Reply #18: Very nice apology, but it bugs me.

[flying_monkeys]

I am reading it and feeling a great "distancing" in there, a gaping separation from their son. Perhaps I am accenting certain words wrong in my interpretation, but "unspeakable actions" and "a horrible and senseless act" - - I dunno, they could have made a statement without condemnation of their son/brother.

What would have been wrong with just
"Our family is so very sorry for my brother's actions. It is a terrible tragedy for all of us,"

"We pray for their families and loved ones who are experiencing so much excruciating grief. And we pray for those who were injured and for those whose lives are changed forever because of what they witnessed and experienced."

"Each of these people had so much love, talent and gifts to offer, and their lives were cut short."


I feel a lot of sympathy for this family (and have for a while) but this reads like they threw him under the wheels of the bus after his death and I wonder if their attitude toward him during his life was similar? I can't imagine my parents talking this way even if I had done something so horrific as to kill 32 innocent people.... I can't see them doing that kind of distancing (yes, I know, partially cultural perhaps).

eh, I'm overloaded on the Cho story - - time to go out for dinner!