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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:05 PM Original message |
The married name-change thing |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:31 PM Response to Original message |
1. I got married 6 months ago and never considered changing my name. |
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Finder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:36 PM Response to Original message |
2. I changed my name |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:40 PM Response to Reply #2 |
3. I often think that women are the strongest gate keepers. |
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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:35 PM Response to Reply #3 |
9. Women are quite often complicit in sexism |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:44 PM Response to Reply #9 |
11. I think it also becomes, "I had to do it, so its good enough for you too." |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-12-05 07:03 PM Response to Reply #9 |
21. Yes, to repeat myself |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:42 PM Response to Original message |
4. I was married once, and never considered changing my name. |
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ohio_liberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 03:49 PM Response to Original message |
5. I've been married twice as well |
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Gelliebeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:14 PM Response to Original message |
6. My cousin got married |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:46 PM Response to Reply #6 |
12. I found that too. The men didn't care what I did with my name... |
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trotsky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:18 PM Response to Original message |
7. I'm a man, and I had already changed my name. |
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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:33 PM Response to Reply #7 |
8. Now, that's a cool reason to change your name! |
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trotsky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 07:27 AM Response to Reply #8 |
15. Thanks. |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-14-05 11:17 PM Response to Reply #8 |
57. About twenty years ago, I knew a couple where the husband |
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Nikia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-15-05 09:39 AM Response to Reply #57 |
59. I wonder if that is what happened w/ college classmate |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-15-05 09:03 PM Response to Reply #59 |
60. The other possibility is that he took Japanese citizenship |
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Eloriel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-12-05 07:13 PM Response to Reply #7 |
22. I LOVE that story! |
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Lisa0825 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:36 PM Response to Original message |
10. I changed my name when I got married... |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:47 PM Response to Reply #10 |
13. Thats why my hubby and I keep ours seperate. |
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gkhouston (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-09-05 04:52 PM Response to Original message |
14. I kept my name. My daughter has my husband's surname |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 09:59 AM Response to Original message |
16. Married, and gladly took his name. He adopted my daughter and her |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 05:11 PM Response to Reply #16 |
18. Nothing wrong with that, Mrs. G! |
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jmm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
17. Never been married and don't have kids but my $.02 |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 05:44 PM Response to Reply #17 |
19. You did what you needed to do. Your name is your identity and you should |
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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-10-05 06:32 PM Response to Reply #17 |
20. Your name is YOURS |
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efhmc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-12-05 09:33 PM Response to Original message |
23. I did it when I married but my married daughter did not and if the |
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efhmc (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-12-05 09:53 PM Response to Original message |
24. Even we keep "our" name, we are still carrying a man's name, |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 02:12 PM Response to Reply #24 |
33. This is true. |
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Mad_Dem_X (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-25-05 09:46 AM Response to Reply #24 |
68. Bingo - like I said in my earlier post |
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Triana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-03-06 03:00 PM Response to Reply #24 |
76. I changed mine but changed it back and won't change it again... |
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Katherine Brengle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-03-06 11:32 PM Response to Reply #24 |
77. Refusing to carry on the tradition is a move... |
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politicat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 01:12 AM Response to Original message |
25. I really agonized over it.... |
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trotsky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 08:09 AM Response to Reply #25 |
28. Hey politicat - |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 02:29 PM Response to Reply #25 |
34. I loved your post |
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Solly Mack (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 04:31 AM Response to Original message |
26. On some things my name is changed and on some things it's not |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-14-05 11:21 PM Response to Reply #26 |
58. Is that tradition unique to your family, or do you |
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China_cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 06:40 AM Response to Original message |
27. What's the difference? |
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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 12:06 PM Response to Reply #27 |
31. To me, it doesn't have anything to do with the name coming from a male, |
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Mad_Dem_X (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-25-05 09:48 AM Response to Reply #31 |
69. Your identity is more than just your name |
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all.of.me (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 08:32 AM Response to Original message |
29. 25 years ago, |
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Dorian Gray (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 11:30 AM Response to Original message |
30. Interesting, geniph |
