Reply #38: Very few teenagers can cope

[Demeter]

The adolescent period is difficult to begin with as ones body develops a mind of is own and the mind isn't strong enough to overcome it.

Then society lays a heavy burden on the teen and jerks it every which way. Girls are in multiple binds, and insecurity is the dress code. Girls look to fathers for security. If that security can't be found at home, a girl will look outside. Do you want to be a grandfather already? Keep pushing her away. The teen does not have responsibility for the parent, so best abandon that approach.

Teens turn to parents for guidance and support, even if it's indirectly requested. A parent has to work through the code. Love is the key.

You are her father. You don't get to resign because of ill-health. You are still supposed to be fathering to the best of your abilities. You aren't supposed to inflict all kinds of emotional stress on your child, on top of that caused by your disability.