It is with great sorrow that I write this.

[Maestro]

My grandfather will soon be joining my grandmother in the hereafter. I am not sure where that is or if it is simply a place in the ground next to my grandmother. Either way he is comfortable now, unconscious but slipping away. My mother and my uncle are at his bedside. He is receiving fantastic hospice care in San Antonio. He lived a wonderfully long life, he would be 96 in three weeks. He lived a simple life on the Texas-Mexico border. He worked for the oil industry and eventually owned his own gas station on the border.

Here I am at that station in the early 70s.


If you look carefully, you can see his reflection to my right in the picture in the window.

I learned from him the joy of speaking a new language and working with others who are different than me. I learned or rather should have learned from him that worrying solves nothing. I never once saw the man mad, never! He loved being outside. He loved the land. He loved fishing and hunting but with a purpose. He ate what he killed and understood that what the land gave us should be honored. I learned to shoot and fish with him as well. He raised two kids, my mother and uncle. He tried to send my mother to a private university and was too embarrassed to tell her that he didn't have enough money to keep sending her. My mother finally saw how much he struggled to keep her in college. She withdrew and went to San Marcos State. She went on to be a career teacher, mom and wife. My uncle went to San Marcos as well, became a teacher and administrator. He then went to Texas A&M and received his doctorate. He became one of the most widely respected superintendents in the state of Texas and is now retired.

My grandfather will be leaving me soon but he has much of which to be proud. I will miss him tremendously. I will miss his soft voice, his quirky laugh and his laid back demeanor. Here are a few pics of his life.

These two pics are of his family in Mexico circa 1910. He is the only boy in the middle of the pictures surrounded by his sisters and parents.





Here he is as young man in the early 30s I believe.


And finally, the last picture that he and I took together.

He is recieving no life support, no food, no water. This is what he wanted. No p.o.s. rethuglican backed "culture of life" group will protest this death. He is going out the way he wanted!

I am all over the emotional map, mad, sad, frustrated. I hate Death! I hate the fact that loved ones have to be taken away from me. Call me selfish. Oh well, thank you for my venting. I needed a place to write down some things. I don't keep a diary so DU, you have to put up with me. Thanks.


Edit: Trying to resize pics. Sorry if your modem or screen get overloaded.

[neuvocat]

1. Sorry, man.

:(

[flamingyouth]

2. Those are really wonderful pics.

I wish you and your family peace as he passes to his well-deserved rest. :hug:

[Robeysays]

152. You look like my brother... weird.

just wanted to say that, like the harvey birdman icon you got in your sig. peace.

[Maestro]

203. Thanks and your brother must be

one hell of a good looking guy.

[enigmatic]

3. I'm so sorry

He sounds like an incredible guy:hug:

[Maestro]

120. He was.

Play a tune for him. Jerome is his name. ;)

[Midlodemocrat]

4. Beautiful pictures.

And he has quite a devoted grandson. You should be proud. Sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[ET Awful]

5. Sorry to hear it, your grandfather sounds like one hell of a guy.

:hug: :(

[mikita]

6. Beautifully written tribute...

You can tell he means much to you. May his spirit stay with you.
My condolences.

Namaste,
Mikita

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

7. The problem with death is it's so damn permanent

My well wishes for you and your family during this time of loss.

:hug:

[uppityperson]

26. Good way of putting it nsma

Best wishes for you and family.

[bonito]

115. Yesterday was death and I'm glad it was permanent

Because with out it there is no today. a hug to all.

[formerrepuke]

8. You're fortunate to know your grandfather through adult eyes:

More memories to keep, more appreciation for and understanding of the generation he came from.

[trof]

9. A handsome man.

And very distinguished looking.
My sincere condolences.

[mwdem]

10. So sorry, Maestro..

the last pic of you & him together is so sweet.

[matcom]

11. Peace bro

for your Grandfather too

[zbird]

12. Such a beautiful tribute, full of love.

May your grandfather have a peaceful journey, and may you keep him in your heart always.

:hug:

[MN ChimpH8R]

13. Deepest sympathies

Your granddad sounds like one of those salt-of-the-earth people that once made this country great. :patriot:

[tjdee]

14. Thank you for sharing all this with us.

It sounds like your grandfather has had a good, long life.
You're not selfish...I think most of us have felt similarly. My thoughts are with your family.

[xmas74]

15. I am so sorry.

But I am glad that he is going the way that he chose. I went through this w/ my own grandfather back in January so I can understand what you are going through. It's still fresh in my mind and it still hurts.

[Not Me]

16. I am so pleased that you were able to have such a great guide

in life. His hopes and dreams will live on in your mother, your uncle and you.

[johnnie]

17. I'm sorry to hear this

That is a wonderful tribute to an obviously wonderful person. Hang in there Maestro.

[bigwillq]

18. How awful.

Sorry to hear this man. He seemed like such a greay guy. Remember the times you two spent together.:hug:

[ulysses]

19. all peace to you and yours, Maestro.

Thinking of y'all. :hug:

[Pithlet]

20. I'm so sorry

You vent all you want. It's so hard to lose those we love. :hug:

[Lone_Star_Dem]

21. What a lovely tribute to your grandfather.

Your love shines through in your words, you managed to make me wish I knew him.

:hug:

[Mutley]

22. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

At least he gets to go the way he wanted to go. Not as many people are that lucky.

[friesianrider]

I'm so sorry :(

I was very struck though by the beautiful photographs you have though - you're so very fortunate to have them. My grandmother passed last November 24th (day before Thanksgiving unfortunately) and I only have one or two photos of her when she was younger. You're lucky to have them to remember him by, and lucky to have had him in your life for so very long (96 years is a blessing!). You're wonderful for honoring his wishes - I'll be praying for you and your family and that he will pass in peace. I'm sure he misses his wife and is looking forward to seeing her once again (yes, I do believe it is more than just in the ground next to her :))

You're in my thoughts and prayers! Hang in there and keep us posted, ok? :hug:

[redqueen]

23. Oh, Maestro...

I'm so sorry you have to lose your beloved Grandfather.

He sounds like a wonderful person... thank you for sharing this with us. I see now where you got your good looks!

Please try to think about how he'll be at peace, now, with his wife...

Sending prayers and good vibes your way, friend.

[Maestro]

77. Thanks redqueen

Your too kind as well. I hope things work out for you as well. Get away from faux progressive you met, will ya? :)

[mike_c]

24. I'm so sorry, but glad at the same time....

Sorry for your loss, glad for a life well lived. We should all be so lucky to live so well, and to be so missed so when we die. Here's to your grandfather.... :toast:

[knowbody0]

25. Maestro

what beautiful words, thank you so much for sharing. your grandfather will always be with you
peace and love
knowbody0

[MuseRider]

27. Now we know

why you are who you are. He sounds like a wonderful man.

