My wife and I are having trouble finding things to do as a couple,

[goodboy]

well, except for, you know...

But she's active, likes to jog, skate, do pilates, etc.

I'm not very active, certainly not a workout guy, I'm a professional musician, so I play a lot, I like to see concerts and movies.

I think finding some activities we can do together would bring us closer, and help us enjoy the beautiful spring weather we're having here in Columbus Ohio. I'll try anything, and I'm a good sport, so let me have it, lounge lizards...

[rooboy]

1. Join a cult...they can usually use hard workers and musicians. n/t

[goodboy]

2. maybe we can be programmed to think we're having a good time

[Robeson]

4. LOL...

...:rofl:

[thinkingwoman]

3. ballroom dancing

you don't need to be a workout guy to do it and your musical background should help you pick it right up.

My hubby and I took several months worth of lessons last year and loved it! (Been married 10 years and were starting to run out of new ways to spend time together except for, you know...)

[goodboy]

5. When I dance,

I usually try to have a beer in each hand, so when people see me they just think I'm trying not to spill my drinks.

I've got a tee shirt that says,"Hug a musician, they can't dance"you'd think I could dance, but no. Maybe it's because I'm used to making the music people dance to, maybe I'm just too self-conscious. I know how that sounds..."how can you play in front of people, but not dance in front of people"
I'm so confident in my playing I never worry about what other people think...but maybe with lessons, as you suggest, I'll do o.k.

[thinkingwoman]

47. that's what the lessons are for. nt

[mistertrickster]

6. Travel . . . it's not that expensive if you stay in really cheap hotels

which you can find in Lonely Planet guides.

Also, nothing like poking through art museums and then dining in a restaurant in which you order by pointing to an entree based on the one word that you think you might know in that language to bring a couple closer together.

[goodboy]

7. I was thinking about some day trips, maybe to Amish country which

is about 2 hours away. We did go to Europe last summer,and we're off to Vegas in June. Travelling is a great idea, and we love it.

Truth be told, I"m trying to figure out what to do on a lazy saturday afternoon/evening, like today.

[Lex]

8. My SO and I went for a nice stroll in a public park/garden today

and spent an hour just enjoying the springtime weather together.

Maybe you two could do that?

[goodboy]

10. yeah, now that I think about it, we should've done that today.dammit.(nt)

[liberalhistorian]

48. Sheesh, this is a depressing

thread for a lonely 'ol never-married single mama who recently turned forty, lol! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

Goodboy, I'd just enjoy being together. A lot of people, like me, don't have that and wish they did. I'm in Cleveland and my mom's family all lives in Columbus, so I'm familiar with that area. There are a lot of beautiful parks in that area, maybe you guys could take a walk there or in one of the nature areas or metroparks?

[cajones_II]

9. Figure out how to become an exercise guy

if you ever tour or do a stadium set you'll want to be in excellent shape.

[goodboy]

11. I know first I'll have to quit smoking, then I have to find an exercise

plan I will like and therefore STICK TO. I was thinking about some kind of martial art. Would that get me in shape?


welcome to du

[GoddessOfGuinness]

14. It'll be easier to quit smoking if you start exercising first

Simply walking is a great place to start. It doesn't require research, or special equipment; and you don't have to worry about your joints getting out of whack.

[goodboy]

15. sounds like good medicine, G.o.G. thanks a lot! I know my wife will

appreciate your advice...I'll show her this when she gets up in the morning.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

12. Walk

It's a nice compromise between jogging and sitting. Be sure to take water with you.

What instrument/kind of music do you play? I'm a freelance violinist in the DC area.

[goodboy]

13. I'm a pianist, classically trained at Interlochen arts academy, and

Texas A&M. I'm a singer/songwriter, and I perform mostly at charity fundraising events in central ohio.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

16. Columbus is a pretty city...

I auditioned for the symphony there once, but didn't get anywhere.

Does your wife enjoy concerts? Maybe you could find a series that you'd both enjoy, and get season tickets.

[goodboy]

19. that's a good idea. she really liked the symphony last time I took her

and since I work for the piano dealer who provides the piano for them, I am practically rolling in tickets. that's a winning idea.

[fujiyama]

17. Try bike riding

You may find it to be less rigerous than jogging, but she'll probably enjoy it as well. I'd find some decent trails (maybe a public park or something). Hiking might also be fun.

[goodboy]

20. how much does a decent bike cost..I was thinking about that too.

maybe a mountain bike? I'm not too big on the Lance armstrong model.

[fujiyama]

31. My guess is...

around 300 bucks or so. I'm not too sure but I think Trek is supposed to be a decent brand.

[goodboy]

42. So, 600.00 total. Let's see, his/her bikes, or scuba lessons for 2...

[Champ]

43. Really?

I can find a decent Mountain bike for about $75 but then again it is "decent"

[goodboy]

44. 75? does it come with wheels? LOL

[Champ]

45. LOL

Yes. I think it was a Huffy.

