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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:20 PM
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My Mother-in-law, an 89 year old nursing home patient, has double lung pneumonia.
Edited on Tue Aug-11-09 08:23 PM by WCGreen
Just found out.

She has medicare and private supplemental insurance so that's not a problem.

She was a life long republican until she met me and then turned Independent. Voted against Bush and for Obama.

Several years ago, my Mother in Law set up a Living Will along with her regular will.

She specifically set the parameters of her end of life health care.

The last time I talked to her when she was lucid, she was comfortable with her decision.

It saddens me to think about what could very well happen in the last few days.

But because she took control of her end of life care, it makes it easier on Mrs. WCGreen.

Well me too, tears are welling as I write this....
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:21 PM
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1. It's so very hard to lose loved ones.
She sounds like a great woman who took control of her destiny in lots of ways. :hug:
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:22 PM
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2. Yea, we fought a lot when I married her daughter 21 years ago...
But we ended up good friends.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 11:30 PM
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18. My mom called my husband 'a diamond in the rough' before
we got married. I hear you. I'm glad we all ended up being friends, yours and mine. :hug:
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Botany Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:26 PM
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3. Sounds like you have real family values
All the best to you.

Botany


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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:42 PM
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10. Thank you....
We want to pass on how important End of Life Health Care is so important/
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:26 PM
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4. Good for her. I am sorry she is ill and yet I'm glad for her and for you and
your wife that she made her decisions already. She is obviously a very caring person.
May it comfort you if she passes. :hug:
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Raine1967 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:26 PM
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5. Oh damn. I am sorry about your Mom in law
But I am so happy that you and your wife were able to inform her of what she could do regarding the end of life.

You may not want to take credit for it, but you played a big part in making this stage of her life much easier. Bless you, the Mrs, and most of all -- her.
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Frustratedlady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:27 PM
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6. Be grateful she made her wishes known.
It was a favor to her family. Bless her heart.
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:43 PM
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12. Yes, she has always good at getting her wishes known...
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slackmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:30 PM
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7. Sorry to hear that
I lost my last grandmother five years ago.
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jody Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:37 PM
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8. I'm not that much younger and I also have a living will and explicit instructions. Sounds like
the lady learned from her youth growing up in the depression.

May God bless you and yours!

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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:41 PM
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9. Thank you....
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:43 PM
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11. Blessings on her for her forsight...
My tears are for all of you...

Safe passage to her...

:hug:
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:44 PM
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14. It's not to that point as of yet, but I fear her body is just too weak to
withstand the infection.
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MissDeeds Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:43 PM
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13. So sorry your mom-in-law is slipping away
Even though we know that our elderly loved one's days with us are numbered, it doesn't make the loss any easier. My grandmother was 90 when she died twenty years ago, and I still miss her terribly.

I hope you and Mrs WCGreen will take comfort in wonderful memories and the knowledge that you have honored her final wishes.

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eridani Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:46 PM
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15. It doesn't stop being harder just because you expect it
:hug:
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MadMaddie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 08:49 PM
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16. I am sorry that this is happening WCGreen
I am glad she took the opportunity to make it her decision on end of life care.

:grouphug:
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patrice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Aug-11-09 09:14 PM
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17. I know. It's never okay. And it never will be.
Edited on Tue Aug-11-09 09:27 PM by patrice
:grouphug:
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