There is nothing wrong with all the feelings you are having, it is to be expected and you will feel that way for some time. Grief is work.

Take care of yourself and the rest of your family. Vent all you need to and tell stories if it helps. I certainly loved reading what you wrote.

Nobody can ask for more than a tribute from a loved grandson like the one you just wrote. I am certain he is every bit as proud of you as you are him.

Take care. I am so sorry. Peace to all of you. May he ease slowly and gently away.

[Maestro]

36. You are too kind but I thank you sincerely. -nt

[Xtreme]

28. My thoughts to you and your family

Lost my grandfather in 1989 very sad day.

[pdx_prog]

29. My thoughts are with you....

You seem to be very close to him. That's something that a lot of people don't have.

[Maestro]

30. Thanks for all your kind wishes

I am having to keep away from kids right now because I am so upset. They won't understand why daddy is crying. My mother just called and told me that my grandfather is resting peacefully, heart, lungs, kidneys are all fine at almost 96, but his ill is no longer there. He suffered a stroke last week and he has slowly lost consciousness ever since.

We, the family, mainly my mom and uncle, planned everything in advance years ago after the death of my grandmother. That in itself almost killed him then. But he persevered. My mom is very religious and says that every once in a while he will lift his arms as if to hug someone. I wonder if he sees my grandmother.

Man, I am going to miss him. Bye, bye Papaw. I hope to see you again some day.

[Misunderestimator]

31. What a beautiful tribute, Maestro!

:hug:

You obviously have much love between you. Death won't change that. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

32. I am so sorry *hugs and prayers*

[fudge stripe cookays]

33. So sorry Maestro.

I'm thinking of you right now.

Adios Abuelo.

FSC

[XemaSab]

34. Awww... thank you for sharing

this with us!

:cry:

[mvd]

35. That's a great tribute

And my condolences go out. :hug:

[VOX]

37. Maestro, thank you for introducing us to your grandfather...

What a terrific man -- and almost 96 -- wow, he has lived a life!

I know that you will miss him terribly, but you carry him in a special place in your heart. He will be close to you, always.

I wish him a gentle passing, and all peace and good thoughts to you.

[henslee]

38. What a guy. Pictures say alot. Thanks for sharing.

[Maestro]

39. I dedicate this to my Papaw.

To One Shortly To Die

From all the rest I single out you, having a message for you,
You are to die-let others tell you what they please, I cannot
prevaricate,
I am exact and merciless, but I love you-there is no escape
for you.

Softly I lay my right hand upon you, you just feel it,
I do not argue, I bend my head close and half envelop it,
I sit quietly by, I remain faithful,
I am more than nurse, more than parent or neighbor,
I absolve you from all except yourself spiritual bodily, that is
eternal,
you yourself will surely escape,
The corpse you will leave will be but excrementitous.

The sun burst through in unlooked for directions,
Strong thoughts fill you and confidence, you smile,
You forget you are sick, as I forget you are sick,
You do not see the medicines, you do not mind the weeping
friends,
I am with you,
I exclude others from you, there is nothing to be
commiserated,
I do not commiserate, I congratulate you.


Walt Whitman

[AuntiBush]

100. Walt Whitman!

Jeez. I haven't thought of him in so long. See, already you've began a spark. "Blessed are those that mourn, fore they shall be mourned."

There is "something" beyond. I know. And you'll know, too when it happens. You'll see. It's subtle. Maybe you pet will catch-it as you watch the dog/cat peer oddly into a corner, almost pawing, happily whining to "something" that you can not see. Maybe it will be a feeling of him behind you while driving in the near future. Or maybe you'll have a dream where he's speaking to you, saying it's "ok" and "you'll be fine..." It comes in subtle moments, unexpected.

But it only happens from those that pass-on whom knew how much we loved and missed them, and it's a strong comfort.

May you experince that "something," of which I can not explain. May we all be so fortunate.

[Maestro]

102. Walt Whitman is one of my favorite poets. I also love Poe.

And thanks again for your words. They are very reassuring.

[AuntiBush]

106. Awww... Poe. The Raven. Think of his life.

Think of Poe's life. Shew. He went down so sadly, so young and yet he left so much behind. He was not appeciated until after he died. Your Papaw obviously knew how much he is loved, by those pictures and your postings.

I think they finally figure-out who leaves the roses on Poe's grave in downtown Baltimore, along w/the bottle of (?) rum, is it?



http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0001237.html

[BlueIris]

40. I am so completely sorry.

The death of my grandfather was the most painful thing I have ever experienced. Thanks for sharing all those wonderful memories of your grandpa with us. GOT to love those people; they ARE the greatest generation.

[Maestro]

47. He was from the definite working generation.

Curiously though he never suffered from some of ills of that generation; racism and the like. He was not the domineering husband. In fact, my grandmother ruled the roost in that household. ;)

[Dastard Stepchild]

41. What a touching tribute...

My apologies to you and to your family.

:hug:

[Maestro]

46. Thanks.

The rest of my family including my mom and uncle seem to be handling this much better than me. Perhaps because they are much more religious than me. I don't know.

[Dastard Stepchild]

85. Interestng that you say that...

Since I have never been particularly religious myself, I am left to wonder if my family feels a greater sense of mystical peace because they believe, without a doubt, that there is such a thing as a Heavan, and that passed loved ones are already there.

My thoughts are with you as you work through this challenging time.

:hug:

[rockymountaindem]

42. "He is going out the way he wanted"

We should all be so fortunate.

I'm glad you had such a cool grandfather. Best wishes to you and your family.

[Maestro]

45. He was pretty cool.

Just a simple working man. He never was rich or pretentious.

[merh]

43. Sending love & prayers out for you and yours.

:hug: You have been blessed and he will be in your heart always. :hug:

[Maestro]

44. Thanks and

I know but it still hurts tremendously. I suspect I will be travelling to the border where he will be buried soon. He can't last long without food and water. Two weeks at maximum I suppose.

[merh]

73. I watched my mother die in a similar way.

Part of you wants him to be at peace and out of pain, the other part can't stand the thought of letting him go. :pals:

My prayers go out for you and for your family. :hug:

[Maestro]

78. Thanks again merh.

I suppose it is even harder for one's own parents. Talking to my mom though she seems quite alright with everything. I guess being there and seeing him in peace is enough for her. I'm glad. She's a very religious person so I bet she is happy for him because he lived a very full life and now it is time for the next journey.

