How did you know he/she was "The One"??

[tjdee]

I met up with some old friends last night and saw a guy I'd not seen in some time, who came with his girlfriend. I had a strong reaction seeing him--completely unexpected and not usual for me. The feeling was so strong that I had to try *not* to look at him all night.

Before I left, I was by myself waiting for the restroom, kicking myself for not dating him years ago and wished I had a chance to be alone with him. I looked up, and he was standing there. We must have stared at each other for a good ten seconds before talking--it was definitely a *moment*. But between the girlfriend and the possibility that I'm just being silly, LOL, obviously this isn't going anywhere.

I'll return to reality in a few days, but I'm a cheeseball and I know lots of DUers are married/living blissfully with someone. How did you know that he/she was the one you were going to spend your life with? Come on, get cheesy with me!

[Kat45]

1. Since I haven't found him yet, I'm also interested in the response.

[fairfaxvadem]

5. yes, i'd be interested too...

the latest one that got away, well, i thought FOR SURE...you know, when you get the massive attack of the butterflies and have to turn away briefly and say "OMG" to yourself the first time you meet?

Well...alas, not this time....

[tjdee]

7. I wish there was some kind of formula for it.

A lot of people misjudge "Mr./Ms. Right"...the whole thing is scary, LOL!

[carpediem]

2. comfort -

I know it sounds corny, but I felt comfortable with him. I didn't feel like it was a game, or a competition. I just felt right. Don't get me wrong, i'm not talking about boring I'm comfortable in my old sweats kind of comfort. I am talking about being totally head over heels in love, but completely able to be myself comfort. Does this make sense?

By the way, we have been together for 9 years, married for 7 1/2 and have 3 kids. So i guess he really was the "one".

[tjdee]

4. How long did it take to feel that?

Obviously, the day you met him you didn't feel totally comfortable with him....or did you? How far into it did you notice that you were right together?

It must be so calming to be able to be so comfortable with someone. Congrats on your wonderful family.

[carpediem]

9. actually it was pretty quick.

We met at an after hours bar (how cliche right to meet at a bar?) but then we went to breakfast and talked a very long time. After our first date (4 days later) we also sat and talked a very long time and it sort of just clicked. Since that night we haven't been apart except for 3 nights for business. I know it isn't that helpful, because I can't really explain it except to say, it just felt right. Within 2 weeks he had asked me to marry him and I had said yes. We didn't marry or get officially engaged for a while, but we both knew it was right.

[tjdee]

11. What a nice story...

You just know, huh?

Ruh roh, hope I'm not led to break out the Sleepless in Seattle DVD!

The thing is, so often dating is getting nervous, how you gonna meet him/her, hoping they like you, blah blah blah, but stories like yours make it worthwhile!

[carpediem]

12. just so you understand where I was at

I don't want to make it sound like i had it all together. I was at a point in my life when I was sure the "one" was not going to happen for me (anyone who knew me at the time could vouch for this). I had pretty much given up. But then my friend dragged me out on a night I didn't want to go. I stayed late and there was my future standing at the other end of the bar. All I am saying is when it is right you will know. Don't give up. Just keep yourself out there and it will happen.

[Clark Can WIN]

25. That was us too. We first talked about getting married

about 14 hours after we met. And meant it. And we did.

[tjdee]

Wowie.

I'm of course deeply envious of both of you.

But it helps to know how these things happen, apparently it's a lot less stressful than people make it out to be--a lot less drama.

[tjdee]

41. Wowie.

I'm of course deeply envious of both of you.

But it helps to know how these things happen, apparently it's a lot less stressful than people make it out to be--a lot less drama.

[trof]

47. Bingo, cd!

She was the only girl I'd ever dated who wasn't playing (or trying to play)some kind of sub-tul (or not-so-subtul) head games.
She was just sweet and kind and didn't hassle me about all of my shortcomings. She wasn't a doormat, by any means, but she was a pleasure to be with. She had a great sense of humor. All of the above are still true 34 years into the match.

