Reply #7: My dad spanked, my Mom didn't

[SoutherDem]

My father died when I was eleven. Did I love him? Yes. Did it crush me when he died? Yes. But, today I will more quickly remember the spankings (usually with a belt) than I do the good times we had. Three years ago when facing major anxiety attacks I started seeing a psychologist. She within two visits started focusing on my father's and my relationship. I felt she was looking in the wrong direction, I thought it was the new VP at work. After I came to grips with issues with my father, without anything changing at work my anxiety attacks got better then all but went away (today I may have one or two per year). My mother who didn't ever hit me could control me with a few simple words, usually something like "I am disappointed in you", my mother is still alive and I have to really work hard to think of a bad time with my mother, yet the good time can fill a book.
Having no children I am often corrected for having an opinion on the subject, basically I am told until you have one of the little terrors of your own keep your mouth shut. But I can't but believe if you start young enough and are consistent spanking is not needed.