[roguevalley]

48. I'm sorry for this, honey. Your grandpa is a handsome man. You

are lucky to have a good man as a grandpa. I had two. They are both gone. I still miss them.

[Wapsie B]

49. I'm so sorry Maestro.

Losing a grandparent can hit real hard.

[Redstone]

50. May he go easy.

(I hope you get to read the good wishes if your post doesn't get buried in the pile of stupid "Guttenberg" threads.)

Redstone

[Maestro]

57. Thanks Redstone

Play him a country tune in the coming days, will ya? :)

[Redstone]

65. I'll do that. I'll play this one, as sung by Patty Loveless.

I'd want it at my own funeral.

---------------------------------------
Can you hear it cross the valley
Can you hear that mournful sound
I'm riding rails of silver
Going to where I'm bound

High above the fields of clover
On a lazy, hot July
When I get to where I'm going
I'll hold my head up high
I will roll across these mountains
I will take the last train out
Riding rails of silver
Going to where I'm bound

Roses, dust and ashes
Throw them where I lay
And if by chance you see me
There'll be no sorrow on my face

For I will see the beauty
I only wish that you could see
I'll leave my body weakened
I'll leave my soul to wander free, so free

So if you should see a diamond
Fall down from the sky
Its just a teardrop
From the corner of my eye
As good-bye, as I fly
To where I'm bound
--------------------------------

Again, may your grandfather go easy.

Redstone

[Maestro]

69. Oh shit Redstone

I'm am really crying now. The damn month is even correct. Thank you bud.

[Redstone]

70. De nada. Do the same for someone else someday,

and that will be all the thanks I'll need.

Hang in there.

Redstone

[proud2BlibKansan]

51. Oh Maestro

How sad. But you are also so fortunate to have had him with you for so long. My grandmother died the day I graduated from high school. I think of her every time something big happens to me - the day I got married, when I gave birth to my kids, my first day as a teacher. And I still miss her.

I am the oldest of 17 grandchildren and I have cousins who never knew my grandmother. That makes me feel so lucky.

And you should feel grateful for all the years you have had with your grandfather.

[Maestro]

56. Thanks proud2Blib

and I am sure I will feel lucky for having known him, but right now, I am just mad that he is leaving. I really wish I could be there right now, but my mother says he would have not wanted me to see him this way. He is unconscious, unresponsive and basically fading away peacefully. He feels nothing. The hopsice has made sure that he is very, very comfortable and quite frankly this probably the best he has felt in months. It still hurts horribly. I have work to do but I just can't seem to get to it. Ugh! I hate this feeling.

[BikeWriter]

52. Your Grandfather has had a great life.

I'm drinking a toast to both of you.

[Redstone]

75. I'll join you in that toast, hoss. 95 is a good run, isn't it?

Hope we get that far, you and I. And have grandkids like Maestro to send us off right and remember us.

Redstone

[Maestro]

76. I don't have anything to drink except coffee but

I will toast with you. And thanks for the nice words about my kids.

[BikeWriter]

89. Cheers!

[JanMichael]

53. What a wonderful tribute. I have a similar situation that will start...

...someday soon. My grandpa is 87 and in failing health and he's played a huge part in my life too.

Grandfathers can be a great thing to a grandchild, I'm glad you've had that experiance too.

[Maestro]

58. My grandmother, his wife, died at that age

Now she was a character! She could drink and cuss a salty sailor under the table. Here is a pic of her in her early years in Eagle Pass, Texas.



They were married in the 1936 I think.

[JanMichael]

59. What a cutie! If I had a digital scan of my grandma when she was young I'd

...post it too. She was, I'm not embarrassed, a hottie.

My grandfather was/is (She's still with him at 84 years old) a lucky s.o.b.

Your grandma has a bit of a piercing gaze, sure it was sunny day, but you can see the intensity.

[Maestro]

61. She came from Asherton, Texas

She grew up on a farm there. She comes from robust stock for sure. She would have lived to be 100 but too much smoking really killed her lungs.

[JanMichael]

66. That's rough terrain isn't it? My grandma is S.E. Kansas farm bred.

Probably not as inhospitable as south Texas but pretty nasty during the Depression.

She's the 7th of 8 children and a life long Dem. Her oldest sibling is still kicking and he's hostile to Repulicans and always voted "D".

Oddly my granpa, a truly nice man and great draftsman, is a life long Republican...o figure, his family had money way back and they blamed Labor for their losses...

Either way she's always said "Don't worry about him this election, I always cancel his vote." AND they've been together 60 some years, go figure:-)

[Maestro]

72. My grandparents weren't political at all

They lived their lives and didn't pay too much attention to politics, religion and the like. They cared more about the people around them. I guess growing up when they did, they didn't expect much from government. And by the time the government started to help (40's) they were already set in their ways.

As far as the land, it is not that rough. Simple farm country mixed with patches of typical western brush land. Here is a pic of my great grandfather, the father of my grandmother, on the farm in Asherton.

[seemunkee]

54. Nice tribute. You look like him in younger days.

May he go easy.

[Maestro]

55. Thanks for saying that.

I really favor this side of the family physically. Mentally, well, let's say I am all my father's side. That isn't necessarily good either. ;)

[ScreamingMeemie]

60. What a handsome man. Thank you for sharing a piece of yourself.

He'll live on in you. I'm so sorry.

~laura

[Maestro]

63. Thanks MrsGrumpy.

He will. I sort of wish I would just the call that he has passed so I can move on. Right now, I am just in limbo.

[UrbScotty]

62. All the best to you.

:hug:

[Maestro]

64. Thank you

At least this death is completely natural and just part of journey; nothing like poor Andy and the thousands (millions?) of others that struggle with shitty healtcare and catastrophic disease.

You know, my grandfather never was sick. Seriously, no prostate cancer, no cancer whatsover, no mental illness until the very end when is poor circulation started affecting parts of the brain. I don't even remember him having a cold. He had cataracts. That is about it.

[Clyde_dubyaD40]

67. Nothing is so loved than the loved lost. My

deepest condolences for your loss but at the same time my admiration for a life well spent. Vaya Con Dios

[SlavesandBulldozers]

68. a great man.

a great story. what more could one ask for but to have lived well, and happy? I'm sorry he, and you, are going thru this - and I too hate death.

[progmom]

71. I am so sorry Maestro

:hug:

It took me a really long time to recover from losing my grandfather ten years ago. I know how hard it can be. :hug:

[Maestro]

74. Thanks progmom

Luckily my kids were able to meet him twice before now. Here are some more pics of him in happier times with my kids.

Two years ago.



One year ago.



And here are a few more of him:

My dad, my grandparents, and yours truly at the bottom.



A pic of him in '77.

