Reply #24: xmas74

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xmas74

Im sorry to hear about our aunt.. The best advice is maybe to let her go, and defrind/block her from ever communicate to you again.. I had to do it with my own big sister this summer.. After he got togheter with her new boyfriend, she have been "little better than everyone else" even tho she work in a supermarked, and he is just a car mechanic.. And the familiy is just farmers, nothing more important.. She have to kids with him, and to with the EX, who at least had good education, but I guess it wasen't easy to live with my sister.. She can be some of a "handfull" when in bad mood.. And she often IS in bad mood... After she got with her new boyfriend, she have visited me 3 times, in a 5 year timeframe.. And the 3 times it was just becouse she wanted me to be babysitting her oldst kids.. Now I guess thats is out of the questning...

Oh, wel, at least I have a younger brother (who is over 30) who Im friend with, and who I guess never wil do the same as my sister.. I just wonder why she is doing this to us.. Just becouse we dosen't have a kabin, or a farm, or are rich, we are not worthless... Before she got into "money" she was a great sister.. After she got into this, she act and have allways acted as a bitch who dosen't want to have anything with us to be...

So, my best advice is to tell her, either stop it, or you wil unfrind her, and block anymore communication with her.. Familiy is important (i know) but when members are acting like your aunt it is maybe better to leave her alone.. And live your life as you want it. To accept this is maybe worse than to tell here to show it.. Sometimes to forgive your aunt is not enough.. She might be happy with her new life.. But you should not let her destroy YOUR life. Then it is better to let it go, and live your life, as you want to do it.. When she might get into her own again, she can communicate and talk to you again, as grown ups..

Or, in a last tempt effort.. Tell here in the scripture where it is clear that it is not up to US humans, to jugde others.. It tend to help. My dad was fluent in the bible, and he often could destroy "fanatical ones" by stating where in the bible sitations was.. My uncle was far better, but then he also was studying the bible more than my father ever did.. (Not my sisters familiy by the way, she had just contemt for my side of the family) Mostly becouse my side of the family was not "good enough".. So I guess the break up had been in the seems for years before this summer..

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