Reply #287: My mom and sister were raped...

[BlueStorm]

I never was, thank the Divine and I hope I never will.

My mom had an abortion as a result of the rape and she is still traumatized by it. Apparently it happened in a hotel room or something.

I have actually witnessed the hurt that my sister went through when she was raped. I remember walking downstairs and seeing her in the living room chair, crying, my mother trying to console her. I was told to walk to school.

I didn't know it at the time that she was raped but I was aware that something had happened to her. I do know that it wasn't reported.

It wasn't until about two years after the incident did she tell me what happened and I will never forget the empathy that I felt.

This blaming the victim because she "dressed a certain way to entice men, was a prostitute, etc. is don't mean jack. When someone is raped, men too, it is a violation not only of the body but of the soul and mind. It is a shattering of one's self-security and it takes many years to heal.

My sister has never gone to therapy for this, but I do wonder if she relives that moment either in her waking time or in her dreams.

Like I said, I never had the misfortune of being violated, though I have come close to it, so I do understand what it is like being the victim.

Blue