I hate being home

[MissMillie]

My son and his friend (who lives w/ us) are just so overwhelmingingly inconsiderate, and sometimes downright mean.

I'll be in my own place in a couple of weeks, but in the meantime, it just breaks my heart to even look at my son. For all that I do for him, he can't even do the simplest of things when I ask. (I asked him to go to the bank for me yesterday, and he didn't and now I've bounced a check.) It's be one thing if he were busy, but he has school only 2 days a week and he only works 2 nights per week.

Last night they had friends over. At 2:30 they were hooting and hollering over something on the TV and they woke me up yet again.

He's thoughtless, and I didn't raise him to be that way.

It's like I mean nothing to him.

Damnit, I hate feeling like this.

[Bassic]

1. Well that is just shitty.

I can't even imagine how crappy this must make you feel.

You probably need one of these :hug:

Edited because I had invented a new word.

[bigwillq]

2. How old is he?

:shrug:

[MissMillie]

3. 19

going on 9 apparently

[bigwillq]

5. A few more questions:

Is he in school?

Why does the friend live with you?



Sorry for all the questions but I liked to be informed of a situation before I judge.

[MissMillie]

6. My son is in school

although he's not doing well. He had a scholarship for tuition and lost it last term because of his grades.

The friend lives w/ us because his parents are moving out of state and he wanted to stay here to go to school.

[bigwillq]

7. Well in my opinion

and take it for whatever it's worth...believe me I have no schooling in the subject and I hate to judge but


Your son needs some help. He needs some help with his schooling. It's a shame that he was given money for tuition but lost it because of poor grades. I am well aware, from personal experience, that school is hard, esp. the first few semesters.

I was put on probation my first semester but I made a decision to change schools and since I changed my GPA was always over a 3.0.

That's his first step.....get on the ball with school.

Secondly, I don't think it was a good idea for the friend to move in. I understand the situation but you are not this kids mother and it shouldn't be your responsibility to take care of this kid.

As far as the noise and partying goes, I think it goes hand in hand as to why his grades are slipping.

I think he just needs some lifestyle changes and someone to kick him in the ass to wake him up.

[MissMillie]

8. I'm making a lifestyle change

I'm moving out.

The reason why my son failed his first semester is because he didn't go to class.

He also inherited a heap of money last year, which he has pretty much pissed away.

He's had more kicks in the ass than I'm able to give. I'm leaving. I'm done. I can't control his behavior. I can only control mine, and I'm not going to live like this anymore.

I'll always love him. But his behavior, besides being self-destructive, is inconsiderate and unacceptable. And I'm not a doormat, and I won't take it anymore.

My move is less than 2 weeks away. It's just hard to get anything done to get ready for this move because I hate being home.

[bigwillq]

10. I think this is a good decision.

You need to do what's best for you right now.

Hopefully your son realizes some things before it's too late.

All the best.

:hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

4. I'm sorry MissMillie.

He'll come around. :hug:

[Courtesy Flush]

9. Time for eviction notices

Maybe you're not the type to throw your son out, but the friend has got to go. I can't believe you're tolerating this!

My mom had a friend who went though this. The son is in his mid twenties now, and STILL making her life a living hell. He won't work, and he demands they give him spending money every week. When the mom retired, the kid once told her how disgusted he was to see her sitting around the house!!! He's never worked a day in his life.

Periodically, he demands that Mom and Dad pay for his trips to Las Vegas with friends (and they do it!). My suggestion: Pay for the trip, and Junior will return to an empty house where his key doesn't fit. They are renters, and they're retired. They need to just sneak out of the state and be done with it. They live in fear of their own child, with no end in sight.

This is your future if you don't put an end to it now!

EDIT: I just noticed your "Lifestyle change" post above. Good for you!