[Wetzelbill]

79. That was so touching

I lost my grandfather a year and a half ago. I felt much the same way you did. He sounds like a remarkable human being and a great man. My condolences on your impending loss, and my congratulations for sharing something special with him all of your life. That can never be replace and it helped shape who you are. That is special. You'll all be in my thoughts and prayers. :)

[blondeatlast]

80. I'm so sorry, Maestro. He sounds like a wonderful man.

Thank you for sharing him with us!

God bless you all, and take care.

[arwalden]

81. Thanks For Sharing Those Great Photos! --- I'm Sorry To Hear...

... the sad news about how little time he has left. My thoughts are with you and your family.

-- Allen

[Maestro]

83. Thanks Allen

and since I am not feeling too well right now I won't be joining you in the hot tub. ;)

[brystheguy]

82. You know, just like in that first picture , ,

he will always be with you, looking out for you, even though he won't be immediately visible. You will know that he is there.

[Maestro]

86. Thanks for saying that.

I had never noticed his reflection until today. I just wonder why that is. Sort of makes you think, uh. I am sure it was always there, but wierd that I just notice it today.

[Pam-Moby]

84. Maestro I am very sorry.

Thanks for sharing your photos. Hang in there. God bless

[Maestro]

87. No problem

And thank you for taking the time to comment. This is helping me work things out. Although I can't get rid of this lump in my throat.

[Pam-Moby]

92. I know the feeling. My father was very ill for a long time.

At the end I was filled with all sorts of emotions for a long time. But I know we will meet again and that gives me peace now. :hug:

[AuntiBush]

88. Maestro...

Oh, Maestro. I'm with you. You're not alone with your feelings. I too hate death. You can vent out on my time, anytime you need to.

Try to think how fortunate you have been to have had such a wonderful grandfather, whom obviously influenced, and taught you well, much more then you're aware of at this moment. One day, it will hit you. Maybe you'll find yourself responding as he would have and be taken back for a second, mid-sentence and recall that this is how "he" would have responded, reacted, laughed, or even cried.

Then, you'll know how much he contributed to what you have become. He would be so proud of you, as we are too. I know I enjoy your postings. And this one, well, if it does not touch at your heartstrings you're obviously a neo-con, plain and simple.

Godspeed. May your Grandfather go ever so peaceful, without the intervention of "mere idiotic man/men!"

Take care. Prepare for the emotional roller-coaster and the saddness to follow. We should all be so fortunate to be this missed, this mourned for.

[Maestro]

94. Thank you so much AuntiBush

I hope I do notice these things soon. I appreciate sincerely your words.

[AuntiBush]

96. You Will, Maestro. I know.

Left on a doorstep at the age of 6 weeks, my grandparents never let me go. Both died in separate, unexpected tragic accidents when I was in my mid to late teens, but they were retired and had all the time in the world to make me the person I am today.

Not far from your age, I lost my childhood, best-friend, soul mate, my husband some years back, also in a tragic accident. So, I know a thing or two about those moments you'll have. It just takes time.

Down the road, when you're ready (you'll know as it will just hit you one day) you too will feel the tearful gratefulness when you look around at others and think, "don't they know what they have," with regards to their family members and how they might treat them, you know. And it will be moments like that, that you'll know he didn't die totally. No. He left part of himself behind to live on... in you, Maestro. What a wonderful thing for a person to leave behind. What a legacy. Be proud you had him in your life. Think of those that have grandpa's and don't even give it the time of day.

Live for the dead. Make him proud.

[Maestro]

98. Your words

are very wise and like much of this thread, they are making me tear up yet again. Thank you. You and the rest of DU has been very helpful in helping me through this so far. Many, many thanks.

[AuntiBush]

101. Maestro. It's "OK" to Cry.

It's human nature. Tears... it's what they're there for. You need to release your feelings freely.

Go for it. When you really let it out, and I mean sobbing you'll feel better. Crying. The most nature release, yet some believe it's not manly to do so.

It is.

My late-husband was all man, but could, and would cry like my late-uncle, a WWII Navy man.

[Maestro]

104. I'm not afraid to cry

but for some reason I just can't quite get it all out right now. The closest I came was while I first posted this thread and Redstone's song dedication. I probably will let it all out when everyone goes to bed. My kids don't understand why daddy is sobbing/crying.

[AuntiBush]

110. You Will and More Then A few Times... "And Some!"

Hang-tight. Just be as strong as what nature allows. Follow you're instincts -- it never let's us down.

[AuntiBush]

156. Here's Hoping Pawpa is Enjoying 1 More Day :)

:hi:

Peace...

[MissWaverly]

90. Don't worry Andy's already up there

I imagine he has a party going on, I can just hear him now, Hi, I'm Andy, the guy from DU, your grandson posts there, here I'll show you around.

[TacticalPeek]

91. .

Laertes
by Michael Longley

When he found Laertes alone on the tidy terrace, hoeing
Around a vine, disreputable in his gardening duds,
Patched and grubby, leather gaiters protecting his shins
Against brambles, gloves as well, and, to cap it all,
Sure sign of his deep depression, a goatskin duncher,
Odysseus sobbed in the shade of a pear tree for his father,
So old and pathetic that all he wanted then and there
Was to kiss him and hug him and blurt out the whole story,
But the whole story is one catalogue and then another,
So he waited for images from that formal garden,
Evidence of a childhood spent traipsing after his father
And asking for everything he saw, the thirteen pear trees,
Ten apple trees, forty fig trees, the fifty rows of vines
Ripening at different times for a constant supply,
Until Laertes recognized his son and, weak at the knees,
Dizzy, flung his arms around the neck of great Odysseus,
Who drew the old man fainting to his breast and held him there
And cradled like driftwood the bones of his dwindling father.

[Maestro]

93. I hope to find him again some day as well.

I am not sure if I will though and that is the painful part.

[MissWaverly]

99. love does not die

I believe that love is the most important lesson that we learn in our lifetime, your grandfather is proud of you and he is proud that you
respect him and the hard work he put in, a lot of people don't, they
take the work and sacrifices of others for granted. My mother was really afraid to die about 3 weeks before she passed, she had this dream that she was walking all alone in darkness and suddenly she began to follow this light and when she drew closer, she saw that her name was up in lights like a theater marquee. I think this was God's way of reassuring her and us that he was going to leave the "porch light" on for her.

[Maestro]

119. I hope there is a porch light for us.

It is a battle from within that I am waging now.

[MissWaverly]

142. what happened to us

as she lay dying, it looked like she was staring at the wall past us
in the small intensive care room where she was, then suddenly it looked like she had this look of recognition on her face, like when you are
waiting at the airport for a family member and you see them step out
of the crowd, then there was this look of total joy and then she was gone, I hope that this happens for you as well.

