Reply #202: Whatever choice you make, I wish you the courage to accept yourself and to

[JDPriestly]

remember that you have a lot to be thankful for. For one thing, you write well. You seem like a very intelligent person. So, enjoy that.

Oh, you know some more ideas I have: if you can, you might enjoy planting a garden or having a few house plants to feed around you. Also, try to make or do things that make you feel beautiful. Get a make-up specialist to help you out. Explore color and what really goes with your eyes and skin.

Notice whether you have reddish, orangeish, pinkish undertone or whether your skin is not any of those colors. It doesn't make any difference what race you are. I'm not talking about the color of the skin. I'm talking about the red undertone that is in that color. Wear red, orange or pink that matches that color and if you have no particular undertone in the red group, wear primary red. Also, match the colors you wear to your eyes. If you have brown eyes and the undertone of your skin is red, you may look very good in some shades of browns. Look at paintings and see what colors go together.

Be your most beautiful you and don't worry about the rest.

It seems to me that losing weight is not really your problem. You need to really do things that make you look beautiful. I got a lot of help from a wonderful colorist. If I can, I will send you some information about her in a private communication. She believes that every woman is beautiful. She doesn't care about your weight or anything else, she knows how to make you look and feel beautiful.