Do you hate, absolutely HATE, where you live?

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

On the surface I have everything - I'm fortunate enough to live in a beautiful house in a nice suburb of Dallas. My husband adores me. I have a good job. So why am I so damned anxious to get out? Am I crazy for wanting to leave north Texas for the Bay Area as badly as I do? It was so good to be with my sister and family over Christmas, I cannot tell you. We've lived away from each other for 40 years. Can you blame me for wanting to live near her again? SIGH. I hate feeling stagnated and having to wait for my husband to make a career move.

[alarimer]

1. well I don't

But I live near the beach.

Some suburbs are just so dull and boring that it is kind of soul-killing to live there.

[GreenPartyVoter]

2. I don't have much of a house, but I love Maine and I am nearish my family

I'm not waiting for hubby to make a career move but it sure would be nice if the business would pick up a bit. The economy is sluggish and we are feeling it as much as everyone else.

I hope you can figure out what to do about your situation. *hugs*

[Gormy Cuss]

3. No

:hi:

but I do wish that I lived closer to my large crazy family.

[AlCzervik]

4. i love california just not the part i live in.

thankfully in about 6 years or so we'll be selling and moving to the bay area.

[LeftyMom]

5. What she said. Minus the part about moving to the Bay Area.

:(

Sacramento mostly sucks.

[Fleshdancer]

6. I get the strong itch to move about every 5 years or so

Some people like to stay in one place, and others just don't. I adore Austin but it's time to leave again and my husband and I are thinking seriously about the mountains.

[Der Blaue Engel]

7. Nope. I live in San Francisco.

I can understand why you'd want to come here. :)

[KG]

8. and here i was today digging my little corner of the world.

sorry.

[HEyHEY]

9. I live here, so, no

[sasquatch]

37. That's because you go out and buy that killer weed their

:smoke:

[lost-in-nj]

10. I live in the house I grew up in

not sure if I hate the area
or the memories the house and town hold...
I do want to be out of here by this time next year....

I can not stand the cold anymore, or the snow....
I am familiar here..... I know where to go
for what ever you need.....

but I really think I am beginning to hate it.....


lost

[Blue Poppy]

11. I do...

left San Diego in 2001 (STUPID STUPID!!!) and moved to Colorado. I hate it here. I am like you, great husband, we live in a great area, etc., but I just can't stand it here.
Hopefully we will be moving this year. My best friend has been trying to get us to PDX for years. It will be good to be back on the left coast! :)

[Arugula Latte]

18. Come here!

I grew up in the Bay Area, lived on the East Coast, spent a summer in Colorado (I posted below about that), absolutely KNEW I needed to be back on the West Coast. We've been here (Portland) for more than a decade, and we love it. It has been a great place to have kids, too. Yes, it's grey a lot, but lots of places have much worse "downsides." :hi:

[SPKrazy]

12. let me say I wish I'd never moved here

but then... on the other hand it was moving here that led to my son's existence.

So, do I hate it? I don't like it much. Do I regret it? I can't regret it.

I really have no place that I consider "home" to me anymore. So at this point this is the closest I have to that.

Would love to live somewhere else.

[JVS]

13. Home of JVS= Awesomeness by association

That's just how cool I am

[I Have A Dream]

14. I completely understand what you're feeling.

You miss family, and you want to live in an area that feels more comfortable to you.

I hope that you're able to make this happen soon and still have all of the good things that you currently have.

:hug:

[Oeditpus Rex]

15. Put it this way

The planning commission is comprised of two guys named Matcom and Kohler.

x(

[UndertheOcean]

16. Yes, I hate where I live, a place called planet Earth

sorry for being grumpy

[Arugula Latte]

17. I love where I live, but I understand why you feel like you do.

Sometimes, places do not resonate with us. They never feel like "home," no matter how long we live there. You have a gut instinct to be somewhere else. And, frankly, you live in a suburb of Dallas, which I'm guessing isn't the most progressive place on Earth.

My husband and I spent a summer in the mountains outside Denver, and all the relatives insisted we would fall in love with the place and decide to move there. I tried to express to them how sure I was it would never happen, and how I was even more sure at the end of the summer that I needed to be on a coast, not landlocked in the middle of the country. We moved to Portland and it felt like home (and the Bay Area is also "home" and the place I grew up).

[Skittles]

19. NORTH TEXAS SUCKS, DTBK

f***ing shallow as hell in this area

[AngryAmish]

20. Yes I do

I hate living in Uptown. I hate the murderous thugs in my neighborhood. I don't like fearing getting mugged when I walk home at night.

I love Chicago, I hate Uptown. Just need someone to buy this f'n condo so we can move somewhere sane.

Not all my neighbors are scum, but enough of them are scum to make this a terrible place to live.

[Fox Mulder]

21. I do.

I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. The nearest chain store to me is 20 miles away. I hope to be moving within the next month or so.

[Beausoir]

23. I think you are close to me. Are you looking to move to the Cities?

[Fox Mulder]

24. St. Cloud.

[Beausoir]

32. Ok..I'm in Brainerd. I lived in St Cloud back in the late '80's. It has changed alot since then.

Back then, there was not much to do in St Cloud. It's really grown.

The great thing about St Cloud is how close it is to the Cities. You can zip in for a ballgame or a concert and zip out again. And once the lightrail extends out there, piece of cake.

Cold up here tonight!

[Wcross]

48. I enjoy living away from the sprawl.

I would guess I am 15-20 miles from the nearest grocery store but not in any town. I love it here, no neighbors, no noise, just nature. Wouldn't trade it for anything.

[Beausoir]

22. I sure used to. Lived in Grand Rapids, MI for 5 years. I hated every second of it.

I was lucky to escape.

I was waiting for my husband's career move, too.

[fizzgig]

25. i can't say that i absolutely hate it

but there are times i think i'm going to pull my hair out from boredom (and my crappy job), there are times i wish i could move to the west coast

but then there are moments like i had this morning...coming west off the interstate, the sun rising behind me and turning the mountains purple...this is home for me, at least for now

[distantearlywarning]

26. I love where I live.

Pittsburgh, PA. It's awesome in so many ways.

But I used to live in Colorado Springs, CO., and I hated it with every fiber of my being. Loathed it! I was there 3 years, and they were the worst years of my life. I hate Colorado Springs so much, I have vowed never even to visit there again, ever, so long as I live, Amen! When I moved out of state, I flipped the state welcome sign off as I crossed the border to Kansas. Boy, did that feel good!

[fizzgig]

29. i can't imagine living in the springs

i can think of several unpleasant things i'd rather do than live there

[Scooter24]

27. I don't hate where I live

but sometimes I do wish there was something more to it. I lived in Dallas then Plano and finally last year settled on this gorgeous house in Highland Park. Awesome schools, great neighbors (even if the majority are conservative), and shopping galore. A good word to describe it is "cozy."

But after a while, like you, I just feel like I want to get out of here. We're actually thinking about buying a condo in Los Angeles for just this reason.

[texanwitch]

28. I love my house but I hate living in Houston.

I am happy that the beach is close by.

I would like to spend my half my time in the hill country and the other half at the beach.

[fudge stripe cookays]

30. I was there a couple months ago.

Wanted to get out like crazy. Wisconsin has its great points, but i am still terribly homesick.

Just think of the stuff you will miss when you move and get your fill of it before you leave. Tex-Mex? Blue Mesa? Shopping at Central Market?

I miss all these. But my health is better, so I can't complain. The heat was killing me.

[Blue_Roses]

31. I live in

DFW and I feel the same way. No I don't blame you for wanting out of this hell hole. My husband's job brought us BACK here after three years in Arkansas. I just want out. Period.

[Xenotime]

33. You mean amerika? Yes.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

34. Wow - this post has more replies than I expected

We just had dinner at some friends' in Richardson. They're both from Pakistan, as is Mr. DTBK. The wife certainly seemed to understand my wanderlust - she agreed that Dallas isn't "fun" and understood my desire to live in the Bay Area. I overheard her husband telling mine that someone had told them California isn't a good place to raise kids, but Texas is. This couple is also childless. That would be the very least of my worries! I know California is expensive, but there's so much to do, and I love the people. Someone who lived in Dallas and Houston and now lives in Castro Valley, California was surprised when I told her I thought the people were friendly - but I think they are very friendly in the Bay Area, and the vast majority think like we do politically and socially, which would be a very refreshing change.

The husband was also yapping about people moving to Texas from California and loving it. The reason seemed to be that they could buy a bigger house. I really don't care about that - I am able to live in a shoebox if I'm happy in the area!

[crim son]

35. I have a love/hate relationship with this place.

For ten years I hated it so bad that I could taste it. For the last few though, I'm coming to appreciate if not the weather, then the people in their glorious simplicity/authenticity, and the natural environment. I despise the long winters, DESPISE THEM! but the summers are lovely. I hate the bugs so much that I literally had to be sedated once after a fit of hysterical upset that I couldn't go in my back yard without netting and bugspray... I'd only been in Maine a couple years and it was in-fucking-tolerable not to be able to walk from my car to the front door without getting bitten by a blackfly - but we moved from the lovely countryside to the "city" and the bug problem is minimal.

Would I move if my kids weren't happy here and I had the opportunity? Uh, yeah, I think so. But I don't cry myself to sleep any more.

[Sentath]

36. Rural South East Kansas

Look at my lil avatar flag and guess ) :

[sasquatch]

38. Dude, being a gay bear in Kansas can't be easy

You have it harder than sefardic Jews in Iran and black people in the South.

[Rosemary2205]

41. Being gay anywhere probably isn't easy.

:)

[Connonym]

46. which is why people who insist it's a choice make me so mad

Like anyone would *choose* to live a life of being the constant recipient of discrimination and hate. In my prudish catholic family it's hard enough to live with the shame of being straight and having an unmarried sex life. I cannot even begin to fathom the courage it must take to live an openly gay life.