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DoveTurnedHawk (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 01:26 PM Response to Original message |
32. My Former Fiancee Was Planning to Keep Her Name |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 03:36 PM Response to Original message |
35. I changed my name twice |
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pmbryant (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 04:45 PM Response to Original message |
36. I, too, find the name-changing phenomena somewhat odd |
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Book Lover (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-16-05 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
37. I didn't |
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bleedingheart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Jun-17-05 10:47 AM Response to Original message |
38. I wanted to move further up in the alphabetical order thing... |
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spooky3 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jun-22-05 07:14 PM Response to Original message |
39. Liked his name better than my dad's, so I took it. |
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Maat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Oct-24-05 11:07 PM Response to Reply #39 |
66. Ditto. |
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cally (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jun-22-05 07:38 PM Response to Original message |
40. I didn't change my name |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 07:28 AM Response to Reply #40 |
41. My sister-in-law |
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cally (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 10:18 AM Response to Reply #41 |
42. Two things have slowed it down |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 10:47 AM Response to Reply #42 |
43. LOL! |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 01:03 PM Response to Reply #42 |
47. One of my husband's cousins has my first name, so they use our last names. |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 01:01 PM Response to Reply #41 |
45. Thats the tradition. When you marry you become his Mrs. |
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Katherine Brengle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-03-06 11:39 PM Response to Reply #45 |
78. Right? F* that! |
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geniph (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 12:54 PM Response to Original message |
44. A funny side note on this |
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UCLA Dem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jun-23-05 01:02 PM Response to Reply #44 |
46. My husand and I get it all the time....both ways. |
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 08:43 AM Response to Original message |
48. I'm a male, and I don't like it at all |
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Hello_Kitty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 09:39 PM Response to Reply #48 |
53. How cool! I've only met one other guy who felt the way you do. |
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OldLeftieLawyer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 09:57 AM Response to Original message |
49. Names |
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bloom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 04:19 PM Response to Original message |
50. When I was first married |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 05:11 PM Response to Original message |
51. I took my husband's name |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 05:11 PM Response to Original message |
52. I took my husband's name |
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WildClarySage (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Oct-13-05 11:07 PM Response to Original message |
54. I did change my name to his. |
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eridani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-14-05 04:41 AM Response to Original message |
55. I kept my name in 1970 |
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politicat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-14-05 07:03 PM Response to Original message |
56. I've kept mine, but more through laziness. |
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TheProphetess (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-16-05 01:48 AM Response to Original message |
61. After much deliberation, I decided to keep my last name |
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spooky3 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Oct-16-05 05:55 PM Response to Original message |
62. I changed my name because I liked his better than mine |
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Chalco (817 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-18-05 07:21 AM Response to Original message |
63. I kept my own name when I married but changed when |
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StrongbadTehAwesome (623 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-18-05 11:46 PM Response to Original message |
64. My husband and I both took a new name together. |
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Lilith Velkor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-21-05 05:14 PM Response to Reply #64 |
65. That's what I would do were I to marry |
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Mad_Dem_X (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Oct-25-05 09:45 AM Response to Original message |
67. I changed my name, no regrets |
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bleedingheart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Oct-28-05 08:02 PM Response to Original message |
70. I took my husbands...after a big discussion... |
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Triana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Oct-29-05 12:20 PM Response to Original message |
71. I didn't...and I never would. |
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October (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-02-06 07:58 PM Response to Original message |
72. I changed my name...because my dad's name was a burden |
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VelmaD (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-02-06 09:54 PM Response to Reply #72 |
73. And there is the problem in an nutshell. |
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Warpy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-03-06 12:13 AM Response to Reply #73 |
74. I know a couple who decided to take HER name |
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October (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-03-06 12:00 PM Response to Reply #73 |
75. Exactly. n/t |
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Sparkly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-04-06 12:28 AM Response to Original message |
79. My maiden name sounds good with my first name. |
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bliss_eternal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-04-06 11:45 PM Response to Original message |
80. One of my favorite rockers took his wife's name-- |
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