And one thing that really impressed me. She didn't have as many years of formal education as I did, but she was an absolute SPONGE. Now she knows more than I do.
;-)
(Did I mention that she's also a terrific cook? That don't hurt at all.)

[wtmusic]

3. that little thing she does with her tongue

:evilgrin:

[tjdee]

8. Hehehehe....

[NightTrain]

6. Haven't met her yet, I'm afraid

Beginning to wonder if I ever will....

[Scott Lee]

10. She made me open my eyes while having our first long kiss

No one had ever asked that of me before and quite frankly, at first I thought it was weird.

But then.....ooohhh man. She had done something magical. I cannot describe the power of looking deep into someone's eyes at a close moment like that. It bowled me over, and took me for life.

[tjdee]

38. I've never done that....should try it sometime!

Kissing with your eyes open seems kinda hard, actually. That sounds definitely like a movie moment, very intense.

[Scott Lee]

53. The eyes are the window to the soul

It's an intensely honest moment. It really puts you through the fire so to speak.

[SOteric]

13. I just *knew.*

There wasn't any maybe involved. I just knew.

[fairfaxvadem]

14. is it possible for one party to 'know' and yet...

a delayed reaction or delayed "knowing" from the other, or does it have to happen at the same time??

[SOteric]

18. I can only speculate on that based on experience.

We both knew, but one of us spent a short while in denial saying such things as "it's too soon," "it's not supposed to happen this way," "I'm getting in Waaaayyyy over my head," "We need to take this slow."

Not everyone trusts their gut response. Not everyone even knows how to listen to their inner voice. But I do know that neither of us would have completely walked away uninterested.

[nono]

15. After 41 years, Istill don't know,

Not stupid, Just slow.

[populistmom]

16. My husband told me he knew...

When we had been dating about three months and it was Christmas and I bought him this Led Zeppelin boxed set of cassettes (it was 1990 and CDs weren't in total domination yet). Apparently, it was a 'sign'.

[HEyHEY]

17. I was to nervous to ever make a move and lost her forever

That's how I know

[tjdee]

19. HEyHEY, no way!

Why didn't you make a move? (Um, this coming from a person that wouldn't make a move unless a guy is dangling a neon sign from his neck that reads "I'M VERY INTERESTED IN TJDEE, YES, YOU.")

I know you said you were nervous, but what about this time made you go "that's the one, and there she goes"?

[HEyHEY]

20. even worse

She, in a nice way, offered herself...I froze up....quite tragic. The next day I tried to make amends... she seemed insulted or something from the previous night. That was it, then I learned all about rejection and how third times was a charm kinda thing. After that, I wasn't interested in women for sooo long....then when I snapped out of it...I couldn't talk to them. Oh well, I can keep trying I suppose :shrug:

[HEyHEY]

23. oh shit I didn't answer your question

How did I know truly... for starters I could never seem to upset her...I joke around too much and end up offending many people. She always always always understood my jokes and laughed at them. I consider that a connection because when you are in sink like that it says something. AS well, I always wanted her to be happy..I couldn't stand to see her not happy, or cold, or tired. I figure if you care that much about someone it means something.

In each others eyes we could do no wrong we connected on many levels...plus she is Mexican and used to try to teach me how to Mambo dance. Man, I fell in love the first time that happened. Funny thing is, I was never even intererted in her until one night, I went to her dorm apartment to see if any of her roomates (who I knew better) wanted to do something...they all said no except her. We went for a walk, had an amazing talk on the shores of the saint lawrence river. At the end of the night I tried to convince myself I wasn't interested then two days later I had to admit it to myself.

Anyway I still talk to her and she is one of the most amazing people I know. I pretend I'm over it all and try to get on with my romantic life, but I'm really not, she's just the person I could see myself growing old with. I can't help it, I've never told her and never will. I'm so used to it now that I can be around her without even letting her have a sneaking supspicion I feel this way...oh well ce'st la vie.

This has been a confused self - serving explantion that probably hasn't solved anything by HEyHEY.

[tjdee]

44. But you still have her.

CAUTION: tjdee has seen too many movies.

But you still have a chance, and you still see her from time to time...also, I've had that same thing happen with a guy once. He basically said hey, I'm here for ya, and I freaked out. After that, things were never the same. I haven't seen him since. I didn't think he was the one though...but I did like him a lot.

Sigh. Young love, LOL.

[never cry wolf]

46. Hey, HEyHEY, don't give up..

and don't remain forever mute, that was my mistake.

I met my "one" in high school as a junior, my first and in retrospect, only true love. We dated off and on for maybe 6 years but she was wild and dated mant guys, I was shy and dated few others. We lost contact and then I went off for a year of college in europe. When I got back I found out she had married. I got invited over for a volleyball party one night and had a blast. She had these parties almost nightly, her hubby worked night shift, and I was invited back. We talked and it turned out her hubby was a druggie and an abuser. One night I was asked to stay when everyone else was leaving, we kissed and then we consummated our relationship for the first time.

This led to maybe a month of the most fantastic sex I have ever had. It was a very weird situation, I know, but she was always "the one" in my mind and no woman on earth has ever been as attractive to me in every sense. Well, after a month I was getting ready to ask her to divorce her husband and marry me but before I could she found someone else. I was hurt so badly I was able to convince myself that I had been a fool and she meant nothing to me.

We lost touch again, she married this other guy and moved downstate. almost two years ago I saw her name for the first time on classmates.com and sent her a note. She immediately wrote back and we have been emailing and instant messaging ever since. It turns out her current husband in an alcholic and a mental abuser and she is quite unhappy. I also found out she was sexually abused as a young child by her father which led to her promiscuity in young adulthood and her attraction to assholes.

We are best friends now, both in very unhappy marriages we have stayed in for the kids sake only, but the kids are almost out of the house. We both now know we have found the "one." We can talk openly about anything and would do anything for each other, limited by our current marital status, which will change soon enough. We have more fun with our limited time "together" than either of of has ever had with our spouses. The day will come, I am convinced but I always kick myself for not being more assertive 23 years ago and stating my intentions more clearly. She settled down and has become a great mom but we will now never have children together.

[Wapsie B]

65. Same here.

I can relate totally. I let "the one" get away.

[Kat45]

21. I once thought someone was "the one."

We had a "connection" which was felt early on. At the time, each of us was involved with someone else. But I always thought that someday we would be together, and we'd be together forever. We eventually became close friends. Then neither of us was seeing anyone, and I thought that was when we'd get together, fall in love, etc. Then I found out he had absolutely no interest in me romantically.

Bottom line: I no longer have any confidence in my ability to know that someone is "the one." If I could be so wrong for so long about someone, how can I ever again trust my feeling that someone is "the one"?

[HEyHEY]

22. owie

Sometimes we know things others don't

[regnaD kciN]

28. That's something to keep in mind...

...you only know a person is "the one" tentatively...until the time s/he isn't.

Back in 1976, I returned for my junior year at college and, on one of the first days, saw this girl walking across the quad. It was one of these standard "love at first sight" moments -- I knew she was "the one." However, I soon found out that she was already heavily involved with another guy. I watched that relationship play itself out for several months, feeling jealous all the time, but figured out it was never going to happen between us (particularly since the other guy was telling his friends that they were going to be getting married before the year was out), and went through a short relationship of my own. Finally, that December, she and her boyfriend had a rather nasty falling-out. By a circumstance too odd to detail, we got brought together on a purely Platonic basis by a mutual friend, and began spending all sorts of time together. Within a couple of weeks it had become much more than a friendship.

It was the most wonderful experience of my life. I felt so incredibly lucky to be with this girl who was as close to perfect as I could imagine. It was like everything I had ever dreamed about had come true. We got married a year and a half later. Our child was born almost four years after that. There was no doubt in my mind that she was "the one," and that I had known it from the first time I met her.

She took our child and left to "think things out" a year after that. She said she was "no longer happy" being married (at least to me!) and that she had "changed." Within a month, she had moved in with her high-school boyfriend (the guy she was with before the guy she was with when she met me...sorry if this starts getting confusing). They got married as soon as the ink was dry on the divorce decree, and have been so for almost twenty years now, with two kids of their own.

Huh...I guess she wasn't "the one" after all. Wonder how I made that mistake? ;-)

In any event, I met someone else, too. Had a long friendship with her, which eventually developed into something more. We celebrated our twelfth anniversary last August. When did I know that she was "the one?" A few months after we became friends, when I realized that she and I were about the only two people (or at least the only two straight people) I knew of who actually liked ABBA's music, and weren't ashamed to admit it to each other. (Seriously!)

[MissMillie]

31. Too many have been "the one"

only to have been "one of the ones" to break my heart.

I know exactly what you mean about not being able to trust yourself when it comes to picking a partner.

[tjdee]

43. You'll get an amen here too.

I've not thought too many guys were 'The One', but my judgment hasn't been that great with regards to dating. I mean, I'm single right now, aren't I??

[Clark Can WIN]

24. I had seen him half a dozen other times and a couple of times when

mutual friends had tried to "fix us up". I am one of the most hopelessly stubborn humans on the faceof the earth. So I wasn't about to be fixed up. I sat right next to him at one gathering because my friends had conveniently somehow left that chair the only one available. I glared at him once and pretended he wasn't there for the rest of the evening. :-(


A couple of months later I went to go see a band I liked in a neighboring city. It was a fun spot and the place was really crowded. I had a table of friends already waiting for me and I went and joined them right away. We were all talking and laughing and having a great time when I noticed a guy sitting at a small table alone. With all of this commotion and laughter, there he was alone. He looked sad and vulnerable. Then I realized who he was. I felt bad for the way I had acted before, so I got up from our table and joined him at his.

The way he smiled at me kept me there. We've been married for 11 years now and there is no person on earth I would rather be with. He's my best friend and the only thing that keeps me sane.

I hope you find that for yourself as well. It's fine to be a cheeseball, it's what makes the world go round :-)
:pals:

[Rowdyboy]

26. I overheard a bar conversation about a Bush I defeated cabinet ...

appointee. Michael and I began out conversation on politics and wound up speaking intimately. We had dinner at my house the next night. The following day, I told my two best friends that I had found what I wanted in life. Six months later I moved in. Fiftenn years later we're inseperable...

Wish I could tell you how I knew, but I can't. I just "knew". He was all I had ever looked for, and the more I saw, the deeper I fell.

Still falling...

[proud patriot]

27. I met my Husband in 7th grade when I was 13 and I knew

how do I explain the feeling the chemical signals
that were firing off I can't . I just knew .

We dated as teenagers then split at around age 17.

I had some wild oats to sow:shrug:

3 years later we crossed paths again and started
dating again and 3 months later were living together .

6 years after that we got married and the following
year had our son .

Dec 9th is our 8 year wedding anniversary but
we've know each other for 21 years now and
I'm only 34 :D

Mr. proud patriot is my best friend

[tjdee]

40. That's what I want for my kid....

I want her to have that kind of long term thing. People waste so much time (well, I guess it's not their fault they're wasting it!)...the idea of meeting someone when you're young seems so sweet to me, LOL!

What an adorable story you two have.

[BritishHuman]

29. I think it kind of crept up on me

But at 4 in the morning, having been talking for 6 or 7 hourse, I knew.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

30. She could dodge bullets. Nah, just kidding. (nt)

[Dogmudgeon]

32. She dumps me

That's really the way I know she was right for me -- when she decides, for instance, to start dating married men, or comatose men, or any men other than me.

There's only one consolation in a situation like that. But I've forgotten what it is.

--bkl

[trof]

33. She knew first.

It took me a little longer to catch on.
We had a mutual friend who had been trying to get us together for months. I was doing just fine playing the field, and she didn't like blind dates either.

Our friend tricked us into meeting (long story) and Helen says she knew right then.
I was kind of at loose ends for housing (another long story) and I moved in with her the day after the night we met. This was in 1968, when such arrangements were far from the norm.

After a few months I found myself trying to come up with reasons not to continue the relationship. I didn't have any good ones. I know, I know...I'm an incurable romantic.
For some reason it dawned on me that I was ready to quit the dating rat race and settle down. Six months after we met, we sort of eloped and got married.
Next April 12 we celebrate 35 years together.
The End.
;-)

[SpaceCatMeetsMars]

34. I think there are two different issues

I met "the one" in my late twenties, but before that there were a couple of guys that I had the sexual magnetism thing with and some guys that I had the friendship, comfortable thing with. It sounds like you have the sexual thing with this guy, but maybe not so much the friendship thing?

With my husband, I had the friendship thing the first night I met him, then after knowing him as a friend for a few months, the sexual thing hit me all of a sudden and i had to have him and have wanted him ever since.

I think that's the key, because I know couples where the sexual thing was never really there, so they can't rekindle what wasn't there. But with somebody you trust as a great friend and also are attracted to, you can always have fun and make it new.

I think the successful couples I know have both friendship and sexual attraction.

[SpaceCatMeetsMars]

36. And another thing too

There was a girl who had dated my husband before me, but thought she didn't want him. After he started going out with me, she decide she had missed out on the love of her life.

However, she was delusional, they could not have been more incompatible. But she went into a breakdown over it.

I know now looking back, that the difference between me and her is that, if he had rejected me, I would have gone on without a second thought and found somebody else and been happy eventually and had it been reversed he would have done the same.

I think it's like a paradox, that if you can be happy by yourself, you can find others to be happy with, but if you are looking for someone to complete some part of you and expect them to make you happy, it's not as easy.

I had given up on the whole idea of marrying and finding the right person and so had he, and then when it happened that we found each other it was the easiest thing in the world.

[tjdee]

37. Eh, maybe that was it.

The thing is, I knew this guy in college and we never got together (a friend of mine was deliriously in like/lust with him, I dated someone else). We talked all the time, were good pals...and you might be right, maybe I'm like Mr. Calamity Jane's ex (hopefully not a basketcase though!)--over the years I definitely have wondered from time to time whether I missed out on him. I'm a reasonable gal though, and I wasn't all loopy doo over seeing him--until I saw him.

But, like you say, when I do meet "The Guy", it'll be a lot easier going without other nonsense and ridiculousness. It'll be a major relief!

[SpaceCatMeetsMars]

45. I didn't mean to imply that you were like that girl at all!

I guess I just meant to say that I don't personally believe that there is just one person out there for everybody. Maybe you and this guy could have ended up married or had a wild affair or nothing at all would have come of it, but IMO that doesn't mean there aren't all kinds of other interesting men out there that that could happen with too.

If I had been able to talk that girl with the breakdown, I would have said, hey there's six billion people in the world and Mr. Calamity is a great guy, but it's not like he's the last one on earth.

[tjdee]

52. Yeah, populistmom says something similar below...

I mean, "The One" sounds so high pressure and too intense... I don't know if there is a "one" person. I'd like to think there is, though. There have been 2 or 3 guys I could see myself being married to...ugh, LOL, this is why I have been avoiding this whole thing, LOL!

[Nikia]

35. It just happened

We "got together" after I went to a party after a "clarification" of our relationship with a friend that I had "fallen in love" with. I was rather upset and figured being around other guys would help. After that night, he called me the next day and we talked for a while. On Monday, he sat next to me in the two classes that we were in together in college. We were together most of the time since that moment. He seemed quite in love with me and did lots of nice things for me so I just went with it even though I did think things were getting too serious too fast. We did get along well together and were very close soon. We got each other rings for Christmas after starting dating at the end of September.

[tjdee]

39. I'm sensing a theme here...

Lots of you are saying that it went really quickly, and that you spent a lot of time talking. There are a lot of common threads...I will figure it out, I will!

[Nikia]

42. Sometimes friends are meant to be friends

I realize with the friend that I had "fallen in love" with that we were better off as friends. We were having the best relationship as friends that we both possibly could have had. Of course when you are compatible as friends, you are inclined to think that you would compatible as spouses/partners because current thinking is that our spouse/partner is suppose to be our best friend. By extension, we tend to think that if our best friend is of the sex that we have an attraction and do in fact find attractive, that we should eventually be their spouse/partner. That isn't always the case for many reasons. Sometimes, you have to be satisfied with being friends and if you are considering dating a friend, ask yourself if having sex, living together, and sharing each others lives completely and families would really improve your relationship or take away from it. Of course, if you are single looking for Mr./Ms. Right, that might be difficult to do. Also, you can't make someone feel something they don't.
I got fairly attatched to my husband fairly quickly. Sometimes, though, this is a bad thing that can really hurt you if your relationship wouldn't work out.

[populistmom]

48. I'm thought more about this

I actually don't think there is a "one", but often times in life we are fortunate enough to meet someone in which we can connect with on a level of absolute ease in which there simply is no trying involved. It just is. I think, though, that opportunity only presents itself a handful of times and most certainly is something quite special when it does happen. But to those who think "the one" already passed them by and they missed it, don't settle for anything less because relationships are hard enough and when that "click" is missing from the get go, it only makes the struggle greater as time goes by. Just be open to things and life has a way of giving you what you need eventually I think.

[GinaMaria]

49. Had a conversation with my best friend

last year and she told me she was seriously worried about me finding someone. Her fear was that I was too left and that I would never find someone like me. To which I responded that I didn't expect to find someone exactly like me, but I didn't want a republican! I wanted someone with left leaning values. A couple days later I went to another friend's new years party. She introduced me to her husbands friend. We talked and then he unbuttoned his shirt and showed me his anti-bush t-shirt. I was his from that moment on :-)

It was more than that really. I really fell for him new years eve last year though. We talked all night. We had the same view on practically everything. I can't explain the connection. It was just there. I don't know how many other people were at the party. I only spoke with him. 4 months later we were engaged. 3 months after being engaged we were married.

When it's right it's right and you just know. I think you should explore the 'moment" you had. Just see if there is something there. No regrets, that way. If it ends up it's not him, it's possible that he is similar to the person you will fall for. He may look like him, or be similar to him spiritually.

That happened before I met my husband. I thought there was something between me and a guy friend. It just never really worked out. Something was just a little off. when I met my husband, I was struck by how similar the two were. They looked similar, work in the same profession. My husband's disposition is a bit calmer and he's more in tune with me mentally. Again it's difficult for me to explain. It just is. I don't think about it too much. I've surrendered to it. It's bigger than either of us.

Edit:
I will add that he is the only person I can comfortably sleep next to. In fact I sleep better with him next to me.

We spent hours and hours talking. He said he knew the night we met that he would marry me. He didn't say anything about marrriage until we had been dating two weeks. I went through the whole, "it's too soon/fast, slow down. One month into dating, I finally admitted to myself and him, he was/is the 'one'.

I agree with the posts about being complete yourself and not looking for that in another person. The year before I met my husband, I started doing what I love most. I spent that year opening a door to myself. I was the happiest I'd ever been and really didn't care if I found someone or not. I felt completely satisfied with my life. I think by opening the door to myself, I left the door open for Dan to walk through too. In fact the whole reason I met the friend that introduced us was through my art/passion.

[tjdee]

51. For sure--I don't even know *What* I was thinking.

The whole thing was really strange. I was surprised by my reaction, and like someone said in the thread somewhere, just because I was all googly goo doesn't mean he was, at all. I'd like for all of us to get together again (I mean, we are all friends), and I'd like another chance to analyze my end at least. Maybe I was high on carbs or something, LOL. And, he has a girlfriend and I want to respect that...again with the talking all night! There must be something to that, I'm seeing that a lot in this thread.

[Nikia]

54. Then get reaquainted with him

There is nothing wrong with having opposite sex friends. Just keep in mind that you might just end up being better friends, not lovers or spouses. See my post 42#. I have also clicked with friends as friends. Some of these friendships grew to be very close. Some of these friendships faded or in the case of a recent one, ended in outright rejection.

[Cheswick2.0]

50. for me it is a feeling of inevibility

not good , not bad, just meant to happen. It seems like there are times when someone just fits perfectly.

[Booberdawg]

55. For me, it was a process

I was instantly attracted to Randy the first time I met him. He was laid back, charming, attractive, we could not stop talking to each other or smiling at each other. We just both had a smirk with each other that we could not help ourselves overcome. LOL! It makes me smile now to think about it. :)

The setting was a meat market; I was there with several girlfriends, he lived in town but was entertaining several buddies from his home town.

After about 4 hours of getting lost in conversation with each other that night, our respective friends were making predictions behind our backs that we heard about later.

Well, I thought I would just call it a night, and hope to run in to him later, because I REALLY liked him, I mean, I REALLY, REALLY, liked him. He asked for my phone number and a date, and I was a bit skeptical. I'm just not a trusting soul, at all.

So, he sensed my unease and came up with an immediate compromise. A semi-date! Let’s just meet on afternoons! I laughed in his face – but he was so fucking charming and he was sincere.

So, we fell in love on semi-dates. To this day I am not sure who seduced who. I am satisfied to allow him to think he seduced me ;) On frickin semi-dates! Can you believe that! *sigh* He charmed the pants off of me, literally!

That was back in the late 70’s and I raised a boy that he fathered. Long story. He calls once in a while – last time was about 8 months ago. I have not seen Randy in 20 years or more. He tells me he is getting chubby and balding. LOL! He’s 7 years older than me so that would put him in his mid 50’s now.

Everything is relative

[Booberdawg]

64. Would you believe

when I came back from running an errand a couple of hours ago I had a message from HIM on my machine when I got back?

LOL! This is Spooky!

[YellowRubberDuckie]

56. We compliment each other...

I don't mean we say nice things to each other. I mean, we do, but that's not what I mean. He's good at the things I can't do, and vice versa. WE go together well, and we're blissfully happy.
Duckie

[Booberdawg]

58. So, you mean you compliment each other. Just like you said

I get it - you are the ying to his yang:)

[Booberdawg]

63. get this in front of the freeper attack!

[corarose]

66. I believe you meant

The yen and the yang.

[Shakespeare]

67. If you're going to correct someone, you should probably make sure...

...that your correction is actually correct. It's yin and yang.

For someone who takes it so personally when your spelling is corrected, I found this post most ironic.

[soleft]

57. She turned around and it was love at first sight

The next day I wrote this poem, and I posted it on DU, I think Noireblu had started a poetry thread and I was inspired

I just met a girl
A sweet girl with girls
Such beautiful eyes
And I love that her thighs
Make her human and real
The heart she'll reveal
breaks for others and gently
If I let myself be
I think I could see
Myself in her company
Myself at last me

A short while later I think I posted something about how we were together, and I think it was Nothingshocksmeanymore who said, so you gave her the poem.

yeah, I gave her the poem

[VOX]

59. There was a profound, soulful connection from the start.

It was psychic, emotional and physical. We honored these intense feelings, and took things slowly. We spent many hours together and on the phone. There was much shared territory and reciprocity, but with enough differences to make things even more appealing.

Due to the inherent messiness of life, we were actually unable to get together right away -- we were both in dead-end relationships which were ending. We each took a little time off to clear these up, and not bring anything negative into what we had. By the time we got on stream, our mutual attraction was magnified.

That was more than ten years ago. We're married, still attached at the soul, and are happy beyond measure.

I believe it was SOteric who posted above about "just knowing." She's absolutely right, there's no other way to actually explain it --you just know!

[corarose]

60. Ask the opposite question

You find out right away hopefully.

[Padraig18]

61. I wish I knew.

He was gorgeous, courteous and absolutely charming from the moment we first met. He was also intensely interested in me, which is always a plus in a potential boyfriend. Since we've been together, he has shown himself to be warm, kind, loving, tender, understanding, wickedly funny and patient to a degree I never imagined it possible for another human being to be.

Aside from that, I have no idea. :P

[rbnyc]

62. fortune cookie (nt)