Male vs. female calling in dating scenario query

[steve2470]

This post is not about right vs. wrong. It's just a question about "existing practices". Do men still make the vast majority of phone calls in dating (i.e., pre-marriage, pre-engagement, pre-living together, etc...) situations ? Or is this "practice" very old school and only confined to those of us born before 1960 ? Just asking, I'm curious. Thanks.

[Left Is Write]

1. Honestly, I don't know.

I've been out of the dating loop long enough that I don't know what current "standard" practices are.

I think it's okay for anyone to make the phone calls, but that'll probably come down to personal preference.

[steve2470]

5. some help you are !

hehe just teasing Ms. Livesoutwestsomewhere :-)

[tjwmason]

2. In my case guys make all the calls

Guess that's 'coz I'm gay though.

[progmom]

4. funniest. post. ever.

[Left Is Write]

6. Well, that just makes it ridiculously easy, doesn't it?

:D

[steve2470]

8. it was funny

Almost threw me off my biases

:wtf:

[NewJeffCT]

3. I was born in late 1966

And, when I was on the dating scene in the 80s & 90s, it was very rare for a woman to call a guy... even the most liberal of women didn't do it.

[fudge stripe cookays]

7. I would say yes.

Women nowadays are fed so much crap about "The Rules" and "He's Just Not That Into You," that some of us feel like fools if we do call.

We could be wondering the whole time if it's something he wants or if we're trying to force something that may not really be there.

I'm happily married now, and wasn't afraid to call in my time, but looking back, most of the guys I DID call WEREN'T that into me.

It was so nice sitting back this time and letting reprehensor work to impress me. I knew he was completely, utterly serious about me, and loved the lengths he would go to to court me.

So if you want her, SHOW her. Pick up the phone.
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[maxsolomon]

9. yes guys still do the legwork al MOST all of the time

i remember telling a female friend that no, i would not get a certain guy to ask her out; she could do it herself.

"but what if he says no?" she queried. welcome to the life of men, sister. except that no man in his right mind says no to an attractive woman that wants to fuck him.

the very young (high school, college) have apparently dispensed with dating altogether, they just "hook up" now.

[steve2470]

10. amen, unless she's got that HIV + T-shirt on, ya know ?

:crazy:

:wtf:

[tjdee]

11. Girls do most of the calling, and it's irritating.

When I was in high school/college, after the first few dates, the girls were always on the fucking phone calling up the guy to talk about...paint drying...what they did today in detail....what the guy is doing...

It was annoying, and I was a girl. I'd rather BE with the guy. But if I wasn't, there was no way I was going to sit on the phone talking about nothing.

Woops, I'm getting on my high horse again. :)

But, it seems to taper off after about 25.

[Samurai_Writer]

12. Calling is pretty much equal for me...

I'd say I call just about as much as they call me. I was born in 1960, so I guess I'm 'new school'. ;)

[Niccolo_Macchiavelli]

13. depends on the girl

if i get some sort of confirmation that attention is welcome i'll go to great lenghts. but if there's no sign of interst whatsever i drop the ball pretty quick. got better to do than to play doggy fido. superficialty is a turnoff as well.

[xmas74]

14. In my region it is still the guy's responsibility.

That is changing, but very slowly.

[ffm172]

15. stopped counting the times I was sitting next to the phone

waiting for the guy to call. At some situations I took the lead and started talking to guys, sometimes I waited for them to start talking to me. Depending. I think it was pretty even. And yes, I sometimes called the guys who weren't interested. Funnily enough I am suddenly getting messages from a guy apologizing being an asshole during the time I wanted something from him a year ago. I did call him and he left me standing in the rain more than once till I had enough and stopped being interested in him. Now a year later he sees his mistakes and wished he would have behaved differently. That's live.