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try to set things up so she has some autonomy - her own space etc - think about how meals would work - how do you do them now, do you eat on the fly will she need regular meals etc. Look into services and start using them right away so it becomes a habit that all are used to - rather than waiting months or years to try adult daycare X times a week, start doing it right away, that way you all have a routine time away from each other.
Try to make it clear you are all LIVING together, that it is not a guest/host situation where you have to provide every speck of entertainment, attention 24/7.
Do you have kids? They can be a great asset in this situation, especially young ones, I had a baby when we took care of Grandpa and it worked great to have the baby in a play pen and have Grandpa "watch" him - they kept each other entertained and I could keep an eye at a distance - no way was Grandpa really watching, but it made him feel useful and kept his level of agitation way down.
After Grandpa became more bedridden, the baby was ina walker and I could have the baby take Grandpa a cookie or candy bar and "visit" to help entertain him - they were kind of at the same mental age so it worked well. When adults came around Grandpa would get agitated because he didn't know who anybody was anymore and he was suspicious and paranoid - like I said it was pretty rough.
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