Reply #8: There is a difference between "getting out"

[EFerrari]

which assumes wrongly that by "getting out" YOU and YOURS will no longer be at risk, and actually dealling with the situation in a realistic way which may, just may, result in a bettering of everyone's situation.

Another way to look: Had I "got out", my now wonderfully functional and community serving and (did I mention) loving hubby would just be on some other doorstep.

It's like taking the grenade out of your livingroom and placing it in the middle of the street, no?

And this also speaks to the American sense of family. Do we marry each other or not? I'm no cheerleader for staying in impossible situations, but mental illness will not be resolved by more people bailing, especially when we are asked to bail on our family members. :)

/ack. h->k: it