Question about clevage, why do women show cleavage, when they are not comfortable doing so?

[Stuart G]

I know two totally different women who where clothes that show cleavage. They differ in size, shape and age. Yet, both feel very uncomfortable with these particular clothes. They constantly adjust their clothes to get it.."right"..
..I do not know much about women's clothes, but I ask. If it makes them feel that uncomfortable showing themselves with this "look" then why wear them? All I can do is pose the question. I will wait for an answer. thank you..this is not some kind of a joke..I really would like to know...Stuart.

[catmandu57]

1. I don't know

I guess you have to be the right guy looking at it. Way back when the fad was going braless and wearing shirts halters whatever showed the goods best i don't know how many dirty looks I got from checking out the goods, hey they put it out there I couldn't help looking.

[skygazer]

2. This is shaping up to be a fun thread

:popcorn:

[Oeditpus Rex]

3. Pass me some o' that, willya?

Wait — is that the kind with extra sexism?

[DarkTirade]

4. That costs extra.

But worth every penny.

[Fire Walk With Me]

5. Honestly trying to understand each other always brings out the best in people.

;)

[keroro gunsou]

33. you mean...

understanding brings out the breast in people... :evilgrin:

[Rabrrrrrr]

6. So that family-values freepers can get hard ons on their way to their Christian male prostitute

[lost-in-nj]

7. I don't show mine all the time

but I do when I want to feel sexy...

oh yeah and when I know my STBX will be where ever it is I'm going
I like to remind him what he's missing....

oh and guys..... there is a difference between looking and leering....
hell look but don't stare....

:)



lost

[catmandu57]

15. There are some that one can't help but stare at

kinda like Homer Simpson and doughnuts or pork chops. It just depends on who is doing the staring.

[keroro gunsou]

34. a clever aside... thanks to bill engvall

on his last album 15 degree off off cool, bill sums breasts like this:

"women have or should have all the power because of breasts. only breasts can make a 6 month old and a 65 year old man behave the exact same way."

[XemaSab]

8. There's always a fine and uncomfortable line

between dressing sexy and dressing too sexy.

And whether it's sexy or too sexy can change in a minute. :shrug:

[DS1]

9. What do you mean by 'getting it right', The fit or the look?

If it's 'the fit', maybe they ran out of clothes for the week.

If it's for 'the look', I cannot tell you, but maybe they just don't want you looking at them that way :D

[Fire Walk With Me]

10. Just "go Disney". They hate boobs and cleavage.

Pixar's "Knick Knack" before and after Disney:

[sakabatou]

11. Same thing with dubbers

They "clean" all the swearing from the original shows and make it tacky.

[Guava Jelly]

12. I don't know but Buddha bless them for it!!

Thank you to all the lovelies nice enough to show me their cleavage.
:yourock: And my pm box is always open ;)

[amitten]

13. Sometimes I honestly think it's passive/agressive behavior.

They want to show them off so that when someone actually looks, they can get all pissy and offended. Weird.

I don't have any real cleavage but I do have a nice um, caboose. And if I put on a super-tight pair of jeans, you damn well better believe I expect people to look twice. And I'd be silly to get upset about it!

[flvegan]

14. Boobs are proof that God loves us.

[Crazy Dave]

17. Funbags feed babies too

:9

[Solon]

16. This thread is useless without pictures!

:evilgrin:

[CGowen]

25. There was a thread earlier

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=7286209&mesg_id=7287268

[applegrove]

18. Clevage was in last year. I worked at an airport and I don't know if it

was just the well healed clientel or what. But there was clevage everywhere and I kept staring out of shock.

[havocmom]

35. Lots of it on the cop/CSI shows too

Cracks me up. Lots of cops (some female) in the family. Only time I ever saw on-duty cops with cleavage was when they were working vice.

[Dangerously Amused]

19. Hey Stuart.

Why does society encourage women to show off their cleavage, and then judge them with distain when they do so?

[Omphaloskepsis]

20. I didn't get any disdain from his post..

It sounded like a legitimate question.

[Dangerously Amused]

28. As I read it, the premise is

..."Why are women dumb enough to submit to societal pressure to do things considered "sexy" and/or "attractive," when they feel it's wrong for them?


Eh - that's my take anyway.

[Stuart G]

29. Hay..I don't judge with disdain...

I just look at these ladies.. I like to look, and I don't touch...but. They act as if I had just grabbed and squeezed. Now if they are putten it out to see, I gotta see........see?:think: :think: :think:

[Left Is Write]

21. Adjusting their clothes doesn't mean they are uncomfortable with their cleavage.

It could mean that they realized they wore the wrong bra and it's showing or something slipped out of place or what-have-you.

[CGowen]

22. I don't know , probably the same reason for showing the lower back

Breast Obsessed? You probably cant help it

According to a study of 270 male and female college students, the first impression of a woman with large boobs is that she is stupid, incompetent, immoral and immodest.

No one has studied the second impression.

...

Another source believes that men love boobs because boobs resemble buttocks. In the jungle a female primate in heat displays her ass to indicate that she’s ready for sex. The article surmises that once women began walking upright, breasts developed as a way for them to arouse bootylicious thoughts without bending over. Cave babes could now catch a male’s eye coming or going. The problem with this hypothesis is that men in many cultures aren’t obsessed with breasts

http://golferdan.newsvine.com/_news/2007/07/09/825567-breast-obsessed-you-probably-cant-help-it

[Solon]

23. I say that other source is full of crap, women don't need to bend over...

to get me to pay attention to their buttocks.

[MissMillie]

24. women's clothing sucks

especially if you're not a small woman.

honestly, I hate turtle necks and crew necks.

But I'm big busted, and that means my cleavage starts pretty high on my chest.


I'm supposed to look good in an empire waisted shirt, but if I pull the shirt down so the seam is below the breasts (where it belongs) the shirt becomes no longer suitable for work because of the cleavage that shows.


Women's clothes designers have NO CLUE when it comes to the way to dress a woman.

[Fire Walk With Me]

26. Ask Writer. She hides her bosomses with the faces of DUers.

[DS1]

30. err no

I did that

:yoiks:

[Fire Walk With Me]

31. I've heard tell that it's moved beyond Photoshopping into the realm of cardboard cutouts.

[leeroysphitz]

27. This thread is sexist.

Women are'nt the only ones uncomfortable about showing cleavage. :(

[rucky]

32. They're just not comfortable when you're around. n/t

[Maraya1969]

36. They are probably just trying to fix their damn bras because they are so

fucking uncomfortable. I love it when I don't have to wear a bra. If I could fix it where it would not be obviously noticeable I would never wear one.

[Solon]

37. I won't notice, I promise...

*crossed fingers*


:evilgrin:

[Maraya1969]

39. Yea Yea Yea. You're probably one of those guys who talk to a woman's

chest!

[Solon]

40. On a more serious note...

My biggest weakness when it comes to women are their eyes, I see beautiful eyes, and I end up as putty in their hands. So I have a habit of actually LOOKING at a woman's eyes when I speak to them, for me, this has the same affect as if I were looking at their breasts instead.

I'm also more of an ass and leg man as well. ;)

[davsand]

38. My view (looking down) is different than your view from across the room.

I have a wrap style dress that is pretty nice, but it can shift just a bit which could let the top of my bra show. Usually, if I look in a mirror it isn't really showing--but it sure looks like it from my vantage point.

Maybe that is what you are noticing with these women--I dunno.

I rarely wear anything suggestive to work anyhow. Most of the time it is jeans and tops to go out in the field or else "hearing" attire which has to be pretty conservative business attire. I think the last time I showed any leg or cleavage was Halloween when I was a witch.



Laura

[Quantess]

41. How do you *know* that these women are "not comfortable" in these revealing tops?

Have they told you so?
Or, have you reached this conclusion solely because you see them always adjusting their clothes?

As a woman, I'm also wondering what's going on, and I'm wondering how much eye contact you are giving, when you take breaks from gawking at their boobs.

Edit: it may read like I'm accusing you of being a boob-fixator, but that's not necessarily what I meant. I'm also wondering whether some women, as you are saying, really do act preoccupied with fixing their cleavage when men are around. I have not noticed this, but maybe that's because women just don't do it around other women. Or maybe you do stare at boobs a little too much? It's inconclusive.

[dpbrown]

42. Shhhh....just be grateful!

:thumbsup: