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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 10:55 AM Original message |
Question for parents and those considering becoming parents. |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 10:55 AM Response to Original message |
1. as the mother of a teenage boy I have only 3 words for you |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:38 AM Response to Reply #1 |
5. uh-oh. |
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MissMillie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:43 PM Response to Reply #5 |
22. sorry |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:46 PM Response to Reply #22 |
58. No need to apologize. I asked for your honest feelings. |
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Serendipitous (216 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:44 PM Response to Reply #1 |
56. I concur. |
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Sequoia (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:32 PM Response to Reply #1 |
70. For years I didn't want a child because I thought I'd be lousy. |
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Dora (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:03 AM Response to Original message |
2. I was like you... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:40 AM Response to Reply #2 |
6. "If what you want to do is love a child unconditionally..." |
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skygazer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:10 AM Response to Original message |
3. Well, quite honestly, I didn't decide to have kids |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:42 AM Response to Reply #3 |
7. Thanks skygazer! |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:33 AM Response to Original message |
4. Being a parent has been a paradox for me. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:46 AM Response to Reply #4 |
9. Thanks Shine. |
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geiger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:02 PM Response to Reply #4 |
13. I agree; it's the best and worst thing you'll ever experience |
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ileus (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
8. Kids are the devil and suck up all your funds and time. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:35 PM Response to Reply #8 |
26. I know I wouldn't have been able to handle it any younger than I am now. |
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davsand (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:54 AM Response to Original message |
10. Kids are a gift--absolutely no doubt in my mind. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:39 PM Response to Reply #10 |
27. Thanks Laura. |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 11:57 AM Response to Original message |
11. I was never going to have kids...and then I ended up with two. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:40 PM Response to Reply #11 |
28. That's the question I always ask myself. |
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geiger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:01 PM Response to Original message |
12. I was the oldest of eight and had no desire to have kids, but thought |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:42 PM Response to Reply #12 |
29. Thanks for your honesty, poli speak. |
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underpants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:08 PM Response to Original message |
14. My wife was 41 and I was 38 when we had Josie almost two years ago |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:43 PM Response to Reply #14 |
30. That's how I feel, any younger than this I would never have been able to handle |
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commander bunnypants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:15 PM Response to Original message |
15. Keira is only 3 1/2 months old. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:45 PM Response to Reply #15 |
32. Thanks CB! |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:26 PM Response to Original message |
16. I think you and your husband need to figure out exactly why both of |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:47 PM Response to Reply #16 |
34. Yeah, I definitely don't see myself ever having more than one. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:29 PM Response to Original message |
17. It's the hardest job you'll ever do. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:50 PM Response to Reply #17 |
35. The part that scares me is that I already feel like I get no time to do what I want |
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commander bunnypants (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:53 PM Response to Reply #35 |
38. you rarely dont but you change! |
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Hard_Work (283 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:32 PM Response to Original message |
18. Gotta tell ya, |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:51 PM Response to Reply #18 |
36. Thanks HW! |
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youthere (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:39 PM Response to Original message |
19. I have three kids... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:16 PM Response to Reply #19 |
40. That makes total sense. |
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slj0101 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:40 PM Response to Original message |
20. The SO and I are considering adoption. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:20 PM Response to Reply #20 |
42. We talk about that too. |
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Omphaloskepsis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 12:40 PM Response to Original message |
21. I have always been in this camp.. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:21 PM Response to Reply #21 |
43. Thanks for your honesty. Fair enough. |
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seemunkee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:05 PM Response to Original message |
23. I have two |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:22 PM Response to Reply #23 |
44. Thanks seemunkee. How old were you when you had your first? |
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seemunkee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:31 PM Response to Reply #44 |
48. We were 29 |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:08 PM Response to Original message |
24. I got knocked up in the usual way |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:25 PM Response to Reply #24 |
46. I wish I could just wait another year. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:33 PM Response to Reply #46 |
49. Well, you could go get your hormone levels taken and get a good gyno exam |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:51 PM Response to Reply #49 |
59. Great advice. |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:57 PM Response to Reply #59 |
91. take the trip first |
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izzybeans (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:14 PM Response to Original message |
25. My wife and I never planned on having kids. But we had a happy little accident. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:27 PM Response to Reply #25 |
47. That's beautiful izzybeans. |
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liontamer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:44 PM Response to Original message |
31. not a parent, but have you considered adoption? |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:35 PM Response to Reply #31 |
50. Yeah, my mom was 41 when I was born. They had my childhood home on the market |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:45 PM Response to Original message |
33. I was married 5 years before having a child |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:37 PM Response to Reply #33 |
51. Thanks av8trdave! |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 03:09 PM Response to Reply #51 |
63. Thanks...he's a great kid! |
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Karenca (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 01:52 PM Response to Original message |
37. This might sound a little strange -- but the thought of having a child had |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:39 PM Response to Reply #37 |
