Reply #1: Yes, I can relate to this.

[DemExpat]

Other than becoming a parent, which forced me to let go of this resistance to change or else create some very neurotic children, I got great solace and tips to try to see things in another perspective through meditation and books on the subject, also some New Age books in the 80's on "going with the flow", etc. Learning to feel safer, less vulnerable, and not to see all change as an onslaught on any safety one tries ot latch onto. I think as little kids some of us are much more sensitive to having a predictable and safe environment. Have you ever read the book "The Highly Sensitive Person"? Good reading there IMO.


No need to put yourself down for experiencing things this way - just observe and try to change your reaction in little daily steps. Maybe take little steps to create change yourself, so that you are not always the more passive object of the verb of changing processes and circumstances. The other extreme of this fear, of course, is trying to control everything by being a control freak over other people's actions!
Look for some balance.

Also finding interests that really inspire you help to get over passivity and become more proactive. School work is not always the most inspiring to us.........

In my youth I quit all of the studies that I started. Now, after raising my kids, I'm finally completing my dream of following a study that interests me, and in 5 months I'm done.


:hi:

DemEx