Reply #180: Unless You Have Lived This You Should Never Criticize

[sandyj999]

No one knows what this is like unless you have lived through it. There are sometimes too many old feelings of resentment that make a son or daughter unable to be a proper caregiver. Sometimes everyone involved is better served by professionals that are trained in this field and more objective. When my dad stayed with us it was a struggle, it was two generations clashing. He had always been controlling and in my early 40's I was no longer allowing him to do that. You know the saying, "my house my rules".

As his health declined and he became more difficult he moved into assisted living. That is where he needed to be because they were trained in the care of the elderly and I wasn't. It was the best for all of us concerned. So unless you have gone through this with happy results, don't criticize.