Reply #13: assuming the child was mine (your question could be for lesbian partners)

[Lerkfish]

I'd give them my honest feelings, which would be why they're asking. Childbirth is too pivotal in a relationship for any subterfuge or punch-pulling. Try to cover up how you feel and it will be disastrous.

Now, once you have been honest, the decision about what to do should be discussed between you, but the right to make that decision should be hers.