Reply #23: I am curious as to why you are defining yourself.........

[Th1onein]

based on what the opposite sex thinks of you. Get some FRIENDS, of both sexes. STOP viewing people as potential sex partners for a while, okay? I believe that the "mirror" theory of self has some veracity, although it's not the whole story. That means that what others think of you is mirrored in your own concept of yourself (at least to a degree). And it is much more difficult to be accepted as a potential sex partner (for whatever reasons), than it is to be accepted as a friend. So...until you begin to have some positive views of yourself, you don't need to jump into that fray. It is easier to have FRIENDS, and thus build up your self-esteem, to begin with. Try that, okay? It really does work.