"Heck" and "Hell" are not words I like my child to hear or say..

[glowing]

My son developed this habit from his friend of saying "Heck No".. It sounds wrong coming out of a 3yr old. We've told him its not a nice word, it sounds trashy... Everytime Sarah speaks she says heck... and there's been more than once she's used Hell.. as in "Hell bent".

I'm not a prude, but seriously, her mouth is causing problems with me disciplining him on the use of "heck". When he hears it on the t.v. from a news program, its pretty sad.

[Curtland1015]

1. Yeah, that's fucking crazy.

Little kids shouldn't say shit like that.

[Marrah_G]

2. .

:spank:

[Labors of Hercules]

4. bwah!

you owe me a computer screen.

[glowing]

5. No, 3 yr olds shouldn't.. I don't care latter on and I've been prone to use

a few potty words myself... but I don't think a public candidate should speak so trashy.

[livedemocarticordie]

38. ...rofLMAO

hahahhahAAHAHHAHHAAHHAHAHAH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[renie408]

42. Thank you. I needed that. n/t

[Spider Jerusalem]

3. 'Heck'???? What are you, some sort of Puritan?

'There are no bad words. There are bad thoughts and bad intentions.' - George Carlin

[glowing]

9. Well, we tell him its bad.. Really, its trashy and disrespectful to answer

a teacher back with Heck/ hell no...

[Spider Jerusalem]

26. your son is three years old, too young to be in school.

So the situation you posit is unlikely at present; I agree that it's not an ideal response to a parent, teacher, or other authority figure, but in casual conversation with peers and playmates is another matter. (Which is something most people catch on to, anyway; employing a different manner of speaking, different level of formality, etc is a linguistic phenomenon known as 'code-switching' and develops with the knowledge of situationally appropriate modes of expression).

[npincus]

32. LOL- I must agree

we call "stupid" the s-word, and "idiot" the i-word, but hear them all the time and I occasionally use them! (My daughter is 6)

[MorningGlow]

34. My 4 YO has decided he's come up with a clever way to avoid being chastised for saying "idiot"

He refers to someone as a "midiot" now. I told him nice try, but no cigar, because I know what he MEANT.

Little smarty pants. :rofl:

[npincus]

35. LOL- what a cutie!

Sometimes my daughter says "noo-pid"! :rofl:

[MorningGlow]

46. GMTA

Should we fear their devious schemes?

[southpaw]

6. Heck is just the place you'll go to

if you don't believe in Gosh.

[NatBurner]

33. dude...

[renate]

36. that was awesome.

:thumbsup:

[Mother Of Four]

41. -blinkblink-

:rofl:

[marshall]

7. Watch the news after he goes to bed

That's what I do with my two year old. There's no need to expose them to the trash that comes out of everybody's mouth. Until he goes to bed the television only plays very carefully selected children's programming.

[glowing]

11. Well, I like K.O. and Rachel.. He normally sits on my lap to rock to sleep during

k.o... unfortunately, they keep putting her face and mouth on.. We've told our son its not a nice way to speak.. not necesarily a "bad" word.. we call say its not nice.. which it isn't.

[marshall]

17. I also have a filter that blanks out whatever words I choose

It's really great. It doesn't bleep the word, just blots it out with blessed silence.
And I have a DVR, so whatever shows I want to watch after he goes to bed are recorded.

[maseman]

8. I am sure many Dems and Reps use "heck"

I wouldn't lose sleep over this one. My ten year old just asked me what a pussy was last night. Oy.

[nxylas]

12. So, tell him/her it's a cat

You wouldn't be lying, exactly.

[maseman]

24. Wrong

He knows damn well it is a cat and also something vulgar.

I told him exactly what it means, why it is vulgar and then mom chimed in and threatened his life if he ever was caught saying that word. (She's an inner city middle school teacher...she even scares me when she goes into teacher mode.)

We don't sugar-coat anything with the ten year old.

[glowing]

14. I really wouldn't want the 3 yr old to ask me about that one.

Tell him its a cat.

[seabeyond]

10. i fuckin cuss fuckin all over the fuckin place. neither of kids 10 or 13 cuss or use darn, heck of

the others, lol lol.

13 yr old and i just had an interesting conversation about it last night. something we talk about often with them growing up. has been an interesting trip, this

BUT

the one that gets me is the ya. i have found a couple times i have said ya.... and i tell kids, eeew, sarah says that, i have to get that out of my vocabulary and we all treat that as a cuss word

[zanne]

13. If that's all you have to worry about, count your blessings. nt

[monmouth]

15. Wow, my Kevin was 3 at the time and told me his brother was full of sh#*...

Come to find out his brother was lying, I chastised a little before running into the next room to LOL. The bigger deal you make out of it the worse it gets. I didn't hear him say it again, at least not in front of me...

[Curtland1015]

16. Jokes aside, I understand what you are saying, really.

It's the same reason many consider "dang" to be as bad as "damn" It's not what they say, it's the intent behind the words.

That said, make sure you don't let the little tyke watch the next presidential debate. I have a feeling McCain is going to snap and swear live on TV.

I hope so anyway. :D

[glowing]

29. Oh no.. He'd be asleep by 9pm...

I guess its her over all aura... she's not an intellect. she tries, but it doesn't work... and I want my child to understand what he says and why he's saying it... I don't want him to repeat words just because.. I want him to think about the way he speaks to people and the intention he has behind them... How to speak to his teacher or friends or family.. Its important.. not so much the actual words at times, but the understanding of how to use them... Obama has proven how to use words and weigh their worth in his language... Its obvious she has no value for what comes out of her mouth or what it sounds like when she does.