[Maestro]

143. My mother, who is deeply spiritual and religious, not fundie

though, continues to say that my grandfather's arms will reach up as if he is trying to hug someone ever so often. My logical side tells me it is the last throes of a dying brain. My mother insists that he is seeing loved ones at the beginning of that proverbial tunnel of light calling him home. I hope so.

[MissWaverly]

144. you have to realize that he's getting ready to go above

past our reality, if you are lucky enough for a glimpse then hold on to
it.

[Maestro]

147. I won't be able to witness it

but my mom says it is amazing watching him.

[MissWaverly]

148. there's no hard and fast rule

everyone does what they can, how they can, I have said a prayer for you
and your family that God will help you get through this. Andy, when he
stayed with me, was in a lot of pain, and needed something to help pass the time. I told him about lego.com, he went on there and liked
a game where you create your own island, if it helps with the waiting
I would go ahead and do it. These are 2 pictures I drew, the first is
called "Andy goes to heaven" and the second one is called "Night Mare"
If they bring you some comfort then I am glad.

[Maestro]

170. You are so sweet.

And you are talented. Drawing was never my forte.

[MissWaverly]

176. thank you

every act for good is 1 more candle against the darkness, No child left
behind caused an enormous debt here in Baltimore, which has been loaded
onto the back of the school board, the children, the teachers, the mayor, the State of Maryland and the taxpayers-everybody but Bush.

Thanks for the compliment, I appreciate it.

[Maestro]

177. Noticed my new sig, uh?

:hi:

[MissWaverly]

178. yes, sure did, like the stick figure too

[Maestro]

179. Well you've made me laugh

I haven't done that in a while. Thanks.

[MissWaverly]

184. You hang in there, I am glad that you found something to laugh at

here's another one of my drawings, I just did it this weekend,
my sister asked me why I am drawing a winter picture on the hottest
day of summer, answer, I don't know.

[Maestro]

188. It makes you feel cool

perhaps. :hi:

[MissWaverly]

196. Yes, but when I draw a picture I don't have a set idea what it

will look like, like I might start with a series of sketches but the
sunset at the harbor may end up as canoe ride up the river

[niallmac]

95. Everyone should be so lucky to have someone like you to bring dignity

to their last days. I know we are all very lucky to have witnessed such a loving portrait.
May the future be as kind to you.

[mzmolly]

97. Your grandfather sounds like a beautiful man.

I had a grandmother who touched me very deeply, she lived to be 100 and passed 10 years ago ... I still miss her dearly.

She passed in the same manner as your grandfather will. We knew her wishes and carried them out. It was a difficult/personal decision for our family.

How fortunate we are to have had people like this in our lives.

Peace to you in this rough/confusing time Maestro.

[lonestarnot]

103. Be proud of this man!

His genes helped make you! We salute you both!

[Patchuli]

105. I'm sorry

and I know just how you feel. I lost Mom in 2003 at 84 and have three more loved ones aged respectively 92,and 89 and 89. I know it's only a matter of time. My mom chose not to have life support, food or water also. We have to respect their wishes but it was the hardest thing for me to do sitting with her and unable to help her. I wish I could give you a hug. Thanks for sharing your wonderful family pictures.

[auntAgonist]

107. Maestro;

May you find peace in the love you have for your Grandfather. It sounds like he's leaving you with a heart full of memories. You were truly blessed to have shared his life.

May his passing be gentle.


auntAgonist
aka kesha

[Pirate Smile]

108. What a beautiful tribute to a person who sounds like a beautiful man by

an obviously wonderfully devoted grandson.

You honor him and yourself well tonight.

I wish for your entire family peace and acceptance.

[AuntiBush]

109. My GGGGGGG, A Revolutionary (PA to TN) Vet

Now on the Nat'l Registry in East TN.



Photo Show by a Cousin:
http://community.webshots.com/photo/84122692/204106487gbPzGF

[RoyGBiv]

111. Go in Peace ... Remember the Life

Remember him and who is was. He will always live within you and the people with whom you impart the memory.

:hug:

[Stinky The Clown]

112. Your grandfather lives .......

..... through his children and his grandchildren. He accomplished much. He influenced the lives of so many by giving the children of his community the gift of education, not directly, but through his children. His life was worth so very much. He has a legacy. You're a part of that. You know what he wanted for people. Give it to them in his name.

Dios bendice a su Abuelo.

[Donailin]

113. I never saw my grandfather mad either

My mom's dad. . . he died at 82. . about seven years ago. Me and my children were the last to visit him. Even with alzheimers, he did nothing but smile at us. . and just look and look, as if into our souls when we were there. He raised 9 kids. 8 girls and the last child, a son. Immigrated here from Italy. I miss him and I often pray to him to be my guardian angel. I think he listens. I still feel him around. The feeling is one of serenity.

I'm sorry for your loss, but this existence we have here, I think it isn't the end. I think there's more. Be comforted in that.

[Beware the Beast Man]

114. May he find peace.

:hug:

[BiggJawn]

116. Looks like you guys had a good life together.

Big hug, dude!

[catzies]

117. Bless you and your grandfather, here and in the hereafter.

Thank you for hsaring your beautiful story and know that you are :hug: with peace.

[beam me up scottie]

118. What a wonderful tribute to your grandfather.

I am sorry for the pain you feel but you are so incredibly lucky to have called this man Grandfather.
He is with his children who love him.
He is going out on his terms.
We should all be so lucky in the end.
Thank you for sharing your family.
Take care, Maestro.

[In_The_Wind]

121. Thank you for sharing your love of your wonderful grandfather with us.

I'm sorry that he will be passing on soon.

:hug:Maestro

[Heidi]

122. Your grandfather will pass, knowing he was

loved and respected, and that he left love and respect as his legacy. Sounds like you and he have given one another the most important gifts, Maestro. Take good care of _you_ now.

[evlbstrd]

123. In your venting, you paid a beautiful tribute to him.

I am sorry for your loss.

[barb162]

124. The picture of him in his 30s...what an incredibly handsome man

Here is what a friend told me when I was losing someone. Be glad you have been lucky enough to know this man. You received the gift of having known him and his love for many years. Imagine how your life would have been without ever knowing him. You are the better for it. I am sorry you will be losing him. He sounds like a truly wonderful man. I hope his passing is peaceful.

[fooj]

125. Maestro- your grandfather will be with you always.

When I lost my Nono and Nona (Italian) I felt so alone. I was very close to them both and when they passed (10 years apart) it was heartwrenching. As time has progressed, I realize that they are still with me in spirit. I am who I am because of who they were and what they believed. Their unconditional love and influence will be forever etched into my heart and soul. There you have it. A message of hope. I wish you peace.

