Reply #17: I know the discussion is about how it would be a win/win for everyone involved, but

[pipi_k]

feelings certainly do enter into it.

The position, "My body, my choice" is number one.

Others have already stated that.

I merely came at this from another angle...feelings. I don't care what anyone claims about how, as the OP stated:

"Everyone wins , the mother has nothing to do with the undesired infant , will not even know its identity"


Many women who give their babies up for adoption soon after birth also don't know their identity...yet, having known that one's body provided the environment...or, at the very least, the virtual Petrie dish, for another life, it's not all that easy to just put the issue from one's mind.

This is something that I do not believe men can, or ever will, fully understand.


Also, I do not think it's true that "everyone wins".

Sometimes the biggest losers in this whole thing are the kids.

Plus...and this disturbs me greatly...what about women who have multiple children whom she never meets, and who do not know each other...

What if, by some chance, a half brother and half sister meet and fall in love and marry? Or they could even be full blood siblings if the fathers are the same.

Are people prepared for DNA gathering and databases so people don't end up marry their own siblings? Who ends up "winning" if two people already meet and marry and only later on find out they're siblings? How many lives get ruined that way?

That's one of the reasons I don't really care for anonymous adoption. Yeah, everyone "wins" there except for unsuspecting people who might fall in love only to discover they're brother and sister.