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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:18 PM Original message |
Aging Parents.. |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:31 PM Response to Original message |
1. It always seems that one child carries the load with the parents. |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:41 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. I feel like I am walking eggshells around him mostly |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:56 PM Response to Reply #3 |
5. You Dad is just having hard time letting go of parts of his life. |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:10 AM Response to Reply #5 |
23. I agree...he used to be an engineer..being the patriarch of the family |
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blue neen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:37 PM Response to Reply #1 |
9. Good advice. |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:44 PM Response to Reply #9 |
10. The stress almost killed me. |
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blue neen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:54 PM Response to Reply #10 |
13. It's definitely true that it all the care seems to fall on one child. |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 12:03 AM Response to Reply #13 |
16. What I hated was other people who couldn't be bothered telling me what to do. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 01:35 AM Response to Reply #16 |
18. I don't think I'll have the option of a nursing home with Mom. |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 02:27 AM Response to Reply #18 |
20. With my Mom she really didn't have that much left, she just had her SS. |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:33 PM Response to Original message |
2. does he have a regular Dr? |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 10:50 PM Response to Reply #2 |
4. No regular dr...he was into this homeopathic dr for a while |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:15 PM Response to Reply #4 |
8. oh - that is harder and he is still at risk of being ripped off too |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:06 AM Response to Reply #8 |
22. As far as I know he hasn't been abusive to my mother...but she is concerned |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 10:59 AM Response to Reply #2 |
31. I agree - you're in a very tough situation, but imagine how you and he will feel if he |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:01 PM Response to Original message |
6. You've listed a couple things that are warning signs |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:13 PM Response to Reply #6 |
7. I like the driving alert triggering a check-up |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 01:42 AM Response to Reply #6 |
19. Yikes. Mom has half of those to a degree. |
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Bennyboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:48 PM Response to Original message |
11. Oh Boy Hipchick are you in for a ride.. |
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texanwitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:53 PM Response to Reply #11 |
12. I just about lost my mind for awhiile, so I know what you are talking about. |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 12:00 AM Response to Reply #11 |
15. so sorry, Bennyboy |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Jul-07-10 11:58 PM Response to Original message |
14. he needs a good medical/mental health evaluation, HipChick |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 12:28 AM Response to Original message |
17. It IS hard, HipChick; been there, doing that. |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:03 AM Response to Reply #17 |
21. In some ways..I feel that I need to 'protect' them from my siblings..they tend to try and use them |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:29 AM Response to Reply #21 |
25. Sorry to hear all that, Guess I was assuming they are 'responsible' types. |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:35 AM Response to Reply #25 |
26. Reality is starting to kick in..and I have to really look hard at this situation |
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elleng (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:40 AM Response to Reply #26 |
27. At the very least, you'll learn what a capable person you are. |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
24. I can relate to your situation |
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meow2u3 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 10:00 AM Response to Original message |
28. I took care of my mom until the day she died |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 10:48 AM Response to Reply #28 |
30. so sorry meow2u3... |
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mnhtnbb (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 10:12 AM Response to Original message |
29. Oh, boy. Do I know. I went through moving my father from CA to NC |
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elehhhhna (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 11:16 AM Response to Original message |
32. aggressive behavior is a sign of, well, a few possibilities -- |
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Hell Hath No Fury (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 11:35 AM Response to Original message |
33. I am walking in your shoes -- |
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HipChick (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 12:34 PM Response to Reply #33 |
35. Thanks for your kind words...I do agree that my father does know something is going on with him |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 11:40 AM Response to Original message |
34. my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers about 2 years ago - it's very hard |
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applegrove (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 08:07 PM Response to Original message |
36. Take him to a neurologist. They can do a really simple dimentia test. |
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The empressof all (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 08:16 PM Response to Original message |
37. You might want to check with aging and adult services in your state |
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pink-o (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Thu Jul-08-10 08:38 PM Response to Original message |
38. All of you sound like you're living parallel lives to me. My mom died in 2007. Dad is 86 |
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