Reply #16: Not helpful - however...

[Kittycat]

I learned about these things when I was in Jr High, maybe 12yo at best, and I went to a private Christian school (I'm currently 34, btw). Our school's biggest problem was that they never allowed us to take Sex Ed. Personally, I think having these discussions with your daughter at age 14 is too late. These are topics that need to start much sooner. Discussion about how a woman becomes a woman - even at 9yo is appropriate. Once she becomes a woman, discussions about sex, etc should start immediately. Waiting until h.s? In all honesty - it's lunchroom conversation at that point.

What I would be more concerned about, is the ease at which she started doing something with him (ie. as soon as the door closed). You can't really approach her about the diary, but I don't know... I think I might call and talk with the mother of the other boy, personally.