Reply #113: A person DID decide

[Laurab]

Her husband. Her parent's didn't agree with the decision. Thus, he had them appoint a neutral third party. Do we also get to choose who the person is who decides, and then, if we don't like what they decide, choose someone else? When I married my husband, he became the closest member of my family. He would be the one I would entrust to decide - that's what marriage IS. You "cleave" to your husband. Not your parents, not your children.

There are shades of gray, yes. In this case, it's none of ANY of our business. It should have been kept a personal family matter - the parents chose to make it a circus. Her HUSBAND was the one who legally had the right to decide, and he did far more than many people would have done, when he thought there was still hope for her. I think you are the one who doesn't see shades of gray.

My only REAL opinion about this is that it's not our business. If we're going to make it our business, we should learn ALL the facts, not just one side or the other.