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It's so true. If the parents do this, they are orchestrating chaos for the duration of these siblings' lives. Omitting one child from their will, will cause tremendous strain on the relationships--and probably destroy any relationship that is left.
I anticipate that my parents will leave me out of the will. However, I cut off my family 5 years ago. I was also known as "the crazy one" because I dared to expose the abuse that happened in our family and the horrendous dysfunction that most of them deny, despite the obvious suffering they've endured because of our childhoods.
Turtle, I may be projecting some of my own stuff onto your situation, but I really would question your parents' motivations, here. Your parents are making decisions that will pit the siblings against one another. Do your parents play games like this now?
My parents were experts at dividing all of us. They needed us all week, mad at each other, confused and our relationships disjointed--to hold on to their power and to keep us all sick. It was very much intentional. If we were strong, communicating and healthy--the jig would have been up for them. However, they made sure that some children were favored and some scapegoated--to create more weakness and pain.
All of this may not fit for you, but I would seriously question why your parents are choosing a egacy of chaos and unfairness---over harmony and peace.
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