Treat your kids fairly

[Godai Kyoko]

My soon to be Ex wife dosn't show up very often to meet with the kids. When she does, it is usually unannounced when they are doing things with friends.

Last week she did make an appointment of sorts. She said she would come by Friday, yesterday, and take them someplace for the day. Yesterday wasn't a school day in Portland. (Teacher training day) So they said not to their friends who wanted to go do things, and they waited for her for the whole day. and waited. She never even called. (She only uses a cell, so if she dosn't answer the cell, she is unreachable)

My boy has the attitude that he dosn't like her. (Not really, he is very affectionate when she does show) but when she dissapoints, he does sour grapes. My Daughter was a bit more angry. Probably because she missed out on a trip with a neighbor girl that she has wanted to do for a while.

They bought her flowers and some strawberries as a mom's day gift.

My kids really aren't that dissapointed. They have known her for years and know just what kind of lemon I pulled from the garden of love. But then again, something real important was broken.

So, if you have a war with your spouse, SO, or whoever, make sure you remember the innocent and make sure they aren't made to be involved.

[Bunny]

1. That's good advice.

Too many people cause their children to suffer because they are too selfish to do the right thing. They will be paid back when their kids are grown, and want nothing to do with them.

[AlCzervik]

2. One the parenting rules i live by is

Never make a promise you can't deliver on, big things and small.