My oldest brother is very ill from heart problem, no surgery or cure.

[texanwitch]

I found this out yesterday, and frankly I don't know how to feel.

We are not close, he was really never a part of my life.

He has ask to see me, so I quess I should go.

Frankly I don't remember what he looks like, it has been many years.

This is coming to close to my Father's death, from what I remember they look alike.

I quess I will just suck it up and go this weekend.

I am tired of death and watching people die.

He is the oldest, I am the youngest.

I will do my duty and go but damn I really don't want to either.

I quess he is just putting his life in order.

I will go and say goodbye, but I don't even know what to say.

Wish me luck guys.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear texanwitch...

This has to be really hard, since you hardly know him...

But yes, I think you should go. Say goodbye.

I think it will help him pass more easily...

You might be surprised at how much it might mean to you...

What to say? I'd start with "hello." Play it by ear, and see how he responds...

Good luck.

Godspeed to your brother...

:hug:

[texanwitch]

2. Thanks Peggy.

I really need someone to talk me into this.

He was a heavy smoker, his lungs and heart are shot.

I don't even know what I will find.

This will be my one and only visit.

I had to much death last year with my parents.

[crim son]

3. I'm so sorry, texanwitch.

And it's good you are going to see him. You wrote "just" putting his life in order, but you must know that some people choose to leave without doing this. He wants to see you, you're family. It probably doesn't matter what you say, as long as you care enough to show up. Sending luck, prayers and vibes.

[texanwitch]

5. I don't even have a picture of him.

I think I was about 20 the last time I saw him.

He was raised by my Father along with another brother and sister.

I was raised by my Aunt and Grandparents.

He went into the Navy when I was about 10 years old and stayed in for his 20 years.

I didn't even know where he lived.

Families are not alway close.

[pacalo]

4. I'm so sorry, texanwitch.

Of course you'll go. Let go of hard feelings & you'll be glad you did.

I do wish you good luck & strength.

:hug:

[tblue]

6. Oh gosh.

I don't know what to say. Except since he asked, I guess maybe you should go just so you don't regret it someday. I'm sorry....for both of you. I hate this kinda crap.

[texanwitch]

7. His son called me.

I didn't even know he had a son.

He has grandchildren.

I am a great Aunt and didn't know it.

[MrsBrady]

8. that's a lot to take in

family stuff can be weird.

:hug:

[texanwitch]

9. His son sounded like my father, the same voice.

How creepy is that.

It was so strange to hear my father's voice over the phone.

[grasswire]

10. I think you will be glad you went.

At best, you will find some family members you didn't know previously, and maybe you will be glad about that.

[texanwitch]

11. My brother is in a hospice center,

I quess the end is near.

[suninvited]

12. good luck

your story sounds almost exactly like my own.

[texanwitch]

13. It is just so strange.

Family coming out of the woodwork.

I can't say I am very sad.

I was never hard to find except for my time in the Army.

My name was always in the phonebook.

[Maine-ah]

14. oh, Witch

:grouphug:

I'm sorry. Even though you were not close with your brother, it's good to go. It will put him at ease, as well as yourself..hopefully it will leave everybody with no regrets.

I am youngest of four. I have an older brother who has nothing to do with our family, with no reason. He was raised in a good family, no abuse, physical or mental, with lots of love. My Mom is dying, and my other older brother and I have been taking care of her for a couple of months now. My Aunt tried to talk to my brother who is on the "outs" and he said it is too painful to talk about Mom. He's going to have regrets, and it's something he'll live with for the rest of his life.

Live, Love, no regrets. :hug:

[siligut]

15. Good luck

His need comes at a difficult time for you, you have had enough death for a while. All I can say, and it has been said up thread is that you won't ever have this chance again, so while the timing is unfortunate, gather your strength and go. Because he is the oldest, he has more memories of you, than you do of him. I don't know why you grew apart, but it seems he thinks of you and now, at a time when all stops are being pulled, he wants to see you again, go and good luck.

[GreenPartyVoter]

16. Good luck! *hugs* May the right words come to you when you need them.

[riderinthestorm]

17. What a hard thing! I think though that you are doing the right thing.

Sometimes it doesn't feel like it at the time but I think you'd regret it in the end if you didn't at least make this effort. Who knows, maybe you'll discover that you are more needed than you think. Keep an open mind and heart, and I believe the words will come....

Hugs to you and some vibes for courage and strength.

[applegrove]

18. If it gives him peace then you have given him a great thing and should

enjoy the giving part.