Reply #14: maya angelou is wise

[yorkiemommie1]

and i agree with her.

Fortunately for us, our racial differences were never brought up by either his or my family. It has been smooth sailing all the way.

I empathize with your feelings of self-preservation and while I might extend myself a little w/ these people, I wouldn't ever let my guard down.

Sometimes when people say things, I will bring them up short w/ an 'Excuse me?'.

Sure, this adult relative might be making an effort, and insofar as s/he seems sincere, then I would try to meet them halfway but I wouldn't take it upon myself to get hurt in trying to educate them. When people make ignorant statements I always find a way to counter them; I don't get into fights or arguments but I do find something to say sooner or later.

As you can see, my feelings of self-preservation are stronger than my feelings of extending the olive branch!

Your dh sounds like a wonderful person!