[goodboy]

46. I was thinking it was a Big Wheel: photo

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[HEyHEY]

18. Play her workout music

[goodboy]

21. with a driving bass line and drums, and she can gyrate her hips, and then

we segue into...well, you know...

[Floogeldy]

22. It is weird that you are asking

The answer is for you to do with her some of the things she likes to do (jog, skate, do pilates), and for her to do some of the things you like to do (come watch you play, go to concerts and movies).

I sense a distance and selfishness in your relationship. This isn't rocket science. It is called sharing.

[goodboy]

23. maybe I should've been more clear, we're looking for new things

do to together...


We bought rollerblades at the same time so we could skate together, and when she runs at the park, I usually go with her and fish in the lake she runs around. We're tired of the same old thing, dig?

[Floogeldy]

24. I dig

I dig that she doesn't come to watch you play or go to concerts or movies with you.

[goodboy]

25. she comes to every show, and since columbus passed the smoking ban

she's come to several concerts with me. We share each others interests, we're looking for new things to do together

[Floogeldy]

28. Yea, right?

So, jogging, skating, doing pilates, attending your professional musician performances, concerts and movies just aren't enough for you guys?

What the fuck? Does she have a job?

You two sure get bored with each other easily.

Maybe you should take up having kids? Or model airplane building.

[goodboy]

36. funny...my dad is constantly asking us when we're having babies...

We do both work full time...and we're not bored with each other, we're bored with the same old activities. We'd like to try some new things.

[Nicole]

26. plant a garden

and work in it together.

You'll enjoy the beautiful weather & get exercise. Plus you will have a nice place to just sit later.

[goodboy]

27. my wife is a gardening guru, she's working on it all the time...I'll ask

her if I can help, but she's pretty protective of it, know what I mean?

edit: and she won't let me plant the plant I REALLY want to plant

[Nicole]

29. Yeah, I'm protective

of my garden too. Our solution was for me to tend the flower garden while he made a veggie patch & herb patch.

I wouldn't let him plant a "herb" he wanted either. :evilgrin:

[goodboy]

38. maybe your husband and I should do a little gardening somewhere

where you'll NEVER FIND US


AHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA

[Floogeldy]

30. Let me get this straignt

Your wife works on the garden all of the time, jogs, skates, does pilates, attends your professional musician performances, attends concerts, and attends movies with you, and you two are looking for new things to do?

How many hours in the day are there where you live?

[goodboy]

37. that shit gets old after a while. that's all. (nt)

[aePrime]

50. Since goodboy seems too polite to say this

WTF is your problem, Floogeldy? He came here asking for ideas. He didn't attack anybody. It's legitimate to seek out new experiences, and since he wants to do so with his wife, it seems the opposite of being selfish and self-involved, as you seem to think it is.

You apparently have no constructive input into this conversation, so why bother to post here?

[goodboy]

53. thanks, prime. I didn't want to exascerbate the situation. thank you!

[Runcible Spoon]

32. I second gardening together. trust me, it's really sexy

I planted a garden with my boyfriend, and we put a lot of time and effort into arranging things by seasonal growth, color, etc. And then to watch it grow as the weeks go by, and nurture something together, and get dirty together, it's very fulfilling. It's also better than having a kid, since you get to create something aline together but it doesn't need its diapers changed.

[leftofthedial]

33. good luck

[MrScorpio]

34. She can be your groupie

That would be fun

[realisticphish]

35. for one

you can come over to 12th avenue and buy me some beer :evilgrin:

[goodboy]

39. are you in Columbus? (nt)

[realisticphish]

51. yep

on campus at THE ohio state university

[goodboy]

52. so why haven't we hung out yet? Let's get a c-bus DU'er meet up going

[realisticphish]

56. yeah

i've noticed several other cbus people; there's been a dayton meetop, and a cleveland one, but no central ohio one

[DancingBear]

40. Ever spend time in the Short North (N. High St.)?

Lots of art galleries, restaurants, etc.

Wait until they have one of the "Art Walks", then spend the day together down there.

(from an OSU alum who gets to Columbus every once in a while, and remembers when the Short North was strip clubs and pawn shops)

[goodboy]

41. GREAT IDEA! We could do the gallery hop! Hey, DB, you let me

know the next time you're in Cbus. I love to meet DU'ers in person.

[GreenPartyVoter]

49. Hubby and I like to

watch movies, play cards, play board games, play computer games (esp RPGs like KOTOR and Dungeon Siege and the like.) Maybe you need to buy a deck or two of cards and a "Hoyle's Book of Games" for rainy days? :)

For sunny days, I recommend"

planting a flower garden

taking a walk

horseshoes

boules/bocci/lawn bowling

badminton

frisbee

picnics

buy a lawn swing and read out loud to each other on it

[goodboy]

54. those are really great suggestions GPV. My wife likes frisbee, because

I have to go chase it all the time.

[smoogatz]

55. Go to galleries, readings and outdoor concerts in the park.

All free. Get a dog--nothing gets you outside like a dog.