NEVER...EVER do favors for repukes, it's a waste of time.

[LynneSin]

6. If you lived near me I'd help you out but I'm east coast

enjoy your vacation!

[TomInTib]

13. Thanks, Lynne.

You know, I take great pleasure in making things happen for other people.

I should have learned, by now, but self-centered selfishness always blows me away.

Tom

[shadowknows69]

41. Me too, I'll do it for 75 a day but you'll have to advance me 6 months salary so I can move.

B-)

[quiet.american]

7. What a willfully ignorant woman. Your response was well-justified. nt

[calico1]

8. Send her a bill for all the stuff you've done

for her.

Tell her it wasn't a free lunch.

;-)

[tblue]

9. Repubs' entire arrogant self-important existence has been publicly repudiated.

The woman's mad at the world so she's taking it out on you. She was rude. I'm glad you put it back in her face. It ain't your fault she bet on the wrong horse. If her husband's disabled, you'd think she'd have a clue about what a 'liberal' is.

I have a brother in law who has no health insurance so he had to collect Charity Care to pay for his wife's hospitalization. He also wants his mom to apply for Medicaid so he doesn't have to pay for her care. But he's a Republican and a Dittohead who can't stand liberals and Democrats. This is my definition of a loser. I'm sorry you had to deal with such ugliness on the part of your sister in law. She's a loser, too.

[underseasurveyor]

10. I predict that her 'free lunch' crack

is gonna come back and bite her in the ass in her near future;-)
hahahahahaha so says my crystal-ball

so are you leaving the day after thankgiving? my bf and I may go down to cabo right after thanksgiving? where you staying?

[TomInTib]

12. Fiesta Americana

About 9KM up the coast from Cabo.

[Marr]

33. Hop over to San Jose Del Cabo while you're there.

It's right next door. Very different vibe-- much more mellow. Much better food.

[TomInTib]

35. I know...

Actually, I am being dragged, kicking and whining.

To me, nothing is worse than US tourists.

I would rather stay Home.

Marin is cooler than anywhere.

Tom

[Marr]

49. Yeah- I'm not crazy about Cabo myself.

The most interesting thing about the place to me is the contrast between that one settlement and the rest of the peninsula. I rode a motorcycle from San Diego to Cabo San Lucas a couple of years ago, and it's really eye-opening. Most of Baja feels almost old world. Extremely poor, of course-- but isolated, too. Then you drive into Cabo and it's like you're entering an American city. Everything's supersized and manicured.

[Mnemosyne]

11. Sounds like most of my family. :( No gratitude or true loyalty.

Sorry you were treated like crap. Have a relaxing vacation! :hug:

[MissMarple]

14. Call her back. you forgot to tell the free loader to find her own free fucking lunch.

Hoo boy. I actually said that. Ermm...call the no account free loader back. :evilgrin:

[TomInTib]

16. MissMarple!

I had no idea that you were capable of such potty-mouth.

But, now that I know.....

Your Friend,
Tom

[Greyhound]

15. That's the kind of shit that caused my mom to divorce the rest of the family.

You have our sympathies.

Have a great trip.

[Ilsa]

17. Send her a bill for all stuff you've done for her with No Charge

for the amount for each item. Let that be a reminder to her that you've never asked for a "trip charge".

[salin]

22. bingo!

That was my first thought as well. Make it formal - which will either be greeted with "its all a joke" or a more formal aspect to the relationship (which she has already introduced) - present a "bill" at the same rate that she states ($100 a day) per specific favirs already delivered - with a note that says something to the effect that repubicans need to learn that the free lunch based on expecting other people to do things for them out of "the niceness of the heart" is over and just as republicans state - there is a cost - and state a cost. Then allow a "debt cancellation" per new services rendered per collecting and making bank deposits for the week you will be gone. Try to do so in a way that ignores the obnoxiousness in her response to you (as to just straight call it out will lead to never trading favors in the future) and puts it into a "playful" tone. Respond in a way that presumes that she is "making a joke" (even if you know she is not) and put her into the position to either back away from her stand (as in "it was all a joke") or really live with the consequences of being charged for "favors" in the same way she is snidely stating that you should pay her.

