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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:09 PM
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Serious question folks (about sexuality polls here in the Lounge)
This is not directed to anyone in particular. But I have to ask - WHY? What is up with wanting to know peoples sexual preferences. Who really cares. And don't you think some of these polls could be offensive to the gay and lesbians freinds who post here?

Who really cares what 2 adults do in private?

I'm a tad aggravated by this trend.

Anyone else bothered by it?

Maybe it's just me.
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:10 PM
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Go here
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LeftCoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:10 PM
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1. I've been just a tad bothered by it;...
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:12 PM
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2. I only care if they are hypocritical about it.
As in the rumors of the RNC chair.

Mostly it's not something I care to think about.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:12 PM
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3. i think it depends on the questions
but asking if W is gay...is off color
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:12 PM
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4. Doesn't bother me in the least...
n/m
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Wat_Tyler Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:16 PM
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5. I totally agree.
What is the need for any sex threads in the Lounge?
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gollygee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:16 PM
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6. It seems odd to me
I understand someone asking if Matt Damon is gay - someone is truly curious about whether he is gay. That's a legitimate question.

But that's not why people post that Pat Robertson et al might be gay. They're doing it to make fun of Pat Robertson, and they find calling him "gay" to be a method of making fun. I can see why people who are indeed gay might be offended by that.
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Kat45 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:30 PM
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11. I just assumed those were all copycat threads.
And I do my best to avoid copycat threads.
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tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 05:34 PM
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27. I always thought those types of comments
were meant to tweak people's hypocrisy.
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FizzFuzz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 05:44 PM
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30. same here, but LeftCoast did speak up on another thread
which made me stop and think.
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Radical Activist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:18 PM
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7. The same reason People magazine is popular
Don't ask me why that is though. I can't stand celebrity gossip.
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da_chimperor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:19 PM
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8. I'm not bothered by it. I guess it's out of curiosity.
But everyone knows what that did to the cat.
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JohnKleeb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:20 PM
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9. it didn't get the cat arrested for loitering did it?
Isn't that the saying, "Curiousity got the cat arrested for loitering"
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da_chimperor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:31 PM
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12. And then executed under a technicality, right?
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JohnKleeb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:32 PM
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13. yeah
and then pardoned by Governor Richard M. Nixon :D.
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Beware the Beast Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:27 PM
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10. Yeah, the gratuitous sex and flirting threads got tiresome weeks ago.
So you've got a point. If you want to flirt, go to a freakin' adult chatroom.
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 03:33 PM
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14. Here here
Umm, unless some of the woman want to flirt with me. lol j/k
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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:21 PM
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18. How you doin?? LOL
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:26 PM
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20. Hiya
Just fine. Ummm...I suck at flirting..lol
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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:31 PM
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22. Me too
I was just playin. :)
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:32 PM
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23. Oh...
I know :)
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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:12 PM
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15. ROFLMAO!!!
That was priceless. :)
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ChavezSpeakstheTruth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 06:00 PM
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32. Your irony has been missed - wanna screw?
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 06:07 PM
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34. God, I'm glad someone else said it.
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:14 PM
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16. Right.
"who really cares?"

you?

:D
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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:21 PM
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17. The point was
Edited on Thu Dec-16-04 04:22 PM by the Princess
I don't give a rats ass what otherpeople do in their bedrooms. And I am offended by the constant "Is __________ gay" threads. I don't care who is gay who is bi who is strait etc., and the insinuation that being gay is a *bad* thing.
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:22 PM
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19. why do you have to be all "offended" and stuff?
i haven't participated (in this round :D ) but why not just hit ignore?

i just LOVE "i'm offended" threads :eyes:
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the Princess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:30 PM
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21. Because it's offensive - and stuff
To gay people in particular.

And it's juvenile - childish behavior and stuff.

Why is it OK to post crap like that? And why is it not OK to question the intention? Is the intention to diminsh the person who's sexuality you are questioning? And if so why is being gay a way to make fun of people here? It's offensive.

And stuff. :eyes:
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matcom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:37 PM
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25. its offensive if it was intended to be offensive
otherwise, its just "stuff"
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LeftCoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 06:00 PM
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31. Sorry Matcom, I totally disagree
It's not just 'stuff.' Words have power. Every single comment that equates gays and lesbians (or anyone for that matter) with 'bad' is oppression. This particular linkage has become so ingrained into our culture that even here on DU people fall unthinkingly into its trap.

"That's SO gay!"

"Don't be a fag"

"Is Rush Limbaugh a Homosexual Pig, or just a Homosexual?"

"Is GWB gay?"

Can you spot the theme? I sure can, but maybe that's just because for 34 years every time I heard something like that it was as if someone stuck a little knife right in my heart. I'm gay...so I must be a bad person. As far as I'm concerned, if I don't speak up then straight people who've never had to face this type of linguistic violence probably won't see it. So here I am, pointing it out, and all I hope is that you take a second to think about the real meaning of what you say.

*steps of soapbox*
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CO Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 09:26 PM
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36. Thank You, LeftCoast
:hi:

For getting the point my wife was trying to make. And here's to many more years of you speaking up.

:toast:
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sundog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:36 PM
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24. Not bothered by it
but then again, it takes a lot to get my goat.

I might have gotten here a little late for the *party*

I think if I don't laugh once in a while, then I'm truly fuckt.

See a Margaret Cho video for further illustration of my point.

Posted by a 60-80% gay guy (depending on the day) :hi:
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terrya Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 04:47 PM
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26. If some homophobic right winger IS gay, I'll sure as hell point it out.
Oh, man, I'm all in favor of talking about that.

Or someone...like Ken Mehlman, the incoming head of the Republican Party and a gay man...who goes along with a anti-gay agenda.

I had no problem whatsoever, for instance, with John Kerry talking about Mary Cheney, lesbian daughter of Dick Cheney, in context with the anti-gay agenda this administration is pursuing.

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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 05:38 PM
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28. Reasons (#4 is my fave)
1) It's nice to know if a person is gay upfront. That way, when I ask him out, he won't beat me to a living pulp or kill me, then 2 years after getting thrown in the slammer say it was just a robbery that went awry. :eyes:

2) See #1. It's such a good point that it's worth saying twice. Especially the hate crime terrorist stuff.

3) As homosexuals get the treatment as described in #2, awareness leads to understanding. We're not vile, vermin, ungodly, immoral, abominable, or anything else. Not always to understanding, but we have to start somewhere.

4) Political ramifications. As in #3, but also with those aligned to political parties that hate GLBT people. We don't think it's right or fair for gay people to hide themselves, voting on anti-gay policies, to protect themselves at the expense of the rest of us.

Either which way y'all cut it, we cannot ultimayely be utterly silent.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 05:39 PM
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29. "Who really cares what 2 adults do in private? "
Exactly, the Princess!! Right on! Good thread!


I am not really bothered by these types of threads because for the most part it's all in good fun.

But I think society puts too much pressure on people having to declare their sexuality. It's a private matter, imo.
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Bouncy Ball Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 06:07 PM
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33. Are you talking about ALL sex threads
or just threads about someone's sexuality?

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sonicx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-16-04 06:10 PM
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35. gay people never gossip about the sexuality of celebrities?
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