[nxylas]

18. I thought "heck" was a euphemism for hell

Like "darn", "sugar" or "fudge" for damn, shit and fuck respectively.

[ananda]

19. I'm mad as hell and heck that..

.. lying, dishonest, criminal politicians
and their corporate and lobbyist owners
have fucking ruined this country and billions
of people here and across the world.

I'm even more enraged as hell and heck that
they play the sanctimonious family values, holier
than thou game backed by the fucking propaganda
machine we euphemistically call the press.

[Barack_America]

20. Don't let him watch Sarah Palin.

I would think that bad language is not the only unfortunate lesson she's teaching him.

And, despite the slack you're getting from other posters, I recognize your right to raise your son how you like and commend you on how closely you seem to be monitoring his development. I doubt Palin's kids were so lucky to have a mom like you.

[Tommy_Carcetti]

21. I hereby darn you to heck for letting your child say that crud! nt

[secondwind]

22. keep your 3 yr old away from the TV, especially news programs.........he should be playing,

eating or sleeping.

[Warren Stupidity]

23. you're not a prude, seriously?

sure you are. Which is fine, have fun with that, but be honest that of all the things you have to chose from regarding Palin, you have settled on 'heck' and 'hell'. Seriously.

[glowing]

30. No, how would you like to be an adult watching my child and ask him to

pick up or do something.. he turns around and says, "HECK NO"... That's rude and disrespectful... so, learning how to speak appropriately is something you teach children..

Sarah is classless... she has no clue.

[AspenRose]

40. Sometimes you can't win with our lovable DUers

Some will accuse you of being a strict prude, while having no problems railing about how bratty, out-of-control and disrespectful kids are in restaurants and on airplanes, and complaining about their irresponsible parents.

Do what is best for you and your child. :hug:

(For the record, I agree with you. I can't listen to Stephanie Miller on the radio (podcast for later) because I don't want my 3 year old listening to some of the colorful language.)

[renie408]

43. It would be better if he just said "no" when asked to pick something up?

I think your priorities are a little off there.

Besides, shouldn't your child be safely in a bubble rather than exposed to ANY TV at all??

[yellowdogintexas]

44. actually, the NO could be called rude, but this is a 3 yr old. The 3 year old is all about

boundaries and stepping OVER them, even leaping.

NO and all its incarnations, adjectives or none, is the favorite word of the 3 year old. Later it is WHY?

This is something you will have to really consistently and gently remind him of every single time, because that is the 3 year old mind.
And of course don't let him catch you using it either.

OTOH, there is the school of thought that by ignoring it it will lose its glamour for him and he will be on to the next new thing in his life....

Remember Red Skelton's bad little boy?

"if I do'ed it, I get a whippin'"



:evilgrin:


"I DO'ED it!!!!"

Not going to get into semantics over whether Heck is acceptable, vs other words..these are your choices, and you are the mom.

I bet he is a cutie pie too.

Thinking of my youngest sister,at around age 2, pointing at my dad at supper and emitting a mouthful of what he thought was gibberish, he is laughing at her because she is so cute, and making conversational remarks to her.....those of us who were with her all day knew she was telling him to "Shut UP"(this was her New Word of the Week), which was absolutely forbidden for us to say (the older kids I mean) So we told him she was telling him to shut up and he turned into Ogre Dad so fast we nearly killed ourselves laughing at HIM. Poor guy, Mom, Me and the Middle Kid, all in the floor screaming over him not being able to speak Baby Martian. Of course he got the joke too and stopped..it was a hilarious Family Moment.

[madmom]

48. I would be more upset at the fact that he said "no" to being asked to do something!

[Stuckinthebush]

25. Heck is fine

Aw, heck mom! Didn't Beaver say that?

[mtnester]

27. No, that was Wally

the older, more rebellious brother

[Clio the Leo]

28. Nothin' wrong for wanting to raise your kid that way and I would imagine...

..... her penchant for lying is causing a problem too.

Remember when Barack said either "hell" or "damn" at a rally and then immediately apologized for it? Supercute.

[TlalocW]

31. I've often wondered what it takes for a word to become a swear word (warning: cursing)

Now I can understand words like "nigger," "cunt," and "fag" being verboten because they're attacks on a person's innate characteristics - race, gender, and sexuality - but why does "damn" get special consideration and "dog" doesn't?

It's like a holdover from the Dark Ages when certain words were considered magical. Will these words lose their potency over time like "poppycock" and "humbug" did?

TlalocW

[blogslut]

37. When my child was young, I told her there was no such thing as bad words

I told her there were words that hurt people's feelings and that she should be careful not to use certain words because they hurt people's feelings.

[Chorophyll]

39. Sarah Palin is indeed a bad influence on today's youth.

I tell my kid to clean up his room, and he says, "in what sense, Mommy?"

We're all going to hell in a freaking handbasket, I tell you.

[backscatter712]

45. Tell your kid to stop fucking cussing!

;)

Though I wasn't aware that "heck" was a swear word - it's one of those words we substitute for swear words when we find that using the actual word rubs people the wrong way. And I didn't think people recognized "hell" as a swear word for two decades...

[Abacus]

47. Turn off the TV.

I have a 22-month-old, we don't watch anything until he goes to bed at 7:30pm - 8pm. I can't watch House anymore unless I download it, oh well -- kids first.