Reply #1: Raising a civilized adult is a tough job

[Warpy]

and a critique of other parenting styles is part of it.

Don't take it personally.

I know a couple, still married, of the housedaddy and the working wife variety. Their daughter is a truly wonderful adult.

Still, I remember all the criticism they had to endure 30 years ago when they decided that was the arrangement that would work best for them.

Whatever works for you is whatever works for you. My suggestion is to take what you can use and dump the rest.