Take care.:hug:

[Floogeldy]

126. Death is perfectly natural.

It is a part of life. Embrace it. Celebrate him. Believe. Grief is the most selfish of all emotions.

Grandpa will be all right. ;)

[Lindsey]

128. Maestro.imho, grief is an emotion that you have EVERY right to

experience (I had to say that). What a wonderful tribute to an obviously beautiful man - wow - what a looker he was! He sounds beautiful in many, many ways. I too am glad that you were able to spend time with him as an adult. I lost my precious grandmother when I was 30 and we could talk about anything. I also learned so very much from her. I think you realize how lucky you've been to have had him -bless you and all of your family. Take care and know that your DU family is thinking of you.

[Floogeldy]

130. I agree we all have a "right" to experience grief.

:)

[Redstone]

180. Then why the hell did you say it is selfish?

What's so hard about giving a fellow DUer some unconditional emotional support, without being negative or critical?

Is that too much to ask? Jesus.

Maestro, grieve as you wish. It's not selfish. It's human.

Redstone

[Floogeldy]

186. Professionals agree.

Grief is the most selfish emotion we humans experience. That is because we feel sorry for ourselves. The now dead person is not going to be with us on the human plane, where we want them and needed them.

Naturally, we all grieve. It is also a natural part of life. But, mostly, we are thinking of ourselves; not the deceased. The deceased is fine, as are all others from Earth who have predeceased us.

Hopefully, someday, you will grow into understanding this reality.

Sincerely,

Floog

[Redstone]

212. I'm sure that Maestro has been greatly comforted

by your Psych 101 lecture.

Redstone

[Floogeldy]

223. I hope so.

And how many "I'm so sorry's" from strangers did it take for Maestro to suddenly feel comforted?

I really don't mind if want to stroke Maestro, or yourself. Have at it.

:)

[Maestro]

227. Hey I really appreciate your sentiments in this thread

and at this time as many "I'm sorrys" as possible helps me. I really don't know why but it helps me grieve. I'm not looking for strokes or anything like that. I simply posted this out of need to express my grief. I sincerely hope you don't see this as a pity party. That wasn't my attention, really.

[Floogeldy]

229. No way.

I do not pity you. I admire you. :)

You have respected and honored your grandfather, as it should be. You care. That is all that matters.

And you have shared it with us. It is an education.

Thank you.

[AwakeAtLast]

127. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you and your family.

I know you said you were not taking this well, but you are doing what most people do when a loved one is dying, so that means that you are healthy! Celebrating the life and not dwelling on their death is a great way to cope. My heart goes out to you. May you find comfort knowing that he will be with his beloved again. Thank you for such a moving post that reminds us all about how important our families are.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Maestro]

129. I would like to personally thank all of you again

Your words have been inspirational and extremely helpful to me. My daughter just asked me when Big Papaw will be well again. I told her soon, very soon. I also want to thank those that nominated this thread. I just noticed this. It shows what a caring community you are to nominate nothing more than a personal thread to the Greatest section of a political website. Thank you.

[UrbScotty]

150. Yes, he will be well again soon.

:hug:

[Maestro]

151. I suppose death can be liberating.

Still hurts those who are left here.

[peacebuzzard]

131. Maestro, you gave the greatest eulogy to your mentor...

thank you for letting us know how your grandfather lived. What a fine hero and example to us all striving to live the right way. I am so sorry for your sadness at this hour. My deepest regards to your grandfather for living an exemplary life, and I hope he finds comfort and peace of mind at this hour.

[Maestro]

134. I am sure he does Peacebuzzard.

He is peacefully resting waiting for death to come. He has loved ones by him and some very caring hospice nurses.

[fortyfeetunder]

132. Thanks for the wonderful tribute!

Be sure to print this out and display for your family.

My condolences on your sad observance. May your grandfather have peace in his final days, in accordance with his wishes.

And for you Maestro, :hug:

[Historic NY]

133. Its hard to know a loved one is passing.......

Maestro, I know the pain & frustration, there is nothing you can do he is in the hand of his maker. I wish there was more I could tell you that would ease you mind or to make this all go away. It will be what it will be. I went through this with my uncle in Dec. he lived with me and when my father passed took both my brother & myself in as his own. Those last days were an emotional roller coaster. I tried to busy myself with other family & friends that came to visit. I sometimes think I picked up the old Italian food trait. Making sure everyone had something to eat or drink. I didn't know what else to do, but took some ease in knowing it comforted everyone else. He went peacefully with family at his side. He would have been 91yrs old, a long life too, his mother my grandmother made 98. The Hospice people are wonderful take advantage of their love & support. I don't know how they do it but they do, with tenderness & mercy. Your G.F. sounds much like my uncle a kind and soft spoken gentle man who never got mad. Get some rest...even if its a fit-full rest..your venting is natural and expected with one you love. Surely God will grant him a peaceful passing.

[Withywindle]

135. He sounds like a wonderful man...

..and he left a wonderful legacy in you.

I wish a peaceful journey to him, and joyous reunions to your entire family on the other side. :hi:

[driver8]

136. Maestro, I am so sorry...but that is an amazing tribute that you

wrote for an amazing man. I'm sure your grandfather would be pleased...

My thoughts are with you.

[SunDrop23]

137. Sorry to hear that...

Thanks for sharing the pictures and narrative.

[nuxvomica]

138. A fine tribute, Maestro

Peace to you and your granddad.

[mdmc]

139. peace and low stress

bro!

[Carni]

140. So sorry about your loss

This story reminded me of my own Grandfather. He owned a store and I used to hang out there too as a kid in the 60's and early 70's.
He died about 22 years ago and I still miss him :(

[Jack Rabbit]

141. Hail and farewell

You are lucky to have had such a man as part of your life.

[immoderate]

145. A nice tribute.

Looks like a good life.

--IMM

[frictionlessO]

146. All my empathy... truly. My wifes Dad was an old oil worker.

Your grandfather really reminds me of him. Good luck in moving through this period in your life and remember this thread if you get a little down.

peace to you and yours...

[yellerpup]

149. He's going out the way he wanted...

If you have to go, that's the way to do it. My condolences. You were beautiful together and because of your love for each other, his legacy will never die.:hug:

[Daphne08]

153. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Maestro

Your grandfather was fortunate to have such a devoted grandson.

[IChing]

154. great fotos memories of your grandfather, my condolences

He got to see you grow up into a fine person.

[Maestro]

155. My mom just called.

We've been givin the 48 hours notice by the doctors. This is really hitting home now. I feel so empty. My mother did say he was comfortable, peaceful and in no way shape or form agitated. I really admire my mom for being so strong during this time. There was a quiver in her voice. In fact, she seems almost happy and at peace with what is happening.

[meganmonkey]

157. You and your family are all in my prayers

Thank you for sharing all of this with all of us.

I hope your grandfather and the rest of your family all find peace.

O8)

[Maestro]

160. Thank so much.

I'm trying to keep busy tonight. I can't really sleep as you can probably tell from the hour of this post, but I am working on a paper for my new certification at my job, listening to music, playing with the kids and posting humorous posts here to pass the time. You guys have been great.

[auntAgonist]

158. I have no wisdom

only profound sadness for what you're going through.

:hug:

I'm so sorry.

[Maestro]

161. Don't worry aA.

You have been very helpful. :hug:

[Dervill Crow]

159. Your mom probably is happy that he is peaceful and comfortable.

When my mom died, a friend of mine simply said, "It will get better." It does. I'm certainly not religious in the Christian sense of the word, and I'm not delusional, but I can feel my parents' presence at times. I don't think loved ones ever truly leave as long as we have our memories and our love for them.

Thank you for posting the pictures of your family and the wonderful tribute to your grandfather. I don't know what else to say except I hope the journey is easy for him and you can find some comfort.

[Maestro]

162. From what my mother says his journey is indeed easy

Eventually I will find some comfort in that. In fact, I am right now, but I guess I still feel a little mad that he is being taken away. I suppose that is normal from what I have read.

[Dervill Crow]

163. Yep, that's right.

And your mom will probably fall apart later. I felt the same way when my mom passed, back and forth between relief and grief and anger, and then eventually it was not good, but okay.

[Maestro]

164. I've got a lot to work out then.

And with school starting soon, I am going to be very busy. Ugh!

[Mnemosyne]

165. I'm sorry for your pain Maestro. n/t

[Maestro]

171. Thanks

I'm doing better today but I am trying to stay busy. I have some work to do for my job so that is keeping me busy.

[Mnemosyne]

195. How are things today Maestro?

What a wonderful gift you have given us by sharing this beautiful man's life and his passing with us here!

You have brought memories back for many of us.

My grandfathers all passed quickly, there was no time to say goodbye, I am so glad you have had this time.

I realize that there isn't much time left before he goes and wish you strength in your wait, in the end all that matters is the love we have given and received. Your Papaw has had a blessed life with much love.

What an empty space you will have in your heart when he goes, but it will keep filling with all the beautiful memories and after awhile it will get easier to bear.

He sounds like such a beautiful soul.

I hope you are hanging in there today. Please let us know how it is going for you and your loved ones throughout this hard time. I know we are "strangers", but you and your Papaw have touched my heart. Know we are here as much as you need to share and grieve. Share your grief with your children, it will help them learn more of love.

Let us know how you are doing, please Maestro. Our hearts are with you.:hug:

[Maestro]

207. I just found out he passed on.

Your words are so kind. We are indeed "strangers" but I can't tell you how much your words and the words of all others in this thread have helped. I am really hurting now since I have just found out and now I have to scramble to be able to attend the funeral.

[Mnemosyne]

213. So sorry Maestro, a great man has left the Earth. Please

know my heart is with you and your loved ones this week. We lost my Dad last year and I empathize deeply with your sadness. He's hanging out with your Grandma now and freer than he's been in the years he was fading.

Vicki :cry: :hug:

[Tsiyu]

166. Very touching tribute to your grandfather

I'm glad someone like him lived a beautifully long life.

I wish he could give us all the secrets to staying calm. ;)

:hug:

[Maestro]

172. Thank you sincerely

I am also glad he lived a long life. I hope to live as long and try to emulate his character more.

[Terran]

167. My sincere sympathy for you.

I have to say, you made a great post. It's a beautiful trubute to a man you loved and admired, and I feel privileged to have seen and read it.

I know it's hard to lose him, but you'll always have your memories of him. And they will grow even sweeter with time, you can trust me on that one. It's how I got through losing my father at the young age of 72.

[Maestro]

173. Thanks Terran

I'm glad you enjoyed reading it. I enjoyed writing it.

[5thGenDemocrat]

168. He looks like a grand old man

And he had a very cool gas station, which is important. He lived a long and, I am certain, happy life and thanks for sharing his story with us.
Our condolences to you.
John (and Polly)
Polly lived in Juarez for a year, BTW. Was your grandpa in or near El Paso, by chance?

[Maestro]

174. Thanks

He lived on the border the Eagle Pass/Piedras Negras area; not Juarez although I have been there too.

[ThoughtCriminal]

169. He sounds like "The Richest Man in Town" nt

[Maestro]

175. Definitely! -nt

[PittPoliSci]

181. i'm so sorry...

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Maestro]

193. Thanks for taking the time to post.

I sincerely appreciate it.

[bliss_eternal]

182. I'm so sorry--thank you for sharing something so personal

w/all of us here on DU!

The pictures are so lovely and touching...

:hug:

[Maestro]

192. Thank you

This thread has been very therapeutic for me. You people are fantastic and kind hearted but we all knew that already.

[linazelle]

183. What a beautiful man and a beautiful family.

Your story reminds me of my grandad who died at age 88 in 2000. He was also very a very handsome, gentle man.

*Sigh*

Losing the people of your grandfather and my grandfather's era is like losing a national treasure.

Cherish the memories and thanks for sharing them with us.

[Maestro]

191. He had some of the greatest stories

In his old age he started to repeat more and more of them as if it were the first time he had told it, but I never got bored.

[Bucky]

185. Thank you so much for sharing this.

I know you're struggling right now. But it's so clear from the post and from the pictures that you're a lucky guy for having your grandfather in your life. The resemblance between you in that photo and the large shot of him right above it is really striking--they eyes, the jaw, the chin. It's a tough time and I'll put him and you in my prayers. But I know you must know how lucky you are.

[Maestro]

190. I am going to take that as a huge

compliment. My parents have always said I favor that side of the family physically. Thanks for taking the time to make me feel better.

[goclark]

187. What A Man! Our prayers are with you and

your family.

Thank you for sharing your memories in pictures and in words.


Hugs!

[Maestro]

189. You are so thoughtful.

Thank you for taking the time to acknowledge this thread. I hope somehow my grandfather knows about this thread.

[goclark]

194. My favorite aunt passed peacefully in her sleep

I was in California and she was in Baltimore.
She had a wonderful doctor that told me that she would get in touch with me by phone when she felt that the time was near.

She alerted me and asked that I call the room and have the Nurse/family put the phone to my aunts ear.

The doctor told me to talk to my aunt and "give her permission to pass on." At first when she told me that I could not bare the thought of letting her go.

But, they put the phone up to her ear and I started pouring my heart out to her...telling how how much I loved her,how good she was to all of us, that God would take good care of her and that God loved her!"

My mom was on the other end of the phone at our house , she started softly telling our aunt sweet things that she remembered from childhood, about the family and how much her sisters and brothers LOVE her.

Then I don't know what came over me but I said, "God is waiting for you, his arms are wide open and he loves you so much. You are in his loving hands."

The nurse/family gently took the phone away from her ear and they said,"She smiled!"

She lived about 3 hours longer but I always felt that she passed in peace and knowing how much we loved her.

The memory of it still gives me comfort.

Our prayers are with you during this time of memories and sorrow.

[Maestro]

200. Oh that is sweet. I'm in tears right now.

I have not heard the details but my grandfather has just passed. I hope it was as peaceful I just couldn't say goodbye. He had the stroke and went unconcious before I could talk to him.

[goclark]

217. Hold tight to the memories Blessings

[Maestro]

197. Guys, he has passed on.

It happened early this morning and I was already at work. I just walked in and my wife told me. I'm devastated and numb. Thank you again for all who have taken the time to post in this thread. It shows what first class people everyone here at DU are.

Papaw, wherever you are, I hope you are happy and comfortable. I love you and I will miss you so much. Please tell Mamaw hello and that I miss her too.

Your nephew

Stephen

[blondeatlast]

198. Maestro, my friend, I'm so sorry. Take care.

:hug:

[bigwillq]

199. I'm so sorry Maestro.

My thoughts are with you and your family.:hug:

[blondeatlast]

201. I've started a condolence thread here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x3773757

God bless you and your family, guy.

[Maestro]

205. You are too kind.

Really, you are. :hug:

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

206. I'm so terribly sorry, Maestro

It's never easy to lose a family member, especially one who's as beloved and essential as your grandfather. Your beautiful tribute moved me to tears. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Redstone]

210. I'll play that song for him (and you) again.

Our thoughts are with you and your family.

Redstone

[Maestro]

222. Please do.

That song was just perfect for the situation.

[smbolisnch]

214. Oh no. I am so sorry Maestro.

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[MissWaverly]

215. I am so sorry, please take it easy

thank you for sharing your grandfather with us, you should print out your stories and make an album to be handed down in your family, you
made it all so real in your posts, history usually gives me the hives
unless it's about Teddy Roosevelt.

[Maestro]

225. I've already printed parts of this thread and bookmarked it.

You are a big part of making this thread an extremely positive experience for me. DUers in general continue to amaze me. And freepers call us freaks. Whatever, we are more human than they ever would or could be.

[MissWaverly]

236. Thank you, DU has become my neighborhood since Nov 2nd

I used to read Doohickey's thread every night for those dark days after the election, if I have helped you then it was just my chance to give back. Just take it day by day, there is no fast or easy answer to losing someone you love.

[auntAgonist]

228. May you find comfort

in the love you shared, please accept my sincerest condolences to you and your family.


:hug:

kesha.

[nothingshocksmeanymore]

231. Glad we could be of some comfort to you

Big hugs to you and your family :hug:

[IChing]

202. kick

the pictures are worth the kick

[Maestro]

221. Thanks IChing

I'm glad you enjoyed the pictures. They do help me. I could look at them on my computer but for some reason sharing them helps me more.

[peacebird]

204. I'm so sorry, may the wonderful memories you have bring you peace

He has lived a full life, and obviously has been well loved! You are blessed to have had him for so long! And he was blessed to have had a grandson who so loved him!

May he be at peace, and may you remember him with love and joy. Your tribute touched me deeply, you and your family are very strong to be able to allow him HIS choice regarding death. It takes bravery to let someone you love pass, instead of trying what they call "heroic" measures to extend their suffering.

I know the pain. Be strong for him, but come here and let us offer you shoulders, and ears, and comfort. You are not alone.

peace,
marianne

[Spirochete]

208. I wish

we could keep them all around forever, like I thought we could when I was the age of the kid in the first picture.
Sorry about your grandfather. Quite a life - 96 years, almost! A lot of people have had the pleasure of knowing him in that amount of time.

[MrScorpio]

209. My dearest condolences, Maestro

You have lost a great friend and inspiration and the world has lost a shining light.

May he rest in peace.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

211. What a wonderful tribute!

I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug:

[Maestro]

220. Thanks Kathy

Hey maybe now you understand why I am so passionate in those immigration threads. ;)

[AlienGirl]

216. You have my sympathies

:hug:

[Bombero1956]

218. my sincerest sympathies to you

and your entire family. I know its small comfort, but remember that your grandfather lives on through you and your children and so in a way he will never die. He was a good man and that is what this world needs more now than ever before. Take all he taught you and pass it along to your children and all you hold dear.

[GOPNotForMe]

219. My condolences.

Losing someone is pretty much the hardest thing out there.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

224. My deepest sympathy, Maestro...

You've created a beautiful tribute to him with your pictures and words. Write as much as you need to help you through this difficult time. I hope your grandfather's exit from this realm is as painless as possible.

:hug:

[Maestro]

226. It was.

He went peacefully at around 5:00 this morning. I will be soon be seeing him again at the end of the week to say goodbye.

[Schema Thing]

230. My condolences Maestro. What a fine tribute.

I can see the family resemblance between you two, even with his age.

[stevans_41902]

232. Thank you for the wonderful tribute to your grandfather - made me cry

because it reminded me of how tough it is to lose a loved one. My grandfather died at the age of 72 in 1999. Whenever something happens in my life or i need someone to talk to, i get sad because he is no longer there for me and he was a wonderful person who always seemed to understand me when nobody else could. I hope he can see me today and knows what has happened in my life. I completely understand how you are feeling in regards to not knowing if there is an afterlife - i believe it makes death much harder to go through when you do not know if you believe there is something waiting for us. My thoughts are with you tonight:hug:

[Maestro]

234. Thank you so much Stevans

With the help of DU, it is getting easier.

[Maestro]

233. Thanks

That is a great compliment.

[alphafemale]

235. A life well lived. What a great legacy he left for generations.

[grace0418]

237. Thank you Maestro for your tribute. It brought a tear to my eye. I'm

so sorry for your pain. Your grandpa sounds wonderful. I never had a grandpa and was always jealous of those who did. I'm glad you were able to be with him as long as you were.

And, maybe this isn't the right time to say but, that picture of you in front of his gas station is so freaking adorable. You must've gotten your cheeks pinched all the time when you were little!