52. Thanks Karenca! |
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Karenca (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:44 PM Response to Reply #52 |
55. Your welcome! To look back now, and remember how having children was |
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VenusRising (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:10 PM Response to Original message |
39. I just want to thank you for starting this thread. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:41 PM Response to Reply #39 |
53. Thanks VenusRising! I hope this helps you too then. |
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NewWaveChick1981 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:18 PM Response to Original message |
41. My husband and I grappled with this particular issue. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:43 PM Response to Reply #41 |
54. Thanks NWC! |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:23 PM Response to Original message |
45. . |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:45 PM Response to Reply #45 |
57. Thanks Maine-ah! And she sure is cute! |
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YankeyMCC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 02:56 PM Response to Original message |
60. I was ambivalent about having a child the first few years of my |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 03:02 PM Response to Reply #60 |
62. No, not a tangent at all! I definitely feel that I only want one child and know |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 03:02 PM Response to Original message |
61. What's missing from your post for me |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 03:55 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. Ahhh, excellent question. |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:19 PM Response to Reply #64 |
67. May I respectfully suggest that YOU |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:53 PM Response to Reply #67 |
71. You knew I was an artist? |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 06:20 PM Response to Reply #71 |
77. It's NOT TRUE. |
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Evoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 04:47 PM Response to Original message |
65. Me and my gf have similar feelings. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:57 PM Response to Reply #65 |
72. Well, once you finish grad school and get married you can see how you feel |
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NC_Nurse (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 04:57 PM Response to Original message |
66. I started to tell you my experience... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:59 PM Response to Reply #66 |
73. That helps. Believe me. Even just hearing everyone's different stories helps |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:25 PM Response to Original message |
68. My wife was very anxious...I was "agressively indifferent" about parenthood... |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 06:01 PM Response to Reply #68 |
74. Thanks ALiberal Sailor! |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 06:04 PM Response to Reply #74 |
76. It's impossible to overstate, or even predict... |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 05:29 PM Response to Original message |
69. Times like this have me turning to one thing: |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 06:02 PM Response to Reply #69 |
75. I vaguely remember that episode. It wasn't very meaningful to me at the time |
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gbate (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 07:41 PM Response to Original message |
78. You're worried about too much. If you want a child, have one. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:06 PM Response to Reply #78 |
83. That's easy to say. |
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gbate (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 07:49 PM Response to Reply #83 |
93. See, I just cannot see feeling that way about my children. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 07:46 PM Response to Original message |
79. I didn't decide. |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:18 PM Response to Reply #79 |
84. I guess that might sound more appealing if I didn't live in freaking Illinois. |
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xmas74 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 05:55 PM Response to Reply #84 |
92. A change of scenery might do you some good. |
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electron_blue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 08:07 PM Response to Original message |
80. People ambivalent about marrying someone shouldn't marry that person. I think there's a parallel for |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:20 PM Response to Reply #80 |
85. Thanks eb! You make a very good point with that comparison. |
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Lost-in-FL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 08:23 PM Response to Original message |
81. Grace, I'm sailing in the same boat here |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:25 PM Response to Reply #81 |
86. So much of what you said rings true to me. I don't think the issues you describe |
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dropkickpa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Fri Mar-30-07 08:41 PM Response to Original message |
82. I was 24 when Dropkid was spawned |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:26 PM Response to Reply #82 |
87. Thanks dropkickpa! |
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tigereye (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:35 PM Response to Original message |
88. I was also about 37 when we decided to try |
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grace0418 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:46 PM Response to Reply #88 |
89. Thanks tigereye! I spent the first decade after college being too poor to |
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Karenina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-01-07 02:27 PM Response to Reply #89 |
101. More considerations |
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Left Brain (895 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
90. grace, I can tell you |
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Generic Brad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 07:55 PM Response to Original message |
94. What worked for me may not work for you |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 10:05 PM Response to Original message |
95. I don't have kids, but a friend of mine |
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REP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 10:11 PM Response to Original message |
96. It's Okay to Not Have Children |
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mike_c (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
97. don't do it.... |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Mar-31-07 11:25 PM Response to Original message |
98. I think it is great that you are questioning these things before having a child, but |
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grannylib (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-01-07 02:01 AM Response to Original message |
99. I think it's a very individual thing, too hard to generalize much, sorry! |
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LibDemAlways (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-01-07 02:17 AM Response to Original message |
100. You've already been on the receiving end of a |
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philosophie_en_rose (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-01-07 02:57 PM Response to Original message |
102. As a non-parent, I suggest borrowing kids. |
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Strawman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-02-07 12:06 PM Response to Reply #102 |
105. That's a great suggestion |
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lildreamer316 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Apr-01-07 03:53 PM Response to Original message |
103. I did not know I was pregnant until I was 5 months along. |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-02-07 03:42 AM Response to Original message |
104. We're about to take the plunge.... |
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