If you had an issue with a partner, would you dump him/her right away?

[Deja Q]

Or work with them, if you really cared?

[MissHoneychurch]

1. depending on the issue

work with him for sure. Only issue I would leave a partner right away would be cheating. Period.

[Hugin]

3. Cheating or being a closet Freeper...

That'd do it.

[KitchenWitch]

2. Depends on how much I had invested in the relationship.

Sorry for the not so helpful answer.

[eyesroll]

4. Depends on the issue, and how long he'd been my partner.

If the issue is "snores too loud" or "really needs to wash his dishes already," I'd probably try to work with him.
If the issue is "wants to move me to Tehran and teach the residents to grow corn" or "thinks his use of alcohol is under control when it isn't," I'd probably be more willing to walk at the beginning, talk later on.
If the issue is "hits me" or "sleeps with my sister," tenure wouldn't matter.

HypnoToad, if this is about you -- you've written about your quest for a mate, and your singledom quite recently. That would suggest that any partner of yours is very new -- and that's what the beginning of a relationship is for. People don't generally want to try to change someone they just met, if that someone has big issues.

[Deja Q]

5. He summarily dumped me in October; precisely 2 months and 2 weeks later.

2 weeks after that and it would have been precisely 3 months.

Of course, he also told me numerous times how he 'loved' me. Maybe like how he loved pudding, I suppose. :shrug:

Still, he divorced his wife and while he had one thing to say about me, it is also true he has a number of personal demons to quash before he's ready for a relationship - however, friernds who know the situation believe he is more inclined to patch things up with the ex. (Good luck to him...)

[Horus45]

10. It really amazes me how so many people use the word "Love"...

so freely, without a clue as to what it really means.
And on cheaters, my opinion is: Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater!
I'll never, ever, give another cheater a second chance.
Getting burned like that should only happen to a person once in their lifetime!
If you don't learn after the first time, then you're a glutton for punishment.

[underpants]

6. Take Letterman's advice (with Dr.Phil the other night)

If you have any problems with someone just end it. There is always someone else right around the corner.

:bounce:

Dr.Phil didn't exactly agree.

[nickinSTL]

7. If you have problems with someone, dump them?

That's...well...idiotic.

My fiancee won't clean the apartment...unless I REALLY bug her about it. (she works maybe 6 hours a week from home, and I work 2 jobs, plus I'm in grad school) But, am I going to leave her over it? Hardly.

[kitkatrose]

8. Having just gone through that (I was the dumpee)

I would say depends on the problem. My boyfriend did, but then he had other issues. Me personally, I'd say depends on the problem. If it's not cheating, or lying about something important (STI status, I've got a kid somewhere, etc) well, I'd say stick with it, at least for a while. There's always time later to dump them after you've tried.

[Ron Mexico]

9. What sort of issue?

If he cheated, dump his ass.

[Deja Q]

11. He did the dumping, but the way he was keeping things I was about to ask.

As to why he kept things seperate.

The relationship was at a crossroads and even I noticed hints a couple weeks from him before the actual let-go.

So I wasn't surprised.

Meh.

[Ron Mexico]

13. I know you don't want to hear this, but

it sounds to me like you got off light. Count your blessings and move on. If he didn't have enough tolerance to make it work before the altar, just thank your lucky stars he didn't start out cool and turn into a dick AFTER.

Some people are finicky, uptight assholes. You simply dated one. It happens. We guys aren't all like that, so wait until you find one worth the time.

Ron Mexico's relationship advice:

1.) Never spend time dwelling on a relationship that didn't work. Aside from the overall uselessness of the exercise, it could and probably will harm your next relationship.

2.) Don't go looking for a relationship - the best ones just happen. By actively seeking one you increase the chances of latching onto someone desperate. I have witnessed or been in dozens and dozens of weddings (I was in the service), and have NEVER seen a case in which someone actively seeking a relationship eventually wound up happy with what he or she found. I know such cases exist, but they're the exception.

3.) Never marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can't live without.

Best of luck. Now forget it and go have a beer.

[bertha katzenengel]

12. If she were beating me, I'd dump her. Otherwise - we are forever. It is

a COMMITMENT.

Period.

Edit: She would not beat me. She would never hit me.

[RetroLounge]

14. Well, nothing is that black and white

when there are children involved.

Leaving isn't the easy option anymore...

RL