Reply #95: You just have to love the lies and the liars. Not really.

[rebel with a cause]

What a wonderful world it would be if people would not lie for their own selfish reasons and destroy those who love them. Over time you will learn that this is not a person you can really love because his love for himself far out weighs any he can feel for you or this other woman.

When I told my ex that I no longer wanted to be with him, he told me that he thought that no matter what he did to me that I would always be there for him. There was no other man in my life, I just couldn't go on living with his lies and abuse.

And this I add for all the people who are going through break-ups right now. Sometimes what we think is love is a dependency, and an unhealthy co-dependency can be the worst thing you can have in a relationship. When the person you are with does not love you enough to make your needs important, then they do not love you enough for you to care that they are no longer there. You deserve better than what they are giving you.

I say this after seventeen years divorced and with no desire for another man in my life. I cannot personnaly trust anyone enough to give any control of my life to them, and I find I am happier now that I am on my own. This is just me. To the rest of you, get healthy before you look for another relationship because it will be better for you in the long run. My ex is in another marriage and from what I have heard he is repeating the same old behaviors/mistakes. That sure makes me feel better. :evilgrin:

These are all just my ramblings, hope they make some sense. :9