Reply #218: I didn't get it at first either

[knightmaar]

If you're a man and you don't get it like I didn't get it, then you're probably thinking "What the hell? I don't rape women. What is this crap? Why are you lecturing me?"

The point isn't to point fingers at all men. It feels that way sometimes, but - and I'll be quite frank here - you're being oversensitive just like women are always accused of being. (Maybe it's your time of month?)

The point is to make you sit up and realize what it's like to be a woman. That's a really hard thing to take on board and it's not something you can actually achieve.

When you walk across a parking lot late at night, do you carry a cup of hot coffee in case you have to throw it in an attacker's face? Do you lace your keys between your fingers in case you have to stab somebody with them?

The idea, as far as I can tell, is to try to get men to understand what it's like to be a woman receiving these reams of advice that tell her, basically, that there are hoards of rapists out there and - furthermore - if the woman is raped, people are going to blame her if her behaviour wasn't exemplary.