What is it about men and toilets?

[baby_bear]

This is a rather delicate subject, but one I am seriously ignorant about. I am recently
married and my husband moved in with me. The toilet is sort of sequestered in a nook in
the bathroom. The area reeks of a urine smell. I clean the toilet, the floor and the walls,
and two days later it reeks again. What is it with men? They can't hit the bowl or what?

I mentioned it to my husband and he was highly incensed. He said it was probably me. I said
"I sit."

Is this just something I should accept and wash the bathroom every day?

Ironically, I have another bathroom, but it's dedicated to my cat's litter box. Maybe I should
ask my husband to use that.

b_b

[SaveElmer]

1. Well sometimes it's like a gun with a crooked barrel...

When the bullet comes out you don't always know what direction it will shoot...sometimes it takes a second to straighten things out...

However...men should always perform the wipe around to avoid the problem you are describing. Some men are just slobs!!!

[eyesroll]

2. Check the following areas:

• Tile grout
• Baseboards, especially the seams
• The screws (or the caps over the screws) that hold the seat onto the toilet and the toilet onto the floor
• The gasket around the toilet

These areas tend to trap debris. Give them a good cleaning, and make sure the toilet isn't leaking.

It's less likely that the bathroom is getting that messed up in two days, and more likely that there's something trapped somewhere (and perhaps the smell of cleaning products masks it for a day or two).

(I write about this stuff for a living.)

[Submariner]

5. Check the following areas: ???

I think you meant "HAVE YOUR HUSBAND Check the following areas". You don't want a rep at DU as a female chauvinist piglet do you? :o

[eyesroll]

8. I meant it generically as an instruction.

Whoever is doing the cleaning should check out those areas.

And what's wrong with a woman checking to see if the toilet is leaking? If it's not her husband making the mess every two days, then it's equally her problem.

I should add, though: If he is making the mess, and it's not a problem with build-up or plumbing, then he should be cleaning it up. If it's not anyone's fault, then whoever is more competent at diagnosing a toilet problem should be the one doing the checking. In my house, that would be me.

[baby_bear]

9. Wow, thanks for the tips

And yes, it will be ME. He doesn't smell it, so he won't clean it.

thanks again

b_b

[LSK]

3. your husband got incensed about this??

:wtf:

[China_cat]

4. If nothing else works, get a good enzyme

cleaner that you'd use for cat accidents...Nature's Miracle or Urine Gone...and store them in that bathroom. Preferrably out where they are prominently visible.

[Orrex]

6. Maybe the bathroom should be incensed

To help with the smell?


My overwhelmingly funny commentary aside, unless your husband is in gradeschool, this sounds like something that he should have worked out years ago. Give him the job of cleaning the bathroom and let him see what a fun time it is for you.

When firefighters put out a blaze, they don't hold the hose from the hydrant-end. They hold it near the front, to maintain control.

[redqueen]

7. who knows... make him clean it! n/t

[malta blue]

10. Funny, I was just having this conversation with some others

First, do not, I repeat, DO NOT, have a rug near the toilet. They can't help it, it just splashes. (I do know of some men whose mommies taught them to sit to eliminate the problem, so if you have a son...)

Keep a pack of disinfectant wipes in the toilet and ask him to wipe down the seat and the area around the base of the toilet. You will find the smell going away.

[NewWaveChick1981]

11. I have a brother and have been around him for all but three years

of my existence, and I've been married for 14 years. If you keep the bathroom clean otherwise and smell urine, it comes from guys not aiming (or missing when they do), and backsplash or dribble runs down the toilet bowl. You did not cause this---HE did. :) You are not responsible for cleaning up dribble---HE is. In my house, if YOU make the mess, YOU clean it up. Hubby wasn't even aware that he was doing this---but I set the record straight. He has his own bathroom and is responsible for cleaning it. If he goes in my bathroom and I smell anything resembling urine, he has to clean my toilet too.

You can tell if there is "dribble" by checking the bowl from the rim to the floor and look for yellow track marks. Gross, I know, but since you sit when you pee, it's not your doing. Hand him the cleaner and a rag and tell him to clean up his mess!

[kiraboo]

12. I need to tell you,

you'd better set him straight on who is responsible for cleaning up the urine, and you need to set him straight right now. Otherwise you are doomed to clean up after your man forever and ever. People need to be trained to accommodate their spouses, whether they like it or not. It's part of being married!

[Radical Activist]

13. Well, if your husband does it must be that ALL men do.

[noonwitch]

14. Buy him some Chlorox wipes, so he can clean up after himself

One of my friend's husband has a similar problem. They have separate bathrooms, because she got so sick of it.

[Midlodemocrat]

15. He should pee outside, like a real man.

:hide:

[Deep13]

16. Not "men" but "man"

I don't miss.

[RagingInMiami]

17. Put a box of baking soda behind the toilet.

That helps absorb the odors.

[Blue-Jay]

18. That's why I just piss in the shower.

See? Everyone's happy that way.

[Deja Q]

20. You mean, the problem's gone down the drain?

:rofl:

[Blue-Jay]

22. Hey, pipes are pipes.

[Deja Q]

19. I'm more surprised your husband moved in!

:rofl:

In seriousness, I don't know why men miss the bowl too.

Train him to sit on the bown and point the doo-dah downward. :)

That's what I do. And I never need to clean my bathroom. :7 Well, apart from the dust and mold. But no pee from the wee-wee.

[Ravenseye]

21. Here's what you do

Tell him that he has two choices.

1) Sit when he uses the bathroom at home, regardless of what he's doing. You'll keep cleaning the bathroom. All he has to do is sit when he pees. That's it.

2) He can stand when he pees, but he has to clean the bathroom every week. Once a week he has to scrub the floors, the toilet, the walls, anything near the bathroom and toilet.

Those are his choices.

I used to stand and pee and my wife finally convinced me to try sitting. The bathrooms are very clean now. NObody has to scrub the floors weekly to keep the place smelling like a truck stop.

do not accept it. Pee splatters. He can pee standing up outside or in a public urinal. Tell him you are sick of scrubbing up his piss. If he has no problem with you cleaning up his pee, then he's a dick and you should kick him out till he learns his lesson.

[Hell Hath No Fury]

23. Honey, if you wanted to spend your days...

cleaning up pee you'd have a baby and be done with it. It IS your husband's pee problem, he should be cleaning it up or be using another bathroom. You are his wife, not his mommy.

I grew up in a household full of women -- there were four of us and we shared one tiny bathroom. It never needed anything more than the standard weekly cleaning.

When I got my first male roommate and was confronted with the STENCH and pee dribbles down the bowl associated with that sex, I was stunned. Almost without exception, when I have had male roommates, I have nasty, smelly bathroom problems - when I have female roommates, I do not have those problems. The one exception was a gay male who made a point of being neat in the first place and cleaning it up immediately when he was not. Bless him.


Hubbie needs to get with the program. :)

[WritingIsMyReligion]

24. It's HIS piss. Tell him to clean it up.

Either he agrees to sit, and you'll clean, or he stands, and he cleans. You aren't his maid, and it isn't your job to clean up after him.

[Call Me Wesley]

25. Locking.

There's the same rule for threads and toilets:



Respectfully submitted,

Call Me Wesley
DU Moderator