My Mother-in-law, an 89 year old nursing home patient, has double lung pneumonia.

[WCGreen]

Just found out.

She has medicare and private supplemental insurance so that's not a problem.

She was a life long republican until she met me and then turned Independent. Voted against Bush and for Obama.

Several years ago, my Mother in Law set up a Living Will along with her regular will.

She specifically set the parameters of her end of life health care.

The last time I talked to her when she was lucid, she was comfortable with her decision.

It saddens me to think about what could very well happen in the last few days.

But because she took control of her end of life care, it makes it easier on Mrs. WCGreen.

Well me too, tears are welling as I write this....

[babylonsister]

1. It's so very hard to lose loved ones.

She sounds like a great woman who took control of her destiny in lots of ways. :hug:

[WCGreen]

2. Yea, we fought a lot when I married her daughter 21 years ago...

But we ended up good friends.

[babylonsister]

18. My mom called my husband 'a diamond in the rough' before

we got married. I hear you. I'm glad we all ended up being friends, yours and mine. :hug:

[Botany]

3. Sounds like you have real family values

All the best to you.

Botany

[WCGreen]

10. Thank you....

We want to pass on how important End of Life Health Care is so important/

[NC_Nurse]

4. Good for her. I am sorry she is ill and yet I'm glad for her and for you and

your wife that she made her decisions already. She is obviously a very caring person.
May it comfort you if she passes. :hug:

[Raine1967]

5. Oh damn. I am sorry about your Mom in law

But I am so happy that you and your wife were able to inform her of what she could do regarding the end of life.

You may not want to take credit for it, but you played a big part in making this stage of her life much easier. Bless you, the Mrs, and most of all -- her.

[Frustratedlady]

6. Be grateful she made her wishes known.

It was a favor to her family. Bless her heart.

[WCGreen]

12. Yes, she has always good at getting her wishes known...

[slackmaster]

7. Sorry to hear that

I lost my last grandmother five years ago.

[jody]

8. I'm not that much younger and I also have a living will and explicit instructions. Sounds like

the lady learned from her youth growing up in the depression.

May God bless you and yours!

[WCGreen]

9. Thank you....

[CaliforniaPeggy]

11. Blessings on her for her forsight...

My tears are for all of you...

Safe passage to her...

:hug:

[WCGreen]

14. It's not to that point as of yet, but I fear her body is just too weak to

withstand the infection.

[MissDeeds]

13. So sorry your mom-in-law is slipping away

Even though we know that our elderly loved one's days with us are numbered, it doesn't make the loss any easier. My grandmother was 90 when she died twenty years ago, and I still miss her terribly.

I hope you and Mrs WCGreen will take comfort in wonderful memories and the knowledge that you have honored her final wishes.

[eridani]

15. It doesn't stop being harder just because you expect it

:hug:

[MadMaddie]

16. I am sorry that this is happening WCGreen

I am glad she took the opportunity to make it her decision on end of life care.

:grouphug:

[patrice]

17. I know. It's never okay. And it never will be.

:grouphug: