Well, I finally found out what happened to my ex who passed away

[SweetZombieJesus]

Apparently, she killed herself. My friend Jack was sketchy on the details, but he heard that she hung herself.

I was hoping it was a car wreck or something, anything but something like this. I'm devastated.

[neuvocat]

1. That just plain sucks ass.

Sorry.

[Zomby Woof]

2. sorry to hear that SZ

I cannot imagine having that on my mind and heart, but I extend my best thoughts to you these days.

[SweetZombieJesus]

5. Thanks man

This has my head spinning, because she's the LAST person I would ever think would commit suicide. Jack said she might have been in an abusive relationship, and I just can't imagine that, because she was always so strong, that was what I loved about her.

[AnnabelLee]

16. I'm very sorry for your loss

Even strong women can become entangled in abusive relationships. By the time they face the fact they are being abused, they feel so heavily invested in the relationship, it can be very difficult to leave.:-(

[supernova]

3. Wow! How awful!

I feel sorry for you SZJ! That's terrible news. :-(

[never cry wolf]

4. How awful,

I feel for ya man.

[roughsatori]

6. I was in love with someone who committed suicide

I passed him in the street 3 days before he killed himself. He said 'hi." I ignored him. I know that had nothing to do with his suicide but it bothers me still. He was offered a plea deal of 47 years in prison,(yes, that was the deal the DA offered).

As a child I found my father (still living, but unconscious) hanging by his neck with a garbage bag around his head. I took him down and he is still alive.

It is a shocking thing to have a Friend commit suicide. My condolences.

[Tandalayo_Scheisskopf]

7. PLease keep something in mind:

It was not your fault. If you were not close to her any longer, how could you have seen any warning signals, if she was giving them? Big if, too.

Here's to your healing from this.

[SweetZombieJesus]

11. Oh, I know it's not my fault, I'm just mad at the world right now

I can't understand how someone who was so strong could have been reduced to that. She was one of the strongest people I've ever known, and I do kind of wish I wouldn't have lost touch with her the last year or so. I've been like that with all my friends though, and that needs to stop.

[Systematic Chaos]

8. That's so sad.

That's gotta hurt, I'm sure....

Keep your chin up.

[liberalmuse]

9. OMG, I'm so sorry!

That is a hard thing to get over. Both my father and younger brother committed suicide and I'm still sad and angry to this day. I hope you are able to cope and have a good support system. You just never know what's going on inside a person's head.

[ScreamingMeemie]

10. Oh no! I am so sorry you have to deal with this.

I am thinking of you!:(

[thebeaglehaslanded]

12. I am sorry she found life so unbearable.

I am sorry she left this sadness for you.

[buff2]

13. Wow.........

That's horrible. I understand how you feel,though. Death is the worst thing to have to deal with and suicide makes it even worse. My deepest sympathy goes out to you,her family, and friends.

[Ein]

14. I feel your pain.

My dad was a police officer, my family always told me he died in a criminal pursuit.

When I was 18 they finally told me he OD'd on heroine. Life is odd.

People don't want to commit suicide. I can partially attest to this. Four years ago I dip my wrists in ice for 10 minute and sliced across the vein on my right wrist.

I knew if I wanted to die I would've cut down, but besides that I walk around today, four years later, and reflect on the good times in these past years.

She is probably in a better place (I don't buy the suicide = hell deal).

[leftist_rebel1569]

15. I'm so sorry, SZJ!

I can only begin to feel your pain...I know what it's like to have a freind commit suicide. But...I'm so sorry. I empathize, big time.

[ewagner]

17. Sorry SZJ

no text can adequately express ....

[unfrigginreal]

18. Sincere condolences

That's about the worst news you can receive. I know, I've been there. My thoughts are with you.

[Sperk]

19. God, I'm so sorry. That's a horrible thing to have to deal with.

Always remember that it was totally out of your control. :-(

[Tom Kitten]

20. Very sorry to hear this...

Very sorry....it's so demoralizing, not to mention shocking....my apologies sincerely, revealations like these take time, and I apologize for the snippiness of some of my earlier responses to your posts...take care, mon frere....

[44wax]

21. my prayers to all who endure

Nothing I can do. Nothing I can say. Plenty to wish for.

[Booberdawg]

22. Sorry to hear that SZJ

It's hard enough when someone young dies, so much harder when it didn't have to happen.

I lost a brother to suicide 10 years ago. He was 32. Shook me to my very foundation. Take care of yourself man, it's going to be a rough road. Cut yourself some slack and take the time to grieve.:(

[maxanne]

23. I am so sorry

SweetZombieJesus.

Suicides leave a lot of grief and guilt behind. I've been on the leaving behind end a few times.

People who are suicidal may think they're doing folks a favor by dying. They may be so far in the black hole that they can't see anything realistically. If they really knew what they were doing to the people who love them - they would make different choices.

I'm sorry for your loss SZJ.

[soleft]

24. One of my best childhood friends committed suicide

I had such a crush on this guy, he was the first boy I ever kissed. In the dead of winter I would go over his house after dinner and we'd shoot baskets in his back yard and talk about...everything. He was also an amazingly talented drummer and I could just sit and listen to him play.

Last year I was visiting my parents and my mother showed me his obituary. He had a brother who was possibly being very abusive and threatening to him, that might have had something to do with it. I felt tremendous sadness and guilt that I had not kept in touch with him.

I wish you strength and comfort SweetZombieJesus

[noiretextatique]

25. my condolences

i lost an ex of mine to suicide...it took a while to process it all. take care of yourself.

[Lindsey]

27. I'm so sorry

I'll send light your way -

[deutsey]

26. That's awful.

I'm so sorry this happened.

[catpower2000]

28. I am so sorry...

This is terrible. She couldn't have been very old, you don't strike me as being an older person. I'm so sorry to hear this news, it is always sad when someone chooses death as preferable to life, especially a young person.

Please accept my deepest condolences. (((HUGS))) to you,

Cat

[GOPisEvil]

29. SZJ, that's horrible.

Look me up when you get to Austin (if you're still moving here). I'll buy ya a :beer:

[Skittles]

30. sad day

today is my dad's birthday; he committed suicide many years ago. All I can tell you Sweet Z is that although time does NOT heal all wounds, it does help. It's gonna take time. I'm very sorry.