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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:22 PM
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Does anyone else sometimes lie awake reviewing stupid things you've said over the years?
On occasion I'll have a night where I play little "scenes of regret" from the past 40 odd year, many stemming from school years: The time my 8th grade teacher overheard me tell a friend I didn't like him (I didn't really hate him; he was just sort of odd), the time a "joke" misfired and hurt someone, a handful of times I was downright mean to people (often in my single days it involved guys I wasn't interested in and I was grasping for a way to avoid a date), etc. etc. Many of these incidences can be explained away by immaturity and lack of life experience at the time, but I'm still ashamed of them.

:(
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MrCoffee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:23 PM
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1. It's not just me who does that???
It's oddly soothing to know I'm not the only one.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:26 PM
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3. I thought there must be someone else out there replaying the reels of shame.
:)
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alarimer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:26 PM
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2. I do the same thing
I remember things I've said or done that, in hindsight, were either embarrassing or inappropriate (at least to me they were) and still am embarrassed about it years later.
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:26 PM
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4. yes
just last night as a matter of fact.
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:31 PM
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5. OMG!
I am not the only one.

:(

:hug:
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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:31 PM
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6. Well, thank goodness I'm not the only one. I've been doing this for years.

Recycling old stuff. Things I wish I hadn't said/done, or done differently.

I wish I could dump those memories like unwanted files in a Recycle Bin, and then empty it.




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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:35 PM
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7. I did that all the time until I was 25. Then I got great sleep from SSRIs. Lately
they have not been working so well. I guess I have alot of worries. But seriously if anyone wants to know how well SSRIs work in terms of putting one to sleep efficiently (even when one is going through hell) just PM me.
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:40 PM
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8. Oh yes. I believe it's an adult thing to do. Keeps us honest
and reminds us not to get overly judgmental, especially with the younin's.
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JitterbugPerfume Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 01:55 PM
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9. it is the curse
of growing older
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LynzM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:02 PM
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10. I have always done this...
I think my oldest remembered embarassment is 1st grade, maybe? There are things I will never live down, in my head... :(
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fadedrose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:10 PM
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11. Yes...not only through the many years (I am 70), but
regretting some of the stuff I did or said that day...
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azmouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:11 PM
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12. Yep
But I try to use those times to remind myself to do better next time I'm in those situations.
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TZ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:13 PM
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13. Yes.
But as someone has said upthread--not lately thanks to my anti-depressants..I do not dwell on the unpleasant nearly as much as I used to.
That said occasionally an incident will trigger a memory and it all comes flooding back... x(
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:26 PM
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14. it's not unusual for me
those nights can be rough
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Chan790 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 02:28 PM
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15. Me.
It's the dumb ones, not the serious things though. Things that nobody else involved probably even remembers.
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Dangerously Amused Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 04:41 PM
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16. Oh hells yeah. There's a cue of them in my head.


Little vignettes of embarrassing or exceptionally stupid things I've done or said.

All I can think of to do about it is to feel the unpleasantness again and think, "I wish the person I offended could know how bad this is still making me feel years later. I wish I could apologize to them, and I'd like to think they'd forgive me."

:(

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LaraMN Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 04:43 PM
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17. Yeah. It's a really short path from my brain to my mouth.
There should be fire doors in there to slow the spread of unfortunate words.

x(
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TrogL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 04:45 PM
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18. That way lies madness
Edited on Thu Feb-05-09 04:46 PM by TrogL
I tell the voices in my head I've done my amends and STFU.
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hamsterjill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 05:05 PM
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19. Oh, thank goodness.
I don't need a therapist after all!
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 05:05 PM
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20. No.
The past is the past.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-05-09 05:10 PM
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21. I wish I could just inject that thinking into my own head.
My brain doesn't cooperate, though.

:hi:
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