[madrchsod]

39. try living in the home town of ronald reagen for 61 yrs

i should have moved to madison wisconsin 35 years ago but i did`t....

[Broken_Hero]

40. Yes....nt

[bridgit]

42. It's very cush & comfy here where we live, for most people downtown is white knuckle time...

but we enjoy it, most everything we need is within a few blocks, huge trees, parks, within a block of the capital, etc, though the bay area is nice, we like it there too :)

[Lydia Leftcoast]

43. I lived in two small towns in Oregon

I absolutely loved living in one of them and would probably still be there if I hadn't found the job environment to be crazy-making. I hated living in the other one. People drove out from Portland to patronize the nearby wineries, and they always commented on what a cute little town it was and how nice it must be to live halfway to the coast.

Unfortunately, the town was full of people who rejoiced when the fast food places and big box stores came in and ruined their downtown. It was full of people who fell for the Gulf War ploy of calling up reserves and National Guard from small towns so that there were local "troops to support," which meant that if you criticized the war you were thought of as wanting the kid down the street to die. If it hadn't been for the presence of the college, all the anti-gay measures put forth in the 1990s would have passed there. There was only one affordable restaurant that was any good. There was only a dollar movie theater that got fourth-run movies. A CIA front company was located there, and our state legislator was the mistress of its owner. The cops treated the Latino immigrants only slightly worse than they treated everyone else. On top of that, the entire town seemed to assume that all adults were married--except for the surprisingly high number of teenage parents--, so it was a horrible place to be single. When I finally left to move to Portland, many people said that they were afraid to go there because it was so "dangerous."

[clyrc]

44. I love and hate the place I live in

I live on a University campus in the United Arab Emirates, close to Dubai, and I love the multicultural aspect of life here. I've learned and experienced so much that I wouldn't have if I had stayed in the states, and that means a lot to me. I love the library a block away from my house, and the concerts that take place just a block further away. On the other hand, I miss family fiercely, I worry about the influence growing up in such a monument to capitalism will have on my daughters, and I HATE the class system here. Huge groups of people are treated as sub-humans, and I hate contributing to that by just being here and benefitting from my Westerner status. I go out of my way to treat everyone decently, but it's amazing how hard some barriers are to cross.

Before I lived here I lived in rural Florida, and I hated it. We lived near my husband's family, and I never felt at home there. It was boring and I couldn't make friends and I was so, so happy to move it seemed like a dream.

[sanguinivorous]

45. Wanting to get the hell out of Texas...

...is not that unusual.

[bigwillq]

47. No I love where I live.

I love CT, New England, although it can be expensive.

[Tommy_Carcetti]

49. I love Florida...

But a lot of here people don't. Frankly, I'm a bigger fan of the northern part of the state than the southern part where I currently live--"open space" are two words that don't exist here, whereas North Florida still features a good deal of it (although if some land developers have their way, that will become less and less the case.) But the sunshine and blue skies, warm weather, native plants and wildlife, and beaches--I love Florida.

By the time I was 18, I hated living in Southern Maryland. Now that I've been gone for 10 years, I've come to like it as the place I grew up in, although I still won't be moving back.

[Deep13]

50. nope

It's a nice enough place, not as good as some, but better than many. I really have no cause to complain. My only complaint is that this Midwestern suburb is so generic.

[BarenakedLady]

51. Being away from family sucks.

I would love to live closer to my family (6 1/2 hour car drive away). I miss not being able to visit when I want to. I would love my kids to spend more time with their grandparents. I've lived away for 14 years now. But I do love this area. The school system is awesome. I love my house and land. The cost of living is better than in NE. It's tough though, because I don't have a support system here.

[sagetea]

52. I do not like where I currently

Live,( rural Idaho) we moved here from North of Seattle. I Hate living here so much. We bought our first house here, 3 acres,one acre is our yard with huge trees, our own water, the house is perfect for solar energy, which we are doing very slowly,I have a fruit orchard, huge veggie gardens, a four stall barn (currently empty)but as soon as I pull out of the driveway, this towns reality sets in and I Hate it, the people are small minded and clique`I have no friends no like minded people I can even get close to.
I went to the democrat convention in'06, and there were about three people besides the candidates that came,and they were relatives of the candidates. My neighbors, are fundies and home school their kids, my daughter befriended their daughter that first summer, by the fall that friendship was over,(they told my daughter that she and her family were going to hell unless we went to their church!)
I worked at the grade school for the first 2 years, and felt like an outcast, when on break in the teachers lounge,there was a discussion about raising the min. wage I was literally yelled at for my views by the TEACHERS!!! I don't work there anymore, I work in the nearest city now.
My daughter was learning stuff in the third grade what she learned in K and first grade in Washington.
But when I am home, on my property, in the spring and summer, it is magical, I like to think, that the birds, bees, rabbits etc. like to come to my land because they feel safe that they are not going to be poisoned by the pesticides.
And I'm still a rebel, I like to put up democratic signs, not only for me but simply to piss off the people that see them!!!:evilgrin: