Married or committed DUers : How did you know when you found "the one" ?

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

This question is not only for married DUers but lifetime partners as well :)

[momophile]

1. when he was the first person I wanted to tell my good news

basically, when he became my best friend. (please no puking sounds)

[spacelady]

35. and bad news, too. Someone who cared about me in a way that

was totally different than the caring about parents, siblings, friends. That caring was complete and unconditional, but the most complete caring focus was on ME and our building a life together.

[RetroLounge]

2. Not sure if I have yet...

Time will tell.

RL

[lildreamer316]

3. Eh...ummm..

We just...knew.
Sorry, that's not very helpful.
We DID sit around every night after work (we worked in a club together, so from 3:30 am until) often for hours until the sun came up (one day until 9:30 in the morning!) talking and talking and laughing and talking.
Then he would drive 2 hours home.
After about a month and a half of that, we moved in together.
Been that way ever since.
Everything clicked, the passion never fades, we always have something to talk about.
We fight very spiritedly, but it's that passion-because-we-love-each-other-so-much kind. Instant forgiveness.
(both fire signs).
I dunno. If I come up with any enlightening things,I'll repost. 'Fraid I haven't been much help.

*I will tell you something: he is EXACTLY what I asked for.
I sat down and made a mental list of what things i wanted and what traits I could not put up with in a partner. He fits those EXACTLY. However,be careful to make sure you are specific, but leave room for Universe to work.

[Haole Girl]

4. When you know...you know.

I think this has been said, and it sounds cliche. But it was true...in my case, anyway.

[BarenakedLady]

5. Well I don't think there is such a thing as "THE one"

I feel more or less that there are oodles of (ok, maybe not oodles, just more than one) people on the planet that would make a good fit. Sometimes people get lucky and stumble across them along the way.

I don't know exactly when you know it's one of those good fits, though. I'm sure it is different for everyone.

[trof]

9. Agree.

I think there is more than one person you could be happy with.

[BarenakedLady]

12. And often at the same time...

Though it does complicate things. :shrug:

[Gormy Cuss]

30. I lost several bfs when I voiced that opinion.

Just as well. It's probably a good test.
I think that there are many people who are potential life partners, people who can make one's heart sing. The hard part is finding one of them.

[NewJeffCT]

36. well, maybe not oodles for me

But, I agree with your idea that there could be several that I would have been happy with... Jessica Alba, Zhao Wei, Heidi Klum, Traci Bingham, Alyssa Milano, Winona Ryder, Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry... and a few others.

[HEyHEY]

6. The first thing she said to me was "You're funny."

Not "Get away from me you fucking bastard" or "I'll scream."
I was pretty well done from there.

[Tyo]

7. He came over for dinner...

and never left. :loveya:

[Guava Jelly]

8. I don't think you ever know.

I think people change over time and not always in the same way.
I don't believe "the one" exist.At least for me.
Now i do have a few unrealistic fantasys..But thats all they are.
The best you can do is find a kindred spirit work hard and hope for the best.

[NewJeffCT]

10. When she held a gun to my head

And said "marry me or I pull the trigger"

Nobody seems to believe me when I say that, though.

[Dangerously Amused]

11. Damn. Every time I try that they call my bluff.

:(

[Guava Jelly]

14. You wouldnt have to hold a gun to my head D_A.

You would be a hell of a catch for any guy.
:loveya:

[Dangerously Amused]

20. *Any* guy? Aw, thanks.

I'd settle for one good one, though.



:hug:



:loveya:

[Guava Jelly]

28. He wouldn't be settling for you though.

He be damn lucky to have you!
:hug:
:loveya:

[NewJeffCT]

15. I wonder why nobody ever believes me?

I mean, can you just see the mean streak here?

[Dangerously Amused]

17. Like she even needed the threat of a gun.

She could just kick your ass.



:7

[billyskank]

19. Hey

I said yes. I'm just bummed that you're so far away. :(

:hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

24. I know, but

...I didn't know if you meant, "Yes, I'll marry you," or "Yes, pull the trigger."



:P













Teasing sweetie. :*


I think we should get Rev. Cheese to perform our ceremony in a wedding thread. That way we could invite the whole Lounge.



:7

[billyskank]

25. I don't remember there being a gun involved

:P


:loveya:

[Dangerously Amused]

26. I have to kiss you. Now!

:loveya:

[billyskank]

27. ....

:*

[bertha katzenengel]

13. When I had a new year's message on my voice mail

I was very slow to realize this was love.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

16. She could dodge bullets. -nt

[Left Is Write]

18. I don't know. I just did. Almost immediately.

[Miss Marmelstein]

21. I've said this before.......

I fell in love with my husband the minute I saw the size of his....





















TRUST FUND!! :rofl:

:bounce::bounce:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. Bingo!

You are too funny, my dear Miss Marmelstein!

:woohoo: :woohoo:

[femmocrat]

32. ROFL! n/t

[Maestro]

22. When I tried to picture my life without her

and couldn't. Don't get me wrong, there were plenty of temptations and such but when it came right down to it, I just didn't want to screw up a good thing. Now I have two beautiful kids by her and I know I made the right decision.

[mainegreen]

29. After two weeks I didn't hate her. In fact I still liked her a lot.

I have a very low tolerance for people in person and generally prefer my own company. My wife is just about the only person who's company I enjoy for any length of time. Of course, if your not as anti-person as I am, knowing if you found the one might not be as clear cut.

[femmocrat]

31. I literally saw him "across a crowded room" and knew he was the one!

That was nearly 40 years ago! We are still together!

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

33. Lucky you :)

[riderinthestorm]

42. 20+ years for me. And I knew instantly too

(although it was across the manure pile dammit, not nearly as romantic as "across the room"...)

[WCGreen]

34. I got this rash.....

That's when I knew....

[BelleCarolinaPeridot]

37. LOL.

[MountainLaurel]

38. When he quoted "Airplane!"

In the course of regular conversation.

[Broken_Hero]

39. A few things...

she could take care of herself, was family oriented, honest, caring, and very nice...:)

The bonus was...

She felt the same way about me...and we clicked together very well...our sense of humor, intelligence, social behaviors fit hand in hand...

Plus, we lived together for over a year, and nothing changed, except our love for one another got stronger...it just felt right to me.

[petronius]

40. She told me... And then she tracked me down and told me again!

:silly:

[Floogeldy]

41. If you do not know, then you do not know.

When you know, then you will know.

It is different for every person. You will know. Make no mistake about it. If you do not know, then do not do it. When you know, it is a done deal. If you have doubts, don't do it. If your doubts are outweighed by knowing knowledge, then do it.

Sure, it might be a mistake but do not make a move unless you know it is right. In other words, when the feelings outweigh the doubts, then pounce on it.

Follow your heart. Do not let your brain screw things up, unless trust prevails.

;)