Calling folks out in this way (presuming/or acting as if it is a joke) will more often back folks down from their ridiculousness than calling them out directly and living with the consequence of on going strife and drama in the future. It gives space for folks to do a "doover" and allow future relations to be less strained in the future. Then if the person continues to be an a-hole, it is clear that they are willing to live with the stress/alienation of the relationship. Start with a light hearted "debts due (per her $100 a week due per the favor) for recent "favors" that you have done for them (presuming that there have been some) and a shout out to "debt relief" being available by providing the "service"/favor initially requested (picking up the checks and depositing them.)

If the response is hostile - then it is clear that she/they have decided to take on a hostile/oppositional relationship. Then react accordingly.

How to respond really depends upon whether or not one wants to take a chance at salvaging the relationship or not.

[Ilsa]

25. You nailed it. And this relationship may be over because of how they

feel about this last election. I guess they weren't as disturbed about Bill Clinton in Nov. 1992.

[riderinthestorm]

29. I'm exhausted even thinking of drafting that invoice.nt

[shanti]

18. damn, that's cold...

what's family for but to help each other out? :shrug: was she always like this?

[MadMaddie]

19. Oh Dear Tom

she deserved it!

Well when she calls you for the next favor tell her your services are no longer free.

Have a good vacation despite that moment of madness.

[TomInTib]

31. For you, ma'am

I will have an extra-special Good Time.

Hell, someone has to do it.

Might as well be me.

Tom

[Fuzz]

20. That's unreal. What the fuck is wrong with people, and this is a relative?

I have a sister like that. She wouldn't ask for money like that, I don't think. She would make an excuse not to do it. Glad she lives two states away so I don't have to find out.

But she's done other things like that. Real christian type she is.

[Habibi]

21. Oh. My. GOD.

I can't imagine saying such a thing, to a family member! (Well, sort of a family member.) Man, what an asshole!

[Canuckistanian]

23. Overcharging is a Repub tradition

And it's out of their sphere of comprehension to do something nice for anybody for free.

Typical.

[Ilsa]

24. But it is easy to hose alot of them since they think that way about money!

I can imagine the men paying $50 for the same haircut my husband gets for $12. Afterall, "you get what you pay for" is their line of thinking when they are buying something for themselves.

[ecstatic]

26. She sounds like an ugly person. She can't be happy inside

with such a nasty heart.

[Ilsa]

27. Tom, I think "Go fuck yourself" is probably a good wakeup call for her.

I stand with you on calling her down like that. You just can't stand on ceremony when someone like that is being a total asshole.

[TomInTib]

32. Maybe I should have incorporated.....

"asshole".

I always miss out on the good shit.

Tom

[shadowknows69]

42. "With a rusty chainsaw" is usually my tag line in these situations

[Twitch14]

28. After your first three lines, was going to ask if your GF had a sister....

...never mind.

[mymessageboardid]

30. Feel free to post her phone #

And I will gladly call and tell her to fuck off.

[Hawkowl]

34. Welcome to my family

You have my sympathy.

[Aviation Pro]

36. Well said frogman.....

.....

[Beacool]

37. That has nothing to do with politics,

she simply is a nasty woman. You're better off cutting her out of your life. Ask a friend to do you the favor, I'm sure someone will come through for you.

:-(

[Liberal_in_LA]

38. don't blame you. she was being a beotch.

[orleans]

39. how does your gf feel about what her sister said? what did she (gf) say?

can you get along without someone depositing those checks for a week?
i hope so--or i hope you can find someone else to help you out.

i'd tell this bitch to stick it up her ass

[FormerDittoHead]

44. Yes. You really have to bounce this off your girlfriend about her sister.

I'd never think about getting in between my wife and her sister.

Personally, I would have suggested you reply with, "I'll have to ask your sister about the charge."

IMO, resolving this thing will depend upon the relationship the sisters have and what your girlfriend has to say about it.

[Skittles]

40. AWESOME

KICK SOME SIL ASS

[SpiralHawk]

43. Send her an invoice for all the family 'favors' you've already done

Sheeesh - republicon 'family values' are a massive pack of hypocritical crap

[rug]

45. I usually have the gardener deposit my checks. He already has a wheelbarrow.

[mwb970]

46. Your girlfriend looks like Sarah Palin?!

I can think of worse ways for a girlfriend to look. I just hope she doesn't sound or "think" like Miss Alaska!

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

47. Bounce

[tammywammy]

50. LOL!

[peekaloo]

48. Does she charge for f**king herself, too?

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none of my bidness but does hubby collect any gubmint disability coin?