Uffda - real winner in today's Miss Manners.

[Rabrrrrrr]

DEAR MISS MANNERS -- My fiance and I decided early on that I would change my last name to his. The funny coincidence is that my first and middle name are the exact same as his little sister (with whom I have a good relationship).

We also receive our e-mail from the same provider, so if I were to change my e-mail address to my new married name, our e-mail addresses would be exactly the same. I also don't care for numbers or nicknames for e-mail addresses.

Being the planner that I am, I am wondering how to handle my e-mail name change, when she already has the e-mail. Can you please advise us of the proper way to handle this?

I hope the poor guy she's marrying knows what a self-focused diva she is, as well as what an idiot she is. This is gonna be a horrible marriage for that guy if he has any sense of self at all.


And now, the answer:

GENTLE READER -- "Us"? You are not thinking, Miss Manners hopes, of suggesting to your sister-in-law that she yield her e-mail address. As in, "Move over, dear, it's my name now."

That would not be a safe way to begin your new family life. Besides, why would you want to clog up your in-box with her mail? Even after you do her the courtesy of choosing another configuration of your name for your e-mail (for example, adding your maiden name between your middle name and your surname) or another server, It is more likely that she will be the one to have the burden of receiving your mail.

:eyes:

If I could, I'd call that guy up and say "GET OUT!!!!! GET OUT NOW!!! SHE'S INSIDE THE HOUSE!!!!!!"

[trof]

1. Sound advice. Leave. NOW.

whew
:eyes:

[JVS]

2. I see several possibilities to solve this problem

1. Put a contract on lil' sis
2. Set lil' sis up with a man and get her name changed
3. Be old-school and go by Mrs. John Smith instead of using her own first name.
4. Change email provider.
5. Consider abbreviation of first name [email protected] instead of [email protected]
6. Add title to email [email protected]
7. One shot! One kill!

[Deja Q]

3. Make it a polyamorous, incestual situation and share everything.

:P
:eyes:

[Left Is Write]

4. Maybe that was someone trying to yank Miss Manners' chain?

Surely there isn't anyone (short of Paris Hilton and Big Brother's Jen) who is that self-absorbed and moronic?

[Rabrrrrrr]

10. I would hope so, but I doubt it - I have all faith that there are many real people

that stupid and self-absorbed.

[grasswire]

5. what IS "uffda"?

I've been asking and asking that question.

And what is "uffda fishda"? Some Swedes I know kept saying that phrase at Thanksgiving dinner.

[pagerbear]

8. Wikipedia is your friend.

Uff da (can also be spelled uff-da, uffda, uff-dah, oofda, ufda, oofta or ufta) is an exclamation of Norwegian origin that is relatively common in the Upper Midwestern states of the United States. It roughly means "drats," "oops!" or "ouch!", especially if the "ouch!" is an empathetic one. In Norwegian Midwestern USA cultures, "Uff Da" translates into: "I am overwhelmed."

"Uff da" is often used in the Upper Midwest as a term for sensory overload. It can be used as an expression of surprise, astonishment, exhaustion, relief and sometimes dismay. The term has been heard among men when a particularly attractive woman enters a room. Conversely, many Roto-rooter and septic system repair trucks have "Uff da" proudly painted on the back.

"Uff da" is still commonly used in contemporary Norwegian. It is usually written in the form "Uff, da" or "Uffda". In Norwegian, it is an interjection used when something is scary, uncomfortable, hurtful, annoying, sad or boring <1>.

[Left Is Write]

17. That is an excellent explanation of uff da.

[Der Blaue Engel]

21. I never knew the origin, though I use uffda on occasion

My mother's family is Swedish, from the Minneapolis area. I guess this could be a crossover cultural thing I picked up somewhere along the way. But I usually use it in the "oops" or "ouch" sense. :)

[DS1]

6. I'm fairly certain that [email protected] is available

:eyes:

[Midlodemocrat]

7. Idiot. That's matcom's email.

:eyes:

[Rabrrrrrr]

9. Moran, matcom's is [email protected]

[matcom]

11. YOU are the idiot

my email is: [email protected]

:eyes:

GAWD haven't you sent me ENOUGH Nigerian emails to remember by now?

[Rabrrrrrr]

12. Like it matters - you never respond to me, anyway, you cruel bastard.

:cry:

[matcom]

14. i sent you all my bank account numbers!

and I WANT my damned money! :grr:

[Rabrrrrrr]

15. But you sent no flowers, you cad.

:cry:

[EstimatedProphet]

13. No need to worry about warning the guy

I'm sure he'll figure it all out when the wedding ceremony starts and she insists that everyone in attendance bow down before her.

[Rabrrrrrr]

16. I hope so!

Poor guy.

[Left Is Write]

18. Oh, the warning will come before then.

When she insists that all of her bridesmaids be of uniform size and shape, wear identical makeup and hairstyles, and get matching shades of spray-on tan.

Warning will also come when she blows up at the florist for making the flowers peony pink instead of princess pink. And when she screams at the seamstress for doing the alterations "wrong" and making her look fat.

And when she issues a dress code to her invited guests that requires all the women to wear a black formal dress of her choosing and the men to wear black tuxedos.

It will come the first time she says, "But it's myyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy!" and every time afterward.

The question is: Will he heed these many warnings?

[LeftyMom]

19. Surely her sister-in-law can change her name?

I mean, otherwise the bride-to-be may have to use a nickname or some numbers in her email, and really, we can't have that now can we?

[Manifestor_of_Light]

20. When I was married.....

I never changed my last name, because I didn't want to be "Mrs. Asshole".

I'm divorced now.

:rofl: