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Jimbo S Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-16-09 08:32 AM
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34. She moved in after we were engaged.
This shows the commitment was there.

And moving in after two months? The guy sounds creepy. It was two-plus months of dating before we got comfortable enough for the sex part.
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  -As a rule of thumb, how soon is too soon to move in together? alarimer  Mar-14-09 01:31 PM   #0 
  - A good time frame is when you are ready. And if he does not give you that time, he's a creep.  Lil Missy   Mar-14-09 01:34 PM   #1 
  - If you have to ask, it's too soon, IMO  Richardo   Mar-14-09 01:34 PM   #2 
  - I think you are right.  alarimer   Mar-14-09 01:43 PM   #6 
  - And maybe someday they might just....hold hands in public (giggle)  Taverner   Mar-17-09 10:46 AM   #39 
  - Before you want him/her there is too early, no matter what he/she feels/says/assures you.  Heidi   Mar-14-09 01:36 PM   #3 
  - He's gotta put a ring on it before he moves in  cherish44   Mar-14-09 01:38 PM   #4 
  - Part of me is afraid that I will never be able to live with anyone ever.  alarimer   Mar-14-09 01:42 PM   #5 
  - If that's you, why fear it?  WinkyDink   Mar-16-09 07:59 AM   #30 
  - Beyonce? n/t  Yavin4   Mar-14-09 06:05 PM   #18 
  - He sounds kind of pushy  MorningGlow   Mar-14-09 03:53 PM   #7 
  - I agree with the three-month rule.  alarimer   Mar-14-09 05:37 PM   #11 
  - Two months sounds too soon.  CJCRANE   Mar-14-09 04:54 PM   #8 
  - I think so too.  alarimer   Mar-14-09 05:38 PM   #12 
  - It depends on the couple. But if you weren't ready, he should've respected that  Lex   Mar-14-09 05:00 PM   #9 
  - You won't have to ask anybody when the "real deal" comes along.  BlueJazz   Mar-14-09 05:03 PM   #10 
  - I am not sure I agree.  alarimer   Mar-14-09 05:40 PM   #14 
  - That's entirely possible. I was hit by Lightning..The real shitty Kind.  BlueJazz   Mar-14-09 09:36 PM   #25 
  - Well, if it worked out, good for them.  raccoon   Mar-16-09 08:07 AM   #31 
  - maybe he's the problem, sounds like it to me.  AlCzervik   Mar-14-09 05:39 PM   #13 
  - If he pressured you to move in then you made the right decision NOT to do it.  davsand   Mar-14-09 05:45 PM   #15 
  - When the lease is up  dkofos   Mar-14-09 05:51 PM   #16 
  - Don't do it the way I did it  SPKrazy   Mar-14-09 05:52 PM   #17 
  - if you love him and it feels right  backwoodsbob   Mar-14-09 06:07 PM   #19 
  - It depends. You have to trust your heart on matters like these.  Mike 03   Mar-14-09 06:10 PM   #20 
  - This is his loss. If he can not get past that then you guys will never  Tuesday Afternoon   Mar-14-09 06:17 PM   #21 
  - An ex joke!  Resuscitated Ethics   Mar-14-09 06:54 PM   #22 
  - Maybe I'm a hopeless romantic, but I think these things just have a  Critters2   Mar-14-09 06:59 PM   #23 
  - Ever. (n/t)  Iggo   Mar-14-09 07:18 PM   #24 
  - Unless you are dating a homeless gut two months is way to soon  Lost in CT   Mar-14-09 10:59 PM   #26 
  - Listen to the little voice in your head.  BarenakedLady   Mar-14-09 11:04 PM   #27 
  - You should be together at least a year!  stewartcolbert08   Mar-16-09 05:25 AM   #28 
  - He sounds like a controlling type. "Dear Abby" just listed "too much, too soon" as one sign.  WinkyDink   Mar-16-09 07:57 AM   #29 
  - There is no rule of thumb. Just whenever it feels right.  Lil Missy   Mar-16-09 08:21 AM   #32 
  - If you have to post that question on an online webform - then it's too soon  LynneSin   Mar-16-09 08:23 AM   #33 
  - She moved in after we were engaged.  Jimbo S   Mar-16-09 08:32 AM   #34 
  - When it feels right.  malta blue   Mar-16-09 08:53 AM   #35 
  - a year-ish. though lisa and i moved in earlier than that  La Lioness Priyanka   Mar-16-09 09:04 AM   #36 
  - My girlfriend and I moved in together after 3 years, and even then as a trial gig  DFW   Mar-16-09 09:16 AM   #37 
  - depends on the people/situation.  unpossibles   Mar-16-09 04:53 PM   #38 
  - You know when you know. I was once bitten, twice shy.  Dora   Mar-17-09 01:13 PM   #40 
  - He's just using that as an excuse. If you had moved in, you'd  amitten   Mar-17-09 01:19 PM   #41 
  - What does a lesbian always bring on a second date?  Roon   Mar-17-09 01:25 PM   #42 
  - Maybe he wanted someone to pick up dirty socks.  Sequoia   Mar-17-09 01:41 PM   #43 

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