Should I inform a person of this?

[Deja Q]

Poll question: Should I inform a person of this?

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=102&topic_id=999355&mesg_id=999355

A person I once dated, but did not respond to him after he gave an ultimatum for me to accept his use of marijuana or go away. (he was polite and civil, but denied my help.) He was otherwise a decent guy and we kinda clicked.

Should I send him an open-ended e-mail telling him of this, which will likely become a trend?

Thanks.

[maveric]

1. Why cant you accept his use of marijuanna?

Is he addled and listless?

[Deja Q]

3. Excellent question. And here's the answer:

He has an anxiety problem. We talked about it at great length. (I cvan empathise with him totally as we have similar backgrounds.)

He found marijuana to be a cure-all for his anxiety, when all he needs is a companion to vent frustrations with. His use of marijuana is a facade, a waste of money, and an empty fix.

He is not addled.

He is not listless.

He is emotionally needy and unlike me, somebody found him and exploited him.

I find marijuana to be a decent all-purpose product except that it's illegal and that people who hold even one grain of the powder get far more punishment than the bastards who illegally sell it, than those who grow it, or those who quietly allow it into this country when not making scapegoats out of others. :tinfoilhat:

Making marijuana legal for certain uses would be great. But until then, we can only make awareness AND abide by the law. Especially, when it's a drug issue, they go after all the wrong people. And given the hell he'd been through, he doesn't deserve jail time, a death sentence, or anything else. Like all human beings, he needs compassion,

[pantouflard]

2. Definitely walk away!

It may be difficult now, but sometimes you have to look ahead and trust there will be someone else soon. 'Cuz there will. And if he's really dependent on pot (every day use?) you can BET there is more going on, and it's not good.

Trust me. I've seen that movie. It wasn't a good movie.

[Deja Q]

4. Once every Friday and Saturday.

Or so he claimed.

You might be right. But I would want to help him without getting him into trouble. But I don't think that's possible. :-(

[crispini]

5. If you're still talking to him and emailing him,

I'd send him the story. Otherwise, not. He might misinterpret your motivation. OTOH, the worst that might happen is that he'd think you're being bitchy and get tee'd off, and at least you would have clued him in to the peril.

I'm a big help, aren't I? :evilgrin:

[imenja]

6. if the guy wants to smoke dope that's his business

leave him alone. Don't preach. We all make our choices in life. I believe morality begins at home. I don't think it's cool to force views like that on others.
Just my opinion.