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I don't want to talk about the specific situation right now (my husband didn't leave me, though). I got incredibly baked last night though while I was still sad and this occurred to me. Many people mourn the loss of friendships and romantic relationships. They are sad and upset. This might cause them to talk to others for a long time about their hang up, make life uncomfortable for the said person (even unintentionally), develop problems in other areas, and write sad songs. It hurts to be dumped whether it is romantic or "just friendship". They go over the relationship in their mind and blame themseleves or the other person, usually both. They think how much they cared for the person and would do anything for them. This last part is not entirely true if they really care for the person. If they cared for them, they will give the person what they want, which is to be free of them. The obsession about being dumped is about one's own pain of not having the other person in their life. It is about what that person gave them, not what they would give the other person. If you really care unselfishly about this person, you have to get on with your life knowing that it is for the best for both you and the person you care for, but who no longer cares for you. Now that I realize this, I know how to feel about the situation and hope to be at peace with this. I don't know why I didn't realize this earlier.
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