Reply #4: me

[mopinko]

we have been married for 20 years and have 4 kids. but, for the most part, our families do not know that we ever tied the knot. not so much thinking that marriage is stupid- it is a simple legal contract that protects me, as a full time mom, and our kids and property. mostly it had to do with refusing to ask permission and "blessing" for our relationship. we knew right away that we were going to stay together. we have hardly spent a night apart since the day we met. we got a lot of s*&^ from out families in the 2 years that we just lived together. so, we just said, fu.
i also objected to any illusion that i was any less than an autonomous person. especially since i decided to stay home to take care of the